Tom Torero - Below The Belt: Secret Society Seductions

THE SECRET SOCIETY

Nice guys finish last. Awesome guys finish on her face

I first heard the term The Secret Society in relation to pickup and dating in a now infamous 2007 seduction forum post by Tyler Durden (of The Game andReal Social Dynamics fame). I read it at the start of my pickup journey through a Nice Guy lens, shaking my head at the concept and disbelieving the majority of it.

The post said that 99% of men on earth are having sex only as a girls loyal boyfriend, husband or Sugar Daddy. But that the remaining 1% of guys are part of a hush- hush inner circle having no-strings sex for free as her lover . The former are getting negotiated sex because of their commitment to a girl. The latter are getting wild passionate sex as the bad boy. Theyre the guys girls cheat with , not on. This 1% of guys are said to be in the Secret Society.

I brushed the concept off as nonsense. At the time I was a polite, respectable Primary School teacher in London whod slept with less than half a dozen girls in boyfriend mode. Id had a couple of lucky casual one-night stands but I presumed that most girls were sweet, innocent and not like that.

Even when I began daygaming (chatting up girls during the day) in 2009 I was doing it in Nice Guy mode, presenting myself as the boyfriend-to-be and taking girls on numerous dates with romantic undertones. Long walks by the river, concerts, the cinema, boat trips, all before getting anywhere near sleeping with them. I was puzzled why so many of the girls would make me wait so long for intimacy, and why many dropped off the radar even before sealing the deal.

Almost 10 years and more than 350 notches later, I can confidently say that Tylers post was right and I was wrong. The Secret Society is real not in Freemasons, Scientology literal type of way like an underground cult, but as a biological truth when it comes to human male-female mating strategies. Ive not only read the scientific studies underpinning it, which Ill be quoting later on in the book, but much more importantly Ive gained access to it from a decade of approaching, dating and sleeping with hundreds of girls out in the real world.

The biggest concept you need to grasp, which took me many years, is that women have a dual-mating strategy (whilst men just have one). They date and marry from the 99% of guys who are offering emotional and financial security, whilst still seeking out and sleeping with the 1% of guys who are the lovers, the cads and the Chads (for alpha DNA).

At the start of my daygame I was auditioning to be the boyfriend, not realising that there was a faster, no-strings way of having sex with her. Alpha fucks vs Beta Bucks is a popular way of remembering this subconscious double strategy of women. Think of it as paternal versus financial investment to maximise her genetic legacy.

As Tylers original post correctly stated, all females are born into the Secret Society. They are the gatekeepers to sex, getting to decide who with, when and how often it happens. It is men who are either in or out of the Secret Society*, competing for membership into the exclusive club. Some get in early (the naturals) but then lose their access, while others have to work hard (by learning Game) to get in and stay in for as long as they can.

By now youre most likely wondering if youre a male in the Secret Society. Are you in the 1% club? If youre ticking off most of these requirements then the answer is yes:

• Youre in control of your sex life, sleeping with a number of younger hotter girls when you want to. You havent settled down

• Sex with a new girl occurs on the first or second date. Its passionate and happens quickly. She doesnt make you wait as a bartering tool

• Youre single (or in an open relationship) and having sex with a number of girls without being (or promising to be) their boyfriend or more

• Some of the girls in your rotation have boyfriends, partners or husbands, and they come to you for lover-only sex

• Youre not doing romantic, couple-like things with the girls youre sleeping with

• The girls dont sleep over for the night in your bed

• Youre not seeing one girl too often or texting her routinely

• Your girls know (usually implicitly) that youve got other girls youre sleeping with

• The girls usually dont ask you to wear a condom

• The sex is often wild and naughty (anal, domination, swallowing, risky etc)

• Girls contact you to come over during the middle of their month when theyre at their horniest (ovulating)

Only you will know deep down if youre in the Secret Society or not. Perhaps youre pretending to be a girls boyfriend to get laid, then doing a runner (what I call the Bait-&-Switch strategy). Maybe youre taking a girl on many dates with dinners and flowers. Some of you might even be helping girls out financially in some sort of Sugar Daddy pay-for-play role.