Mathangi Subramanian - Bullying. The Ultimate Teen Guide

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Bullying

The Ultimate Teen Guide

Mathangi Subramanian

It Happened to Me, No. 38

ROWMAN & LITTLEFIELD

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Subramanian, Mathangi, 1980

Bullying : the ultimate teen guide / Mathangi Subramanian.

pages cm. (It happened to me ; No. 38)

Includes bibliographical references and index.

ISBN 978-0-8108-9054-1 (cloth : alk. paper) ISBN 978-0-8108-9055-8 (ebook) 1. BullyingJuvenile literature. 2. CyberbullyingJuvenile literature. I. Title.

BF637.B85S83 2014

302.34'3dc 32013044839

The paper used in this publication meets the minimum requirements of American National Standard for Information SciencesPermanence of Paper for Printed Library Materials, ANSI/NISO Z39.48-1992. Printed in the United States of America

For Santhosh Ramdoss

Contents

Acknowledgments

T his book would not have been possible without the support of many. Thanks to Tatyana Kleyn for putting me in touch with Scarecrow Press, encouraging me to join the Ultimate Teen Guide club, and being a mentor and friend. Thanks to Monisha Bajaj, who provided me with source material, including her excellent co-authored curriculum, In the Face of Xenophobia; who constantly pushes me toward new opportunities; and who has cheered me on through thick and thin. Thanks to Maria Hantzopolous for connecting me with sources, reading a sample chapter, and generally being amazingly encouraging, warm, and welcoming. Thanks to Ali Michael for her insightful commentswithout you, chapter 5 would have been a mess! Thanks to Tejpreet Kaur and Christine Highet for connecting me with teens who provided their stories. Thanks to Namit Singh who was a contributor and an editoryour comments on chapter 10 made this a better book. Thanks to Tali Horowitz for connecting me with Courtney Stein at Radio Rookies, who not only introduced me to Temitayo Fagbenle, but also read a chapter and provided comments. Thanks to Rohini Mohan for being my writing partner and making the process so much fun. Thanks to Jan Atwell, Carlos Menchaca, Margaret Nelson, Regina Poreda-Ryan, Nick Rolf, and Aysha Schomburg for guiding me through the anti-bullying policy process while I was at city council: I wrote chapters 10 and 11 with you in my mind.

Thanks to the Fulbright Foundation for funding a year without an office job, which gave me the time and space to work on this manuscript.

Thanks to my editor, Arlene Hirschfelder, whose insight and encouragement made this manuscript possible. The article clippings and advice she sent me across the ocean were essential for finding my words.

Thanks to my family for cheering me on and always believing that one day I would be an authoreven when I didnt believe it myself. Thanks especially to my mom, who served as my mail depot and go-between while I lived in Bangalore and worked with an American press.

Thanks to my husband, Santhosh Ramdoss, for being by my side throughout this, my first book, and who I hope will be by my side through many others. You make me believe in the possibility of a better world.

Introduction

L ady Gaga, a famous musician, who was overweight as a child.

Tyra Banks, African American model and host of Americas Next Top Model , who was taller and skinnier than her classmates.