Meryl Hershey Beck - Stop Eating Your Heart Out: The 21-Day Program to Free Yourself from Emotional Eating

Acknowledgment

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are
the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.

MARCEL PROUST, PLEASURE AND DAYS

I AM VERY APPRECIATIVE OF the many individuals and family groups who have made my soul bloom throughout my journey.

My biological family was with me through thick and thin, literally. Although I had challenges growing up, my parents, May and Bob Hershey, always did the best they could and I feel incredibly loved by them. I can also always count on my sister and brother, Bonnie and Denny Hershey; family love runs strong through our veins and hearts!

My illustrator, the talented, wise, generous, and very loving Alison Hershey Manes is also my beloved daughter. She is a blessing in my life, as are her five awesome daughters who bring me immense joy.

The Twelve-Step Recovery community became my family of choice in the 1970s and gave me the best education I ever received (and I have two master degrees!). These folks loved me until I learned to love myself and I am forever grateful. With their help and support, I experienced physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual recovery: I learned about feelings, had a spiritual awakening, began to engage in healthy eating, and moved into self-acceptance.

My spiritual family also loves me unconditionally, and I am very thankful for them. Robin Trainor Masci, my best friend, was the first person to hold up a mirror and show me the awesomeness of my true self; I am immensely grateful that I can always count on her friendship and her love. Many others have been my cheerleaders and supporters as I wrote this book, including Janet Mooney, who makes me laugh every day and strongly encourages the best in me; Mark Naseck, my soul brother, who celebrates all the victories with me, and Glenn Richards, my first groupie. I am appreciative of many others, way too numerous to mention, who hold the energy for me and see me in my highest self.

An acknowledgment also goes to my writing family. In 2009 I attended Tom Bird's writing retreat and birthed this book. I am grateful for Tom's encouragement and for the support of all my classmates, especially my roommate, Jerelyn Schultz, and the Tucson writing group that was formed with Mimi Villifane, CJ Walker, Jan, and Jere.

Many folks worked with me in the revision stage of the book. Thanks to Laura George for her reassurance and care in helping me through the writing-publishing process. Mary Langford did a phenomenal job assisting with the submission package and the first few chapters of the book before she became ill; working with her was easy and fun, and I continue to pray for her optimal health. When I needed quick editing help, Mimi and Ellie Starer graciously jumped in. Then the very observant eyes of Andra Ewton and Windy Jones took over and I relished being able to count on them, the ease of working with them, and the invaluable suggestions they made.

Conari Press has become my newest family, and I am so thankful that my dear friend Nancy Burson recommended them. I feel indebted to Caroline Pincus who told me my writing was terrific. Just terrific, and decided to take a chance on me, an unknown author. The editorial help I have received from Caroline Pincus and Susie Pitzen has been invaluable and I look forward to working with Martha Knauf and Pat Rose and everyone else at Conari who is going to bat for me (and the book)!

Jeanne Rust has been a friend for several years and I so appreciate her believing in me, seeing my light, and writing the foreword.

Although I don't always get to the conferences, the energy psychology community has felt like a family to me and holds a special place in my heart. We are all indebted to Kate Sorenson, my incredibly wise soul sister, who instituted the Energy Psychology Conference in 1999, and to my ingenious teacher and colleague, Gary Craig, who so generously gave EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) to the world.

And finally, I applaud my clients and the many women I sponsored for trusting me enough to test out the methods discussed throughout this book. It has been a blessing to walk beside them and support them in their growth and recovery.

Thank you.

About the Author

MERYL HERSHEY BECK is a therapist (Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor) with a longtime personal and professional relationship to the recovery movement. She is trained in EMDR, energy medicine, and other healing modalities. She is also a member of a number of national and international organizations working with eating disorders.

Meryl spent the first half of her life as a closet eater, gaining weight and feeling overwrought. Once she became active in Twelve-Step support groups, the bingeing started to wane. Intent on uncovering the root cause of her overeating, Meryl began to incorporate new approaches in her quest for self-understanding. As a counselor, teacher, and author, Meryl joyfully shares these many tools and techniques that skyrocket personal growth and alleviate emotional eating.

She lives in Tucson, Arizona. Visit her at energizedforlife.com.

Eating Disorder Treatment Centers

There are residential as well as outpatient treatment centers in the United States and around the world that offer help for compulsive overeating and binge eating disorder. Here are a few of the many treatment centers. Check out www.edreferral.com for a more complete list or talk to your health care provider.

The Bella Vita

www.thebellavita.com

(818) 585-1775

Bodywise Binge Eating Recovery Program

www.stopcompulsiveeating.com

(888) 371-0671

Castlewood Treatment Center for
Eating Disorders

www.castlewoodtc.com

(888) 822-8938

Center for Change

www.centerforchange.com

(888) 224-8250

Columbia University Medical Center/New York

Offers free residential treatment for as much as four months if the individual is willing to be part of ongoing research.

www.cumc.columbia.edu

(212) 305-CUMC

Cottonwood de Tucson

www.cottonwooddetucson.com

(800) 877-4520

Desert Milagros

www.desertmilagros.net

(520) 531-1040

The Emily Program

www.emilyprogram.com

(888) EMILY77

Mirasol is a holistic treatment emphasizing therapies to address underlying stress and trauma. I have visited and spoken with staff and patientsit is a warm, caring atmosphere.

www.mirasol.net

(888) 520-1700

Oliver-Pyatt Centers

www.oliverpyattcenters.com

(866) 511-4325

Rader Programs

www.raderprograms.com

(800) 841-1515

Remuda Ranch

www.remudaranch.com

(888) 527-8205

The Renfrew Center

www.renfrewcenter.com

(800) RENFREW

Sierra Tucson

www.sierratucson.com

(800) 842-4487

Structure House

www.structurehouse.com

(800) 553-0052

University of North Carolina Eating Disorders Program

www.psychiatry.unc.edu/eatingdisorders

(919) 966-7012

Walden Behavioral Care

www.waldenbehavioralcare.com

(781) 647-6727

Chapter 2

Becoming Self-Honest

The longest journey is the journey inward, for he who has
chosen his destiny has started upon his quest for the