PUA Freeman - The Way of the Fearless Man: Getting the Life You Really Want

By PUA Freeman

Copyright Viral Success Limited 2016

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Mastering others is strength. Mastering oneself makes you fearless

You are about to learn the secret of truly fearless men. Fear is only the graffiti scribbled on the outer walls of your comfort zone. Most men read it and turn back to safety a handful ignore it and start running towards the wall instead of away from it.

The Way of The Fearless Man is your guide to a whole new way of thinking. A paradigm shift so far only mastered by the top 1% of male society. The knowledge in this book is considered so profound that it will affect every aspect of your life from your career, relationships, health and through to your overall happiness.

You will be able to quickly identify areas of your life that have been held back by fear and use the tools and exercises to smash through your old barriers and start to live the life of your dreams. Grand claims for sure but thousands of men just like you are testimony to the effectiveness of this amazing book.

Discover

• How to be fearless in 3 easy steps.
• Be the man that all women want.
• Breaking through your comfort zone.
• The 5 signs that it is time to take action.
• How to become powerfully confident with women.
• Escape the Average Joe world and join the elite 1%

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life.

Almost everything--all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.

Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet, death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it, and that is how it should be, because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It's life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new, Steve Jobs

Back when I first started out in the media industry as a cocky seventeen-year-old boy, I remember once being interviewed by a local newspaper. I had just been appointed as the new breakfast presenter for Radio Wyvern, in Worcestershire a town near the southern Welsh border with England. At the time I was the youngest morning show host in the country and the pressure was on me to mature fast but also to quickly demonstrate that I was worthy of the risk some poor misguided programme director had taken by putting such a total newbie in this enormous position of power. The newspaper article had been arranged as a favor for the boss and so it was only ever going to be a light hearted affair. I didnt need to be too careful what I said because the journalist had been asked to write something that was nothing much more than a complimentary commercial for my new breakfast show. The depth and weight of those questions would hardly tax me further than whats your favorite color.

It quickly became apparent that I was going to be given twenty harmless if somewhat inane questions to pad out an article about me that they would probably bury somewhere on page thirty seven, just next to the classified ads for surgical support stockings and lost pets. I answered each question quickly and honestly. The journalist would listen to my reply, sigh and scribble something down my reply on his note pad. After four or five questions I realized that I was boring the guy to death. Hey I was seventeen years old, no body had told me how to speak to the press or even how to answer trivia about myself.

I decided I was going to have to spice up my answers and try to be a little more of a personality, after all I was guessing that was all this poor journo was clinging to for ammunition to write what might be the most tedious piece of copy in his career. After a few more questions I felt like I as doing a little better, the journalist had smiled once and raised his eyebrows a few times. This, I decided meant that I was either doing really well or really bad, I wouldnt know for sure until I saw the actual newspaper the next day or I got called to the bosses office for the hair dryer treatment.

Question twelve was what is your biggest fear, I looked him square in the eye and paused a moment. Then I raised one eyebrow, Roger Moore style and said fear, is my only fear everything else is childs play. This answer immediately made me want to vomit. So putrid and contrived was it that on the anniversary of this interview I swear the same gut wrenching, bile-inducing sensation came over me every year for many years that followed, as some sort of divine punishment for saying something so pretentious and appalling.

Here I am twenty-five years later sitting on a train to London and for some reason that memory is as fresh as it was the day I uttered such trite nonsense. Shockingly, I now believe it may have leapt from the grey, murky bog of my mind because I may actually have been right. Now hold on a minute, I know that premise does not defend against such wanton pomposity and I still most deservedly require a good slapping about the chops until I beg for forgiveness. However, fear is what I have come to recognize as the single biggest element that prevents me (and all of us) reaching our true potential and really living the life of our dreams. It is not logic, responsibility or contentment that keeps us trapped in underachievement but rather it is fear that holds the key to our jail cell.

Human behavior appears to be complex and multilayered but in reality it comes down to two simple elements. All human motivation is essentially a binary process, meaning that we are moved to do something or avoid doing something by a switch in our head either being in one position or the other. All decisions, actions and deeds are made as a result of us either avoiding fear or pursuing pleasure, and that is pretty much it. The reason for everything we do comes down to this simple premise.

We can spend hours debating this issue (as I have done many times before) but trust me on this one, even the apparently self sacrificing actions of a parent for their child are still motivated by the emotions of fear and pleasure.

In the case of self-esteem and confidence the fear that prevents us performing as we could is 99.9% misplaced. Of course sometimes the fear we feel most definitely has a place and I am not suggesting you ignore that little voice in your head that suggests you cant safely jump from one tall building to another. The fear you feel just before you do your first parachute jump is a process of the human mind operating exactly as it should. Making you feel afraid in these moments is a form of self-preservation. It is the brains way of saying hey if you carry on doing what you are doing there is a very good chance you will die, and you will most likely take me along with you!

But the fear that suggests to you that you are not attractive enough to talk to the hot girl is a misfire of this process. The gut twisting anxiety you experience as you step up to make a presentation to the whole office is this life saving feature of the human mind misunderstanding the situation and trying to force you to exit an environment it has incorrectly judged to be dangerous.

Confidence, or rather the lack of it is a simple throw back to our earlier times as hunter-gatherers. Or putting it another way, we are witnessing and experiencing the time lag of evolution trying to catch up with and adapt to what modern life involves. The life of a human being in the western world today has changed so dramatically over the last few hundred years that it is almost incomparable to what our forefathers had to endure. Today we get upset and feel like we have had a bad day if we get cut up on the way to work, cant find a parking space in the lot or spill our latte on our favorite t-shirt.