Tom Torero - How To Flirt With Girls - Over 200 Tried And Tested Hacks To Tease, Charm & Seduce Any Girl

Shes smiling, nodding and open to the approach. But very quickly you can feel the energy plateauing. You feel like youre sinking in some kind of chit-chat quick sand. The small talk is sending the conversation plummeting towards the earth and youre not sure how to recover. She tells you that shes waiting for a friend and that she has to make a call.
Youre on a first date with a girl from work and its felt like its flowing nicely.

Youve got so much in common. After a couple of drinks you lean in to kiss her and she rejects it, telling you she sees you more like a friend.
In both cases, what happened? Where did all the attraction go?
From teaching thousands of men across the world the art and craft of daytime dating Ive seen the same fundamental problem crop up over and over once the student has entered the interaction.
Theres no sparkle. Theres no crackle. The art of flirtation has been lost.

We can all make polite beige hairdresser type conversation but thats simply not sexy. Attraction is not about trying to build rapport with a girl youve just met, its actually about playfully breaking rapport using flirtatious spikes to pop the comfort bubble and create sexual tension.
A revelation for many of my students is realising that attraction is created in the playful push rather than the pull. The essence of attraction is thus flirtatious teasing which treats the girl like a girl youre playing kiss-chase with in the playground and not some demigod on a pedestal. Were not out to be social, were out to be sexual.




Attraction between a guy and a girl comes down to creating and maintaining the right amount of sexual tension.

A good metaphor for this is a fishermans line. Too little tension and the fish swims away, too much and the line snaps. Theres an optimum line tension which the fisherman controls through either reeling in or releasing.
Think of this guide as the bubbles that make champagne fizzy. Without flirtation then your interactions with girls are going to be flat.






IS FLIRTATION TELLING JOKES? M any guys misunderstand attraction as being funny around girls or telling jokes.






IS FLIRTATION TELLING JOKES? M any guys misunderstand attraction as being funny around girls or telling jokes.

This is not what flirtation is. Were not trying to be a childrens entertainer or get her laughing out loud. The idea is to become James Bond, not Jim Carrey. All my teases have a sexual undertone. We dont want belly laughs, we want her to feel the threat of our male polarity.
Dont be fooled by the common quote that woman want a guy who can make them laugh.

They really want a guy who they can slap in mock disgust, not a guy they can pat on the shoulder.

Do I Need To Learn Lines / Routines? The pick-up community began by recommending guys learn long stories, routines and patterns to deliver to girls as set pieces. Thats not what this guides about.
However, like learning any skill-set, first structure, then freedom. A beginner seducer needs training wheels or scaffolding to undo bad habits and gain new positive reference experiences.
Dont be fooled by instructors or companies that preach natural game.

Its an oxymoron in itself to teach natural methods. If you watch infield videos of them carefully youll see and hear lots of routines and lines that theyve simply internalised and embedded over the years so they feel natural to them. In the beginning 80% of your flirtation will have been rehearsed and 20% will be spontaneous. After a few years then this will switch to being 80% natural and 20% rehearsed.





ARE THESE NEGS? N eg is a pick-up community term used to describe comments made to lower a girls value in relation to yours, developed and popularised by the seducer Mystery.
Everything about these pull-push style teases is playfully flirtatious.
Everything about these pull-push style teases is playfully flirtatious.

The girl should always know that youre neither a rude jerk or a misogynistic hater. Thats why the right facial expressions, voice tonality, body language and positive vibe behind these lines is so key.






IS FLIRTATION VERBAL OR NON-VERBAL?
Y ou can spot a guy whos an expert seducer by his ability to seduce a girl without saying a word. There are actually two conversations going on when a guy chats up a girl the verbal (surface) and the non-verbal (under-the-radar). Most guys obsess about the former, while its actually the latter thats way more important. This is what I term the secret language of seduction that women instinctively know if a guy speaks or not.