Greg Behrendt - Its Just A F***Ing Date: Some Sort of Book about Dating

So your dating life is in the crapper and youve just about given up on the idea altogether at this point. And seriously, whats with guys, right? Why dont they ask women out? Why does it have to be so damn hard to date? Or what ever happened to dating, for that matter? Used to be that a guy would have the sack to ask a girl out. Then hed pick her up at her house and take her out for dinner, a movie, or a cup of coffee and some conversation. Then both parties would decide if they wanted to do it again next week. There was protocol. A courtship. A standard set of guidelines to follow for this age-old ritual outlined by our Foredaters. Now who even knows what dating is?

What Is a Date?

If you hook up at a bar and go home together, are you dating? If he text messages you What are you wearing? are you dating? If he tells you where hes going with his friends after work and tells you to bring your friends, are you dating? If he changes his status on his homepage to its complicated, are you dating? If he sends you an emoji of a smiling pig, are you dating? If he uploads a photo of your shoes, are you dating? Its not cut and dry any more; in fact, its become completely absurd. Sadly, dating has become somewhat obsolete having been edged out of the lineup by hooking up, hanging out, texting pictures of your boobs or penis, and random sex. Why is that? Because both men and women have said by their actions and willingness that they dont need the formality of a date to give their time, the privilege of their company or even their bodies. Weve become a world of non-daters, and judging from the masses of unsatisfied singles that we hear from and about, wed surmise that the whole non-dating things not going that great. Its too confusing, too casual, too grey and not enough black and white. Courtship has gone so far astray that its come down to proximity and laziness. Like if you stand next to someone long enough at a concert then eventually youll pair up and be in a relationship with them without any actual effort, action or decision having been put into it.

Back to Basics

Its time for a change and aside from non-dating, the only other option to dating would be arranged marriages or marriage by lottery system. So it seems like nows the time to figure out how to date again because you may not like ending up with #4 8 15 16 23 42. You obviously like yourself enough to pick up this book and consider the idea of improving your dating or non-dating life, and for that we love you. Hooray, we just hugged! Now having said that, we will not coddle you. This is not a touchy-feely youre great so everyone should think youre great book. This is a how bad do you want it and to what lengths will you go to achieve what you truly deserve and then be willing to throw it all away because after all Its Just a F***ing Date! kind of book. We have made our living being straight with you about our experiences and weve done it wrong ourselves enough times. But ONLY after youve done it wrong so many times will you have that moment of awakening, of clarity, where you admit, I do it wrong. I need to do it differently.

By reading this book you are entering a no bullshit area. Unlike some of your friends, we will not sign off on your questionable behavior and will continually demand better of you. We will not buy the rationalizing that you do to make it okay nor the excuses you make for yourself or someone else whos giving you less than you deserve. Now is the time to redefine what kind of dater you are and how you date. So buckle up ladies because youve come to the right place. You know what weve got? Weve got answers and weve got plans for you.