Leyba - Fearless & Fabulous: 10 Powerful Strategies for Getting Anything You Want in Life

FEARLESS & FABULOUS

Copyright 2014 Cara Alwill Leyba/Passionista Publishing

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, scanned, or distributed in any printed or electronic form without permission.

Cover art Cara Loper/Loose Lid Creative

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Interior design by Ryan Leyba

ISBN-13: 978-0692252963

For every woman who has a dream of living a better life.

And for my mother, who taught me I deserve nothing less.

by Jonna Spilbor

From the moment I had enough hair on my head to squeeze a couple of curly tufts into pigtails, I knew my career would find me in front of a camera.

Since I had formulated that thought at a time when my age and my shoe size were equally miniscule, I was blissfully unaware that there were several different career opportunities within the entertainment industry. So, I fixated on becoming a movie star as my way in.

In fact, one of the very first real conversations I remember having with my mother happened before I hit kindergarten, and it went something like this: Mom, how come youre not an actress?

She replied, Well honey, not everyone in the world wants to be an actress.

I cant remember exactly what came out of my four-year-old mouth at the time, but I can articulate today that my mother may as well have been speaking monster. In my young, endearingly unruly brain, I simply could not fathom how any person on the planet wouldnt want to be famous! To this day, a teeny tiny part of me still clings tight to that four-year-olds wistful confusion.

Fast forward a few decades, and Im happy to say Im not only living that dream, but I have learned how to harness the fearlessness that came so easily as a child to bring my grown-up goals to life. Teach yourself to dream without limits, and you will achieve without limits.

I think back so very fondly to those yesterdays. Days when daydreaming was as big a part of our routine as breathing and blinking. Days when all we needed to become a full-blown superhero was a cape and two outstretched arms. Days when we unwittingly fed our little brains big, lofty goals and never, not for a second, doubted we could achieve them. Days when sandbox sand became a new and exciting city until we were summoned inside for dinner. When a rope and a tire allowed us to fly. When we befriended bugs and caught them in a jar, never once contemplating the cruelty of mortality theirs or ours.

Have you ever wondered why those truly were the days?

I will tell you why. You see, children are fearless.

A childs mind is fertile, limitless and expansive. Physically, a child will naturally outgrow her high chair, her baby shoes and her big wheel, but she never outgrows her dreams. Never, ever. So why, then, do so many of us grow into the adults we are today, but have yet to fulfill our highest goals and aspirations?

If you have ever stayed in a job you hate, or lingered in a crappy relationship, or wouldnt know a personal boundary if it bit you on the butt, then this book is about to change your life.

There is one thing, and only one thing, holding us back from creating the life of our dreams.

Fear.

Its not money. Its not education. Its not our looks, our relationships, or our responsibilities that keep us from going out and getting everything we want. All of these things are merely excuses. We create these roadblocks in our own heads, as if they were hope traps (There goes another hope! Better not let it loose or I actually may fulfill a goal!). Self-imposed hope traps are the way in which we keep our dreams under wraps, and hold ourselves back from forging ahead into the life we long to lead.

Ill say it again. The one thing that holds us back from creating the life of our dreams, is fear. Thats it. Thats all. Eliminate fear, and there is nothing you cant do!

Oh, is that all? you ask. Simple as that, huh? Just forget my fear, and poof! Like magic here comes my dream job, my dream relationship and my dream bank account? Sounds like the only one dreaming here is you!

Okay then, humor me.

You have before you one of the greatest tools to get you started on your new, fearless path. Read it cover to cover. Put the techniques to good use, and choose one thing in your present circumstance you would like to change. Just one. Then ask yourself, How would I behave in this circumstance if I had no fear?

Got it? Now close your eyes, and see yourself as the five-year-old superhero you once were. See yourself as the six-year-old kicking her legs to the sky on a tree swing. See yourself as the little girl who built cities in sandboxes and befriended bugs in a jar.

Feels familiar, doesnt it? It should. Because she is youwithout fear.

Your fabulously Fearless life starts right now.

Enjoy each moment of your new and exciting journey, and if ever youre in doubt, please repeat after me.

Just be fearless.

With much love to the author, and to my sexy sisters everywhere,

Jonna Spilbor

Attorney, Radio Host, Author, Motivational Speaker and TV Legal Analyst/Contributor

Everything you want is on the other side of fear.

Jack Canfield

Chances are if youve picked up this book, there are things you want to do in your life but up until this point, youve been too scared to do them. Maybe youve filed them away onto your bucket list or maybe youve just become content with that fact that youll never even attempt them because for some reason, fear tells you that you shouldnt. Perhaps its fear of failure, or fear of rejection. Maybe its fear of being judged, or not liked. Or perhaps its even fear of your own success or personal happiness (hows that for jumpin right in?).

Fear can be responsible for changing your life for better or for worse. If fear persists, you run the risk of missing out on some of the greatest experiences life has to offer. If you can overcome your fears, you open yourself up to a world beyond your wildest imagination. I wrote this book because I believe everyone deserves to live a remarkable life. With loving support and guidance, we all have the power to be extraordinary.

Now lets get something straight before we go any further. We all have fears. True fearlessness does not really exist. When I refer to being fearless, Im talking about recognizing that you have fears, but deciding to move forward anyway. Thats a biggie.

A fearless and fabulous woman is someone who recognizes her desires, has the confidence to chase her dreams, and believes that everything is possible. She does not believe in the word failure. She redefines it. To the fearless and fabulous woman, a failure is just a signal that she needs to change her course and try a new way of doing something. She thinks positively, takes consistent action toward her goals, and never gives up.

Nothing makes me sadder than seeing a woman with boundless talent and aspirations who has let fear take the wheel. There are far too many people out there who are stifling their own success because they are afraid to make the first move. Can you imagine what an amazing world this would be if we all fearlessly stepped into our full potential?