Jeanne R. Lord - A Journey for Two: Mother and Daughter Caregiving Relationships

Jeanne R. Lord, PhD, began her career with a senior citizens nutrition program, followed by an appointment to the University of Illinois Cooperative Extensions Adult Life and Aging Team. In addition, she taught at Northern Illinois University. In 2000, Dr. Lord returned to her alma mater, Eastern Illinois University (EIU), where she is currently a professor in the Department of Human Services and Community Leadership. During her tenure at EIU, she has served as associate dean for ten years and then as interim dean for one year for the College of Health and Human Services. She has presented at numerous state, national, and international conferences and has published in professional journals. She has received university awards for teaching, research, service, and leadership.

It is a privilege to acknowledge and thank, with sincere appreciation, the ten families who so graciously gave of their time and allowed me to share in their lives. A special thank-you goes to Dr. Loretta Prater for her support and encouragement. I extend my respect and friendship to a brave, strong, and talented woman. A special note of thanks goes to Dr. Charlotte England for her early direction, guidance, and insights. Love and thanks goes to my son, Riley, and my daughter, Anna. They are a source of inspiration and a shining light in my life. A special tribute goes to my late grandmother, Eileen Welch, who served as the inspiration for the writing of this book. She died on the same day that I learned that this book would be accepted for publication. Eileen was ninety-nine and a half and was full of generosity and beauty. Her children, grandchildren, and great-children will never forget how their lives were changed by her love.

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