Aknowledgments
T HE AUTHOR would like to thank the following people for their invaluable assistance with this book.
My agents Elizabeth Frost Knappman and Ed Knappman, for tirelessly finding good homes for my work, supporting me through the writing process, and cheering me on.
My editor Andrew Richter, who braved the dangerous highways to get to meetings with me, recommended excellent additions to the book, and always called with good news.
Laura Shmidt and Tara Bruno, for quickly and efficiently researching and delivering their material.
All of the many wedding vendors who contributed their advice and demonstrated once again why they are the best in their business: Steve Blahitka of Back East Productions, Rich Penrose of Dean Michaels Studios, Angela Lanzafame of The Potted Geranium, and all of the others.
To my parents, for helping me plan just about every special event in my life.
To my grandmother Rose, for the whispered inspirations.
And to Irene Blahitka, who lives on in art and memories.
A LSO BY S HARON N AYLOR
The Grooms Guide
Its My Wedding Too
Its Not My Wedding (But Im in Charge)
Mother of the Groom
The Ultimate Wedding Registry Workbook
Whats Your Bridal Style
About the Author
S HARON N AYLOR is the author of over 35 wedding books and an acclaimed expert on the subject of tying the knot in style. She has served as the iVillage wedding expert and blogger, host of Here Come the Moms on Wedding Podcast Network, the Bridal Guide budget expert with a new e-mail-a-day feature, wedding advice guru at Weddzilla.com, consultant to Bed Bath & Beyond, contributing editor to Southern Bride, and contributor to numerous bridal magazines. She has been a frequent guest on Martha Stewart Weddings on Sirius Satellite Radio and on TV shows including Good Morning America, ABC News, Get Married, I Do! with The Knot, and Lifetime. She has been featured in InStyle Weddings, Modern Bride, Brides, Bridal Guide, Hallmark, Redbook, Martha Stewart Weddings, The Wall Street Journal, Glamour, Marie Claire, and many other publications. She lives in the New York City area. For more information, visit her at www.sharonnaylor.net .
About the Author
S HARON N AYLOR is the author of over 35 wedding books and an acclaimed expert on the subject of tying the knot in style. She has served as the iVillage wedding expert and blogger, host of Here Come the Moms on Wedding Podcast Network, the Bridal Guide budget expert with a new e-mail-a-day feature, wedding advice guru at Weddzilla.com, consultant to Bed Bath & Beyond, contributing editor to Southern Bride, and contributor to numerous bridal magazines. She has been a frequent guest on Martha Stewart Weddings on Sirius Satellite Radio and on TV shows including Good Morning America, ABC News, Get Married, I Do! with The Knot, and Lifetime. She has been featured in InStyle Weddings, Modern Bride, Brides, Bridal Guide, Hallmark, Redbook, Martha Stewart Weddings, The Wall Street Journal, Glamour, Marie Claire, and many other publications. She lives in the New York City area. For more information, visit her at www.sharonnaylor.net .
Worksheets
Phone Call Records
Confirmation Worksheet
Contact List
DIY Project Worksheet
Delegation List
Shopping List
Rentals Needed
Authors Closing Notes
T HERE WILL BE a million details, a million little problems, a million joys and memories. Planning a wedding is one of the largest undertakings you may experience in your life, and its a big job that will be worth every moment of worrying, hassling, and hoping.
In the end, what matters is that your daughter is married to her true love. Youve helped her put together the wedding of her dreams, and these memories will last a lifetime for both of you.
I hope youll always remember to enjoy the process. Savor the moments. Be proud that you were able to give your daughter the wedding of her dreams. So many parents, for some reason or another, simply cannot. And you have been graced with the honor and ability to give your child what so many parents only wish they could.
Make the day one of pure joy and celebration of love.
Youre going to be wonderful, Mom.
At all times, ask, Is this what the bride wants?
Shea, bride
The best you can do is all you can do. So just hope for the best always, and make everything into a positive.
Joanne, mother of the bride
Your Role as Mother of the Bride
O NCE THE INITIAL EXCITEMENT of the announcement wears off, youll start to realize that Mother of the Bride is not just a title. Its an actual role with a list of responsibilities and dos and donts. Theres much more to it than just looking lovely in a pale pink dress in the first row at the ceremony.
So just whats involved in the new title thats been bestowed upon you? What exactly is your role as mother of the bride? Unfortunately, its not always as clear-cut as that of the bride or the groom. The details of the position vary widely from wedding to wedding: some mothers run the show, from making financial decisions to choosing colors to drawing up the bulk of the guest list. Some hand over a blank check and show up smiling on the wedding day. Some just show up smiling on the wedding day.
Clearly, a major break has occurred in recent times from the traditional role of the mother of the bride. Bridal guidebooks from past decades list the jobs that were to be taken on by the mother of the bride. If you look at a 1950s guidebook, the list is tremendously long. Todays bridal guidebooks and bridal magazines offer the following list, always with the caveat that the selections are purely optional. The list is merely a jumping-off point, with individual duties to be discussed by the bride and her mom.