Jennifer L. FitzPatrick - Cruising through Caregiving: Reducing the Stress of Caring for Your Loved One

Cruising through Caregiving offers support and practical ideas, including how to help from a distance, how to avoid making false promises, and how to manage financial impact. This is a useful resource from someone with vast experience, both as a gerontologist and a caregiver.

Kimberly Williams-Paisley, Actor & New York Times best-selling author of Where the Light Gets In

Jennifer FitzPatrick has perfected a fine and detailed primer for the caregiver, focusing on the complicated trials and tribulations of caregiving. Using excellent examples, she dissects various problems and offers sound, practical, and up-to-date information and advice. A must-read for professionals, caregivers, and all aging boomers!

Virginia Ford, MSN, CRNP, University of Pennsylvania Health System, Translational Research Center

Cruising through Caregiving offers a wealth of practical information for family caregivers on the Alzheimers journey. Written in everyday language, this book has tools, resources, and sound advice that will grant readers a new perspective on their caregiving role.

Cass Naugle, Executive Director, Alzheimers Association, Greater Maryland Chapter

Cruising through Caregiving tells us that there are many roles to play in caregiving, but all should be played without guilt. The author advises caregivers to be honest with themselves about their motives for serving and about how much time they can devote to the effortthis advice in itself is a tremendous stress-reducer. Just knowing that you are not the only one to be placed in such a situation is also a gigantic relief. From my vantage point as a certified elder law attorney and a certified financial planner who sees many families struggling with all the concerns described in this book, I found the recommendations extremely helpful. This is a wonderful reference for those in or contemplating a caregiving role for a senior. As anyone involved in such an endeavor knows, the caregivers attitude will be crucial in how the senior adapts to the aging process.

Andrew H. Hook, CELA, AEP, CFP, Past President of the Special Needs Alliance

Caregiving is truly the most difficult job you will ever take on. Whether you are new to caregiving or an exhausted caregiver wondering what you got yourself into, read this book. Cruising through Caregiving is written as an extended conversation between a caregiver and a wise and experienced senior care expert. Ms. FitzPatrick guides you through a discussion of concerns common to all caregivers while encouraging you to take care of yourself. She takes a unique approach as she suggests that caregivers consider their role as a choice and not a mandate. This perspective allows the reader to reframe or rethink their caregiving role in a way that reduces guilt and anxiety and focuses on what is best for their loved one and how that can be accomplished. This book encourages you to identify your caregiving style, whether you live with a loved one, live across the country, or somewhere in-between, and then, identify community services and persons who can join with you in providing care for your loved one. Ms. FitzPatrick describes the challenges faced by many caregivers negotiating unfamiliar senior services, financial resources, difficult parent-adult-child relationships, absent family members, and health care services. She enlists a crew of experienced professionals in senior care to help her provide a down-to-earth exploration of how to be a caregiver without losing yourself in the process. The narrative is written in such a way that it feels like you are sitting in the room, talking through the concerns that every caregiver faces.

Sandra S. Swantek, MD, FAPA, Chief, Geriatric Psychiatry, Rush University Medical Center, Chicago, Illinois

I love this book as it speaks directly to my current situation of caring for my eighty-six-year-old mother, whom I adore. Jennifer let me laugh at myself (for my martyrdom), yet she also gave me concrete suggestions on how to set boundaries without feeling guilty (something I struggle with every day). I highly recommend this book for any adult child caring for an aging parent (while also trying to care for yourself). The book is divided into easy-to-digest chapters that can be read one at a time, as needed. I found this approach very helpful, as things seem to change rapidly with my mom (and I need to adjust my approach). Cruising through Caregiving is easy to navigate and gets you great information quickly and efficiently.

Valerie M. Grubb, Operations Consultant and Trainer, Val Grubb & Associates, Ltd., Author of Planes, Canes, and Automobiles: Connecting with Your Aging Parents through Travel (Greenleaf Book Group, October 2015)

In my life care planning law practice, my elder care coordinator and I work with many families struggling with the challenges of caregiving. As we focus on the elders who need care, we work hard to ensure that their families have access to the tools and resources they need. But until Cruising through Caregiving, we have not had a framework for helping the caregivers understand that they have a right to include their own needs in the choices that are made. Now, I find it natural to use Ms. FitzPatricks terminology when I discuss those options with our clients and their families. I strongly recommend this book not only to families dealing with the stress of caregiving, but also to the professionals who seek to help them.

Marsha Goodman, CELA, President, Life Care Planning Law Firms Association

When I first saw the book title, I mistakenly thought that cruising meant easy as in coasting or drifting! Instead, the author creatively draws parallels to a boat cruising through waves of ups and downssometimes through calm waters, at other times in turbulent ones, and occasionally anchored in periods of relative stability. She ingeniously utilizes boating symbolssuch as lifejackets for tips and resources, or the life ring for vital informationthroughout the book. It is an engaging and informative read for caregivers where they can pick and choose chapters relevant to them, and return to a specific chapter when they hit a stormy period and need to strengthen their cruising techniques.

Nancy R. Hooyman, PhD, Professor of Gerontology, University of Washington School of Social Work, and author of Social Gerontology

Quite often, caregivers are just putting one foot in front of the other, doing the best they can. But they can easily find themselves off-balance in their lives, and this can affect their physical and mental health. Jennifer FitzPatricks book encourages caregivers to assess their own strengths and weaknesses. Am I doing too much? Do I have enough support on my team? Should I have Mother move into my house? The author provides caregivers with excellent perspectives, tips, and resources to help them regain their footing. I highly recommend this insightful book to all caregivers as this is one of the most difficult jobs to traverse.

Barbara Kane, MSW, LCSW-C, Co-Author, Coping with Your Difficult Older Parent: A Guide for Stressed-Out Children; Founder, Aging Network Services

What makes this book invaluable is Jens expertise on caregiver stress. Its one thing to get a handle on the obviousWill the money run out? Who helps me? Is aging-in-place a good idea?and another to be open-minded about the emotional challenges we face in the eldercare process. There are many ways to be a good caregiver; but perhaps the greatest skill of all is the willingness to change course and correct mistakes. This book shows you how.

Joy Loverde, Author of The Complete Eldercare Planner and Who Will Take Care of Me When I Am Old?