L IFE ISNT ALWAYS EASY . Youre trying to check off everything thats on your to-do list, but you hit the sack feeling like you havent made much of dent. Its one thing after another that can send you into stress mode at the drop of a hat. Whether its the challenging circumstances around you or its your own mind that sets you spinning, there are moments when you feel like youre running on a hamster wheel and cant get off, physically or mentally.
We know what that feels like. We, too, have faced a few life challenges and found ourselves spinning out of control, feeling as if we could barely catch our breaths. We wanted nothing more than to find a little peace and tranquility. So, we decided to take our stress pretty seriously and spent time researching, studying, and introspecting. Thankfully, we came to realize that there is a way out, a way to hop off that hamster wheel now and again. And we want to share what we learned with the beautiful you.
In this book youll find more than a hundred tips to get you to a peaceful, happy placeand youll get there without having to sit oceanfront listening to the waves, beer in one hand and book in the other. The great thing is, sometimes you dont need to drastically change your routine to find the calm. You dont need to switch jobs, or stop going to that class, or live in the mountains for years. You can find the calm by doing the things you do but just doing them a little differentlywhether its cultivating some deep breaths throughout your day or being aware of the negative autopilot that takes over from time to time. Finding peace doesnt have to be a huge project. As it turns out, you can actually find peace in the everyday.
Youre probably used to hearing that you should make your diet a priority, hit the gym a few times a week, and shower daily, all to take care of that precious body of yours. But how often do you prioritize your mind? Too often were stuck in our own heads and too busy to step back and take inventory of whats swirling around in there. Being unaware of thought patterns that might be adding an additional layer of stress to our lives can put us at risk of blowing a fuse over the co-worker who chews too loudly, the partner whos lost the remote control, or the friend who doesnt text us back.
But when you do take some time to make your mind a priority, giving it a good cleanse once in a while can have a positive effect on the rest of your life. Being conscious of your thoughts can help to make you less reactive to the daily bullshit that pops up. You are better able to tackle it or to accept it and let it go.
So how do you reap the benefits that come from making your mind a priority? In this book weve outlined the steps that helped us do just that. Consider this book a toolkit that will give you what you need to cultivate calm and address any obstacles that might be in your way. Our book talks about letting go of negative self-perceptions, regrets from the past, and anxieties over the future. It will show you how to reframe the thoughts that leave you feeling stressed out and overwhelmed. It will help you to stop looking at life through a narrow lens and doing stuff thats not always true to who you are.
This isnt a book that will make you feel like you need to add another to-do to your list. Its simply a way to reframe your perception in your daily life. Each chapter begins with an overview of a topic, to help you get into the groove. Then well take you through a bunch of practical tips, concepts, and examples of how to implement some peace in your daily life.
We hope that by the time you get to the end of the book, youll be walking away with an extra skip in your step, a calm smile on your face, and a badass approach to a good life as you work to let that shit go.
I T STARTS BEFORE you even get out of bed.
Your alarm goes off. Here we go. You check your phone, to find fourteen new emails that swooped in after you fell asleep. Shit, Im behind already. You have a few seconds to scroll through Instagram, check the weather, brush your teeth, shower, throw on some clothes, successfully find matching socks, grab a slice of toast, and get on your way.
You get into your car with just enough time to get to work. Phew. As you start driving, a parade of thoughts comes marching in: Ahh! I forgot to do the inventory report for Jamal. Wait, is my cousins birthday on the twenty-second or twenty-third? Shouldnt have had that ice cream sandwich last night, feeling kinda sluggish. How many days do I have left for vacation? I really need to plan something soon. Ugh, I gotta file my taxes...
It rambles on untilboom!youre at the office. Do you even remember getting there? Where did all of that time go, from the minute your alarm went off to the moment you sat down in your chair?
Surprise, you missed it.
From the second you woke up youve been on the go. And you even managed to layer all kinds of worries on top of the basic busyness that is your life. You, my friend, might be stressed AF.
W EVE ALL HAD MOMENTS like thisautopiloting our way from A to B while letting our mind wander in its own little world. Being on the go physically is one thing (rushing to get your kid to soccer practice, madly trying to avoid being late for lunch with a friend), but having a busy mind on top of that is another. In fact, sometimes your mind runs a hundred times faster than your body. You might not think much of it, but weighing down your already busy life with negative and unnecessary thoughts can increase your stress level. Except, it doesnt have to be this way. Just imagine if, instead of allowing your stress to build to the point of your nearly having a meltdown, you could find a way to calm your mind.
Think about that drive to work, the one in which the thought parade came marching through your mind. Those thoughts may be loud (so, so loud), but theyre kind of useless. Or at least theyre useless in that moment. From the minute you put your key in your cars ignition and fire up the engine, you cant physically do anything but drive. You cant be on your laptop pulling up a report. You cant open your calendar to confirm the date of your cousins birthday. And you cant research a vacation or finish your taxes. All you can actually do in that moment is drive. So why worry about the other stuff?
When youre annoyed about something that happened in the past or worrying about the future (which of course you have the right to do and be), youre not experiencing your life as it happens. Youre missing the here and now, the tiny little moments your life is made up ofdriving your car, grocery shopping, enjoying a night out. Think of it this way: if youre always there, youre missing out on whats here.
So how do you stop your mind from racing? How do you actually stay here?
You start by shifting your focus. Instead of thinking through ten different things on your commute, why not try to observe the trees along the way or simply be grateful that youre heading to a place that pays you for what you do? You could notice the sweet smell of your shampoo and how it reminds you of a scent you used to wear in high school. Sure, thoughts and worries might creep in between all of that, but they will come and gothey wont take over and potentially stress you out. Each time you shift your focus to the world around you or things youre grateful for, you move away from thoughts that might make you worried or anxious. You refuse to let them take over.