Tim Prosch - AARP the Other Talk

Praise for The Other Talk

This book not only identifies the many issues that should be addressed well before they come up, it also makes the entire topic of planning for later-life issues seem less daunting and unsettling than one might expect. It feels not only doable but positive. You can create the end-of-life picture you wantif you address it head on and early with the ones you love.

George, editor

This is a book everyone should read, especially because its a subject we all just want to avoid. Its a great catalyst and road map to get my family and me talking about the things that will really matter down the road.

Andrea, mother with two adult daughters

I cant recommend this book highly enough. I read it as part of my job, and I was blown away with its succinct, powerful, important information. If everyone would read this book and follow its advice, millions of adult children would spend less time frantically making decisions, worrying about the future, not knowing what to do. Buy this and read it!

John, healthcare practitioner

I really appreciated the straightforward style of The Other Talk. Tim Proschs clear advice on how we older baby boomers can prevent burdens to our children is incredibly helpful and a good reminder to not wait too long before we have this other talk.

Susan, teacher

Im buying copies of this book for each of my three kids and planning to start the Other Talk over the holidays. We cant afford to wait!

Julie, mother of three adult children

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The Other Talk is dedicated to my daughter, Dakota,
her husband, Fernando, and my grandson, Gabe.

PART ONE
Why Have the Other Talk?

PART TWO
Getting Ready for the Other Talk

PART THREE
Turning the Other Talk into an Action Plan

A number of people are responsible for the book you have in your hands:

Tom Miller, Executive Editor, McGraw-Hill Professional; Jodi Lipson, Director, AARP Book Division; and Corinne Hayward, AARP Editorial Researcher, who made a good manuscript better

Lauren Wittig, a seasoned author, who helped guide me through the byzantine workings of todays publishing world

Sam Winstanley, who helped design and direct the development of the website www.theothertalk.com along with Tasty, Inc.

Elaine Gloeckle, who has been my favorite art director for many years

My many friends who were willing to share their personal stories about life before the Other Talk

Most importantly, my wife, Pam, who not only kept me motivated and energized about this book for seven long years but also played a very important role in editing the manuscript and believing in the concept

One of the most important conversations you have with your children is what is euphemistically called the Talk, the one about the birds and the bees. But there is another equally critical time in your kids lives when you need to sit them down to talk about the facts of life.

I call it the Other Talk. This time its not about the beginning of life. Its about your last years of life and the issues and decisions and role reversals that you and your family need to confront while you are still able to lead the conversation.