Tom Kimble - How to Pull: A girls must-have guide to meeting and dating men

Contents

Movie kisses that nearly didnt happen
1: Dirty Dancing

Movie kisses that nearly didnt happen
2: Pretty Woman

Movie kisses that nearly didnt happen
3: Bridget Joness Diary

Most single girls will tell you that meeting and dating men is a minefield. Yet so many relationship books tell girls the things they dont want to hear (why all men are scoundrels) as opposed to what they really want to know how to navigate that minefield to meet, date and ultimately bag, the man of their dreams.

How to Pull fills that gap in the relationship book market. Its packed with all the essentials from how to hook him with that first look, to dating scenarios, moving in for the kill, playing the texting or email game and what to wear on a first date. Whats more, its written by a man and by allowing girls to understand how an insider thinks, it answers all the questions they agonise over: how long should you wait to return his text, does it pay to seem busy or desired by other men and what does he want his friends to think when they meet you.

How to Pull is a fun, indispensable guide to finding (and keeping) a man that all single girls will be desperate to get their hands on.

Cast aside by his childhood sweetheart of nine years, Tom Kimble found himself alone in London fearing he would never find true love again. He set out to rectify his situation, spending a year dating, quizzing his female friends and trying to understand how women think. Having carried out extensive research on how women try to attract their prey he feels he is ideally placed to write a book on the topic.

Tom has found the girl of his dreams.

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In loving memory of Mahatma Gandhi

THIS IS NOT a book about science, but it is about chemistry. And I feel that the collective wisdom of those curious, bearded individuals we call academics might for once here be relevant.

You may have heard the chattering classes banging on about the Darwin vs Creationist debate; now whether you side with the intelligent, reasonable evolutionists or the deranged, ignorant creationists (no bias here), one thing is for sure: Darwin must have got laid regularly. For it was he who officially acknowledged that survival of the species depends on the early bird getting the worm and in so doing unleashed generations of screaming hordes at the January sales.

And hes right, God bless him. Striking early is the very best way to get what you want. We know this from every facet of daily life, yet strangely prevaricate when it comes to pulling, as if this fact didnt apply here. And this does not merely mean scouting for the fittest person in any environment the moment you arrive, but also and perhaps most crucially moving quickly with the people you know. You find a guy you like, but since youve got such great taste, its only natural other girls must like him too, so if you dont get in there fast, someone else will. You see, guys can lazily get on the first bus that comes along, even if its going the wrong way. Think about why you dislike that girl you know whos going out with someone far better than her: its because she beat you to it. So get proactive. The pulling climate has changed; men no longer hold the reins, so you need to make moves of your own and arrive early to avoid the rush.

Youre strolling along, minding your own business, lost in your private thoughts about the nature of the universe, the existence of God and where to find decent fake tan. Suddenly a man you know and really fancy springs up before you with a smile and says hello. And, despite the fact that youve actually been hoping that something like this might happen, your heart sinks. Youve even gone through this scenario in your head already, but in your daydreams you were wearing that perfect casual outfit, you were bright-eyed and coiffed of hair and you oozed breezy confidence. But today, youre having a complete malfunction. Because you look like crap and your breath isnt too hot either. You were unprepared. Do you surreptitiously reach for some gum, maybe flick your hair into some semblance of order? Or just sit it out and hope he doesnt wonder why you were so unfriendly (not necessarily such a bad thing, as it happens).

This scenario does actually occur with some frequency and in innumerable different situations, for who hasnt bumped into someone they wanted to impress when they were at their least impressive? The answer is obviously not to be wonderful every minute of the day, because that would be a nightmare (for everyone in your vicinity), but to remember that every minute you spend in public is potential pulling time. So bear that in mind next time youre about to nip to the corner shop in your slippers and dressing gown.

And if you really are caught off guard, adapt quickly. If youre concerned that you are so off colour that it will spoil things irredeemably, pretend you havent seen him and escape. If youre cornered, tell him that you really dont feel like talking. Hell probably be quite impressed and you can later apologise to him, perhaps via a drink. Just dont admit why you did it.

And yet, there is some argument for not keeping up appearances when youre in public. How many people pull when they havent changed their underwear, when their bedroom is a mess, when theyve got something big at work the next day and really shouldnt be going out? In the same way that the unintentional spontaneous drinking session can be so much better than the party you looked forward to for ages, the chance encounter can go anywhere and often will throw up excellent surprises. Its like youve tempted fate. Some might scoff at fate and argue that this merely illustrates how attractive it is when someone doesnt care about how they look, but from my experience, everyone minds, most are just good at bluffing.

Different venues attract specific types of blokes. If you visit the theatre, youll meet a certain type (i.e., an intellectual), and if you attend a Capoeira class, youll meet another type (i.e., a twat). This phenomenon is particularly true of bars and clubs the place most of us go to pull because guys like to go on the pull in their own specific habitat. Thus students go to nites, media types go to launches, foreigners go to hotel lobbies, etc. So identifying early on where the type of guy you like is likely to be found allows you, with a certain degree of prejudice, to cut out a lot of time-wasting.