Hedda Muskat - Dating Confidential: A Singles Guide to a Fun, Flirtatious and Possibly Meaningful Social Life

There seems to be another misconception that, no matter how attractive or unattractive a man is, if hes got money, he can get almost any woman he wants. This may hold true at the beginning of the relationship.

While the girl youre with is out having a good time with your credit cards, if you dont do all the other little things that count in life for her, then dont be surprised if she brings home something more from the mall than just another pair of $400 shoes. Another guy may show her love like shes never seen.

But why even talk about long-term relationships, when this is a book about dating?

Because in order to get to the light at the end of the tunnel, you need to get past the first date.

Everyone wants someone with whom to share his or her life. Dating Confidential is going to show you how to get there.

Making Choices. Thats really it. Two words. Making choices. If you continually repeat this, almost as a chant, the mystery of the dating world will all unravel.

Successful dating is about all sorts of choices:

• The choice to date at all
• The choice to better yourself
• The choice to have sex
• The choice to make the call
• The choice to say yes
• The choice to remain single

Im not a psychologist, sociologist, or any other ologist.

Im not some preacher on the radio telling you that youre a total loser if youre single. For some, single is just fine.

Im not some angry bitch who needs a book to let out all her steam as to why men suck. Men are actually great. Im tired of hearing women complain that all men are dogs. I happen to love dogs. You just need to find the right dog for you.

Women are great. Im tired of hearing men call all women gold diggers and bitches. This is the kind of woman a man chooses to date. You cant change her from wanting material things from you or being the bitch she is. You can only change the choice to date her. Back to choices.

So, who am I?

Im a writer who worked on TVs most successful and longest running dating show, Love Connection with Chuck Woolery. I interviewed over six hundred singles to find out what turned them on and off about their dates. Guys told me intimate things about what really got them excited about a woman, and things that made them want to run.

The ladies shared with me details about how even good-looking men can lose if they do stupid things. This book shares all those secret, intimate details about what really turns people on and off.

I also spoke to my friendssingle people of all ages. The ones who took my advice are truly having a great dating life. One friend is now dating a lawyer that she met in the supermarket. Shes also on a diet and plans to give herself a complete makeover, after having three kids in ten years. Shes living her life with a new look, and a new man. She made the choice. The ones who closed their ears to any advice from anyone are still single and dateless. But thats okay too. Because another big secret in having a successful dating life is to want to date. They werent ready. They said they were waiting for this book to come out.

I was also single. I was never the one who men jumped through hoops to meet at a party because looking back, I didnt dress to my potential. I hid my body, hid my sex appeal, in fear that I would have to come through in the end. It was easier to be the one in the corner. In my mid thirties, when I realized that I was missing out, I made the choice to lose some weight, buy some sexy clothes, and get out there. Wow! What a difference that made. I was getting calls, dates, and I had choices. However, although my look changed, I was still the insecure, sexually shy person on the inside. I still had to work on that.