Elizabeth Dickinson - The Concise Coaching Handbook: How to Coach Yourself and Others to Get Business Results

The Concise CoachingHandbook

The Concise CoachingHandbook

How to Coach Yourself and Othersto Get Business Results

Elizabeth Dickinson, MA

The Concise Coaching Handbook: How to Coach Yourself and Others to GetBusiness Results

Copyright Business Expert Press, LLC, 2018.

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First published in 2018 by

Business Expert Press, LLC

222 East 46th Street, New York, NY 10017

www.businessexpertpress.com

ISBN-13: 978-1-94858-078-6 (paperback)

ISBN-13: 978-1-94858-079-3 (e-book)

Business Expert Press Human Resource Management and OrganizationalBehavior Collection

Collection ISSN: 1946-5637 (print)

Collection ISSN: 1946-5645 (electronic)

Cover and interior design by Exeter Premedia Services Private Ltd.,Chennai, India

First edition: 2018

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Printed in the United States of America.

Abstract

Many traditional ways of helping, assisting, or managing people result in resistance or inadvertent mismanagement. In turn, this can lead to anxiety and unnecessarily poor performance. While primarily unintended, mismanagement of self or others often results in discouragement even when the intent is to motivate.

Utilizing a coach approach to motivating oneself and in managing others circumvents resistance and mismanagement by harnessing a persons inner wisdom and natural inclinations. Its increasing popularity reflects its documented effectiveness in improving employee engagement, commitment, and productivity.

Utilizing a coach approach with oneself and others enables quicker and more effective progress toward goals. The Concise Coaching Handbook identifies the crucial coaching qualities to adopt with yourself to increase motivation and performance. These include being welcoming, friendly, nonjudgmental, and curious. Through exercises and examples, the author further illustrates how to ask yourself compelling questions, how to create effective actions by constructing SMART goals, and how to hold yourself accountable to your own plans.

The author also details how presence and attitude, active listening, compelling questions, setting goals and accountabilities, and encouragement and feedback function in a coaching relationship. Drawing from neuroscience, case studies, and personal experience, the author demonstrates how to use these specific techniques to create more fulfilling relationships and results. The Concise Coaching Handbook ends with three brief case studies of for-profit and nonprofit organizations who have committed to creating a coaching culture and the benefits theyve received.

Keywords

business coaching, coaching, coaching culture, coaching handbook, coaching others, emotional intelligence, employee engagement, human resources and personnel management, leadership coaching, mentoring and coaching, motivational coaching, overcoming resistance, productivity coaching, self-help, self-help short reads

This wise, encouraging book will help you think like a coachand have a better life as a result.

Marshall Goldsmith, executive coach, business educator,
bestselling author, ranked worlds top leadership thinker
by Thinkers50

Well written and very useful. Elizabeth takes complex coaching concepts/tools and breaks them down so readers who want to improve their lives and see themselves inspiring others can make real and lasting change.

Paula Hemming, Professional Coach Training Director,
Adler Graduate School

Whether you want to develop your inner coach or deepen your understanding of how to use coaching skills The Concise Coaching Handbook is a practical guide that makes the coaching approach accessible to everyone.

Dave Wondra

Past Chairman, International Coach Federation

President, Wondra Group

Contents

Chapter 5 Use Your Wheel of Life to Discover What Will
Make the Biggest Difference

As a coach and public speaker/presenter I have coached and delivered workshops focused on using coaching skills in management, reducing stress, and leading/living an authentic life, among other topics. If you are interested in coaching for yourself or a customized workshop or presentation for your organization, please visit my website: http://pursueyourpath.com

What unites everything I do in my coaching practice and in my presentations is a belief that everyone is capable of finding more life satisfaction and pursuing their path(s) in life.

What Ive learned from my coaching and during my presentations is that attendees are hungry to learn ways they can achieve clarity, create and fulfill goals, and enjoy better relationships with themselves and others.

Most of the coaching techniques and tools I write about here I also use in my private practice and in presentations. All of them are elegantly simple and easy-to-learn.

Some of these techniques are taught in coach training schools. I learned many from my Adler Graduate Institute teacher and stellar coach Paula Hemming, who generously and graciously gave me permission to share with you. As she simply put it, This work needs to be in the world.

Other techniques and thoughts are my own, although I dont believe we are ever alone in our work to improve the human condition.

So I also owe a debt of gratitude to the other teachers who have informed and enriched my life, including Adler teachers Bev Lutz and Val Olson.

At the end of this book, I share some of the books and other teachers who have inspired me and caused me to look deeper, to seek guidance, and to ask the most important question anyone can ask.

How do I create a meaningful life?

I share these exercises and insights with you now in the hope that you will use them for yourself and others. While nothing takes the place of a great coach, I truly believe a coaching philosophy and mindset could save the worldor at the very least, improve your corner of it.

When we take care of our own deepest needs, we provide a model and inspiration for others to pursue their own paths.

And who knows what other shores those ripples may touch and change?

Part I of this book is devoted to you, to help you develop your inner coach, to clarify and identify your personal values and vision, and to help you formulate some steps to putting your values and vision into action.

Part II of this book is about developing coaching skills to use with others. While I encourage you to read both parts, you are of course free to start there! However, you will derive the most benefit from reading both and doing the exercises. Everyone who wants to coach improves as a coach by being coached. Much of the coaching philosophy and experience will make more sense if you read Part I first.

May you pursue your path, and accept as true only the things in this book that resonate with you.

Blessings to all who read this, and to those whose lives in turn they will influence!

When you visit an expert for advice, you expect the expert to know more about the subject in question than you do.

You trust the expert to be able to assess your situation and to apply his or her specialized experience and information toward your situation.