Adam Mars-Jones - Pilcrow

Im not sure that I can claim to have taken my place in the human alphabet, even as its honorary twenty-seventh letter. Im more like a specialised piece of punctuation, a cedilla, umlaut or pilcrow, hard to track down on the keyboard of a computer or typewriter. Pilcrow is the prettiest of the bunch, assessed purely as a word. And at least it stands on its own. It doesnt perch or dangle. Pilcrow it is.

The spring I learned to drive, the cherry tree in front of our house in Bourne End flowered as never before. It was 1968. Driving meant a lot to me as an idea. I felt that mastery of a car was a big step on the way to mastery of a life. I had my grandmother to thank for the car, a red Mini, licence plate OHM 962F, which cost 670 that year (new). I had Dad to thank for the gruelling lessons. I got started with the British School of Motoring, but Dad finished me off. He could be rather a remote figure, but I had nothing to complain about on that score while he was my driving instructor. He was relentless.

The Mini was the fun car of that decade everybody liked it. Granny said, People seem to be able to do everything these days, a vague sort of remark not at all characteristic of her. Generally Granny was vague as a razor, vague as a cruising shark. It turned out that she was confusing Issigonis, designer of the Mini, with Annigoni, who did Old Masterly portraits of the royal family. Granny was wrong only rarely. She didnt enjoy it. She felt it didnt suit her. It was always best for everyone to pretend it hadnt happened.

I made a modest contribution to the car from my savings. That was the way things worked with Granny. It wasnt her practice to buy things for people outright. I hadnt yet grasped that Grannys bounty always had a bit of spin on it if she was helping one person, then she was almost certainly putting another ones nose out of joint. I was callowly grateful, not understanding that Grannys family interventions were like snooker shots, the ambitious kind where what you bounce off and how you scatter the cluster of balls what you make impossible for the other players is as important as the obvious aim of racking up points. All her charitable transactions tended to have that kind of ramifying quality. She wasnt exactly rich, though she was rich compared to Mum and Dad, and she had the knack of getting value out of money even after she had given it away. It went on working for her somehow.

It took time for me to learn there were other attitudes to money. When I was about ten, and Mum and I were out shopping, a bus stopped for us. We hadnt hailed it. We werent even at a stop. We were looking in a shop window. The driver got out smiling and asked Mum for my name and address. She hesitated and then gave it to him. Years and years later, it turned out that this same bus driver had died and left me 100 in his will. Mum and I were touched it made up for the embarrassment of the original situation, with the passengers staring at us or grumbling about their interrupted journey. But Granny was unimpressed and even disapproving. Perhaps she resented competition, even of this unrepeatable kind, in matters of largesse. She seemed to be repelled by the idea of giving without strings attached, as if this was a missed opportunity for controlling events. Or perhaps she sincerely thought that generosity to someone you didnt know could only be vulgar and sentimental.

Still, Granny must be thanked for her gift of the Mini, however many strings were attached, and however many different directions they pulled in. Every life needs an acknowledgement page but this isnt it. The beginning isnt necessarily the best place for such a thing.

As a toddler, I had come up with my own pet name for my maternal grandmother. I was her first grandchild and I christened her. To me in my childhood she was Granny Annie. Anne was in fact her first name, something I couldnt have known. Anne Mildred Hanway. In any other family the name would have stuck. But somehow Granny was covered with an invisible protective coating, like the anti-climb paint which deters vandals. No pet name could get a grip on that treated surface, no endearment would leave a mark.

With her cheque for the balance of the cars price Granny included a note. Even her most casual communication was carefully thought out. I gave it due attention. Her hand-writing was crisply formed, her punctuation had the force of law. Promise me, John, she wrote, that you wont pay too much attention to the road. Look around you; dont waste the privilege of the view. People who keep their eyes on the road become bored, and boredom is the foremost cause of accidents. I wrote back to her with the promise that my driving life would be led according to her watch-word. I would not fall victim to boredom.

Dad wasnt thrilled that his mother-in-law was subsidising my independence, but there wasnt much he could do about it. Except that Id only been able to afford four lessons with the British School of Motoring, so Dad supplied the rest. There may be an exception to the rule that you shouldnt be taught to drive by a family member, but Dad wasnt it. I drove the Mini tentatively and he drove me hard, though I tried not to show my distress. I didnt want him to see my tears any more than he would have tolerated being shown them.

After a gruelling lesson Mum could see how near the end of my tether I was, and then shed give Dad a good carpeting. She never learned the knack of standing up for herself, but she was all cudgels on my behalf. This was a peculiarity of her temperament. Then of course Dad would feel put out that his expertise was being so little appreciated.

During those lessons I was exposed to a rich sample of his personal slang, a largely war-time compound. Gently Bentley, he would say when the gear-box gave me grief. Dont get agitato was for my moments of panic on the road, when obstacles threatened. Dont take umbriago, Im only trying to pass on my skills played its part when the pain in my shoulder made me sullenly silent. Youll thank me when you pass first time, he said. He seemed very sure of that. For me Italian (or near-Italian) will always be the language of fancy ice cream and driving instruction that amounts to a form of torture.

As the lessons ground on, Dad got a little of his own back on Granny through me, in his rle as a driving instructor. Acquiring the car might have been made easy for me, but he made sure that learning to drive it was no picnic.

Dad wouldnt allow me to nose the car into the garage at the end of our sessions I had to reverse it in properly, according to Hoyle. I cursed Hoyle, whoever Hoyle was. Heartily I hated Hoyle. There was a section of the Highway Code which Dad cited in justification, prohibiting the reversing from a minor thoroughfare into a major one. He gave away his forces background by this passion for regulations. Not many fathers would apply the rules so strictly, on a driveway which was technically a private road, with a son prone to weeping. It made the end of each lesson a bitter experience. Of course, if Dad had told me that one day I would be chased out of the house by a couple of maniacs, and that Id gain valuable seconds if the car was pointing towards the garage door, I might have been convinced that the elaborate manuvre was worth all the trouble, instead of ignoring it from the very moment I had passed my test. Though when the day came, and I had to make a get-away just as fast as I could, one of the two maniacs would turn out to be Dad.

We spent long afternoons doing three-point turns in the drive despite my aching arms. The cherry tree shed so copiously on the car, as I ground through my manuvres, that I had to turn on the windscreen wipers. The meagre motor strained to clear the mash of blossom. I love the vegetable kingdom in all its provinces, every canton and palatinate. I have a particular tenderness for