2015 by Holley Gerth
Published by Revell
a division of Baker Publishing Group
P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
www.revellbooks.com
Printed in the United States of America
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any meansfor example, electronic, photocopy, recordingwithout the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
ISBN 978-0-8007-2290-6
Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are from the Holy Bible, New International Version. NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com
Scripture quotations labeled ESV are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version (ESV), copyright 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. ESV Text Edition: 2007
Scripture quotations labeled GW are from G OD S W ORD . 1995 Gods Word to the Nations. Used by permission of Baker Publishing Group.
Scripture quotations labeled NKJV are from the New King James Version. Copyright 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
Scripture quotations labeled NIV 1984 are from the Holy Bible, New International Version. NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by Biblica, Inc. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com
Scripture quotations labeled NLT are from the Holy Bible , New Living Translation, copyright 1996, 2004, 2007 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.
I often say it doesnt have to be perfect to be beautiful. Holley Gerth shows women thats just as true for our hearts as it is for every other area of our lives.
Myquillyn Smith , The Nester, author of The Nesting Place
In Youre Loved No Matter What , Holley Gerth shares a breathtaking promise. Shes not asking you to try to be better but inviting you to receive whats already yours. Thats a message that will not only heal your heart but set you free.
Suzanne Eller , international speaker and author of The Unburdened Heart
If your heart feels entangled by the critical voices of perfectionism, sit down with this book full of encouraging gems of wisdom and let Holleys words guide you to a new beginning, to set your heart free to run in one direction: toward Gods love for you.
Bonnie Gray , author of Finding Spiritual Whitespace: Awakening Your Soul to Rest
Contents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright Page
Endorsements
Dedication
Introduction
Quick Quiz
1. Why You Really Dont Have to Be Perfect
2. Embracing the Freedom Thats Already Yours
3. Trading Guilt for Grace
4. What Your Heart Really Needs Is Perfect Love
5. The God Who Loves You More Than You Know
6. Daring to Be Who You Already Are
7. Finding Healing in Your Relationships
8. A Practical Plan for Beating Perfectionism
9. A New Perspective That Will Change Your Life
11. Freeing Your Heart Forever
Go Deeper Guide (for Individuals and Groups)
Acknowledgments
Notes
About Holley
Books by Holley Gerth
Back Ads
Back Cover
Introduction
Heres the scandalous truth: we can be loved, accepted, happy, and less stressed without being perfect. Truly. As women, we tend to look at perfection as a superpower. If we could only be perfect, then we could beat depression, banish anxiety, and create unbreakable relationships. Being perfect feels like the best protection in a world that demands we have it all together.
But chasing perfection has hidden dangers. What we believe will lead us out of depression and anxiety may actually be part of what got us there in the first place. And the pursuit of perfection can keep us from discovering Gods purpose for our lives. It can distort who he created us to be, and then the world misses out on the gifts only we have to offer.
Heres the reality: youre not supposed to be perfect . Youre supposed to be human. And humans are messy, flawed, glorious, and deeply loved. Jesus already knows all of that about you. He can handle who you are. He doesnt expect you to be perfect. And if he doesnt, then you dont need to expect perfection from yourself either. Yes, when you read that it probably sounds a bit scandalous too. Thats because many of us have believed twisted truths about what God wants from us. Please hang in there with meI promise we will get to the doubts and questions that are probably popping into your mind right now.
For now its time to lay down those unrealistic expectations that exhaust you.
Its time to embrace who you areeven the messy parts.
Its time to start living fully instead of just trying not to fail.
The pursuit of perfection keeps us from joy, love, peace, hope, and so many of the other gifts God intends for us. And heres the beautiful reality: you dont have to miss out any longer. Yes, embracing imperfection can be scaryespecially when perfection has motivated us for a long time. But on the other side is freedom beyond what we could have imagined.
I speak about this from experience because Im a recovering perfectionist. I know what its like to trade law for grace and condemnation for love. And Im more comfortable in my own skin and more in love with Jesus than ever before. Do I have it all together? Nope. And Im okay with saying that out loud. Because I finally understand that Im accepted anyway.
Lets stop trying to be perfect, friend. Instead lets be who God made us to be. Lets dare to live with joy. Lets embrace the freedom that is already ours through Jesus.
You dont have to be so tired anymore.
You dont have to live with a heart thats afraid.
You dont have to feel as if youre never enough.
Today can be a new beginning. Right here. Right now.
Are you ready?
Quick Quiz
Ways Your Life May Be Affected by the Pressure to Be Perfect
Place an X by each description you can relate to .
____ | Isolation or Loneliness When we believe we have to be perfect, we may hide our true selves from others. Even when were in a crowd, we can feel alone. We worry someone will discover who we really are and then well be rejected. |
Next page