Tom Torero - How To Flirt With Girls

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IS FLIRTATION TELLING JOKES? M any guys misunderstand attraction as being funny around girls or telling jokes.

This is not what flirtation is. Were not trying to be a childrens entertainer or get her laughing out loud. The idea is to become James Bond, not Jim Carrey. All my teases have a sexual undertone. We dont want belly laughs, we want her to feel the threat of our male polarity.
Dont be fooled by the common quote that woman want a guy who can make them laugh.

They really want a guy who they can slap in mock disgust, not a guy they can pat on the shoulder.

Do I Need To Learn Lines / Routines? The pick-up community began by recommending guys learn long stories, routines and patterns to deliver to girls as set pieces. Thats not what this guides about.
However, like learning any skill-set, first structure, then freedom. A beginner seducer needs training wheels or scaffolding to undo bad habits and gain new positive reference experiences.
Dont be fooled by instructors or companies that preach natural game.

Its an oxymoron in itself to teach natural methods. If you watch infield videos of them carefully youll see and hear lots of routines and lines that theyve simply internalised and embedded over the years so they feel natural to them. In the beginning 80% of your flirtation will have been rehearsed and 20% will be spontaneous. After a few years then this will switch to being 80% natural and 20% rehearsed.





ARE THESE NEGS? N eg is a pick-up community term used to describe comments made to lower a girls value in relation to yours, developed and popularised by the seducer Mystery.
Everything about these pull-push style teases is playfully flirtatious.
Everything about these pull-push style teases is playfully flirtatious.

The girl should always know that youre neither a rude jerk or a misogynistic hater. Thats why the right facial expressions, voice tonality, body language and positive vibe behind these lines is so key.






IS FLIRTATION VERBAL OR NON-VERBAL?
Y ou can spot a guy whos an expert seducer by his ability to seduce a girl without saying a word. There are actually two conversations going on when a guy chats up a girl the verbal (surface) and the non-verbal (under-the-radar). Most guys obsess about the former, while its actually the latter thats way more important. This is what I term the secret language of seduction that women instinctively know if a guy speaks or not.