T.D. Jakes - Loose That Man and Let Him Go! with Workbook

Loose That Man & Let Him Go!
Copyright 1995
T. D. Jakes

Originally published as two books: Loose That Man & Let Him Go! and Loose That Man & Let Him Go! Workbook

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Dedication

This book is dedicated to the memory of my father, Rev. Ernest L. Jakes Sr; to my brother Ernest L. Jr., whose presence in this world has made life richer and fuller for me; and especially to the destiny of my three sons, Jamar, Jermaine, and T.D. Jr., whose lives have been a burning blaze in my heart. I know that they are manuscripts yet to be written and songs waiting to be sung. To the world I say get ready for them; they are being printed at this very moment and soon to be published. They will be well worth reading.

Note to Reader

As you read this book, take time to answer the questions in the workbook beginning on page 209. They will help you get the most out of the material as you go along.

Some of the questions are looking for a personal response that only you can provide. There are not right or wrong answers for these questions.

Other questions pertain to something that was said by Bishop Jakes within the chapter. If youre not sure what the right answer is, you can look it up in the Answer Key found on page 275.

Table of Contents

CHAPTER ONE
When I Was a Child

CHAPTER TWO
Suffer the Little Children

CHAPTER THREE
Confronting the Child in You

CHAPTER FOUR
When I Became a Man

CHAPTER FIVE
The Party Is in Progress

CHAPTER SIX
When the Yoke Isnt Easy

CHAPTER SEVEN
Marriage: Missionaries or Men?

CHAPTER EIGHT
Mighty Men Still Need Rest

CHAPTER NINE
You Are Still My Son!

CHAPTER TEN
Surrogate Fathers

CHAPTER ELEVEN
A Mans Best Friend

CHAPTER TWELVE
The Saul Syndrome

CHAPTER THIRTEEN
When the Clothes They Make Dont Fit!

CHAPTER FOURTEEN
Knocked No Lower Than My Knees!

CHAPTER FIFTEEN
Living Like a Loosed Man

When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

1 C ORINTHIANS 13:11

Every man, great and ordinary, famous or forgotten enters this world traumatically and begins to perceive his surroundings through the eyes of a child. It is during these tender years that he experiences the beginnings of his masculinity.

Our development as men is shaped by the things we encounter as children. Our masculinity is defined by our fathers and our relationships. Dysfunctions in our adulthood were also shaped or influenced by the presence or absence of the men who fathered us. What painful childhood memories haunted young Adolf Hitler? Who touched the life of Martin Luther King Jr. or of Abraham Lincoln? What childhood pains or dreams framed the thoughts of Malcolm X and Mahatma Gandhi?

Our fathers absence can form a sustained question in our minds, a haunting thought, Maybe it was something I did or something I lacked that caused him to leave. We learn the art of suppression early, deeply burying the painful questions and the native sensitivity that is so easily bruised. We suppress the natural creativity that springs from a probing mind as we encounter the pain of continually being told, Shut up! I dont have the time to listen to you.

Our fathers are our first definition and demonstration of masculinity. Unfortunately, our fathers model has caused many of us to equate masculinity with absence, irresponsibility, sullen silence, or violence. All the fruits of our manhood are rooted in our childhood our self-esteem, our inner awareness of who we are, our sexuality, our preferences. They are all deeply planted in the soil of our early memories, experiences, and definitions.

God plants an infinitely curious mind within every little child and adolescent. As they grow older, many children bend to indifference and ignorance, while others surrender to scorn and punishment, and eventually most will finally succumb to a formal education that will quench their natural hunger for knowledge.

Young minds never stop gathering information through their senses, and they constantly process their perceptions. What do you suppose those Judean children perceived the day the young Rabbi, Jesus, rebuked the men who were pushing the small ones away from Him? What went through their minds as the children heard Him say, Suffer the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not (Mark 10:14)? How many lives and destinies were changed forever by His tender embrace and unconditional love that day?

Within every man dwells the little child who preceded him. Manhood is rooted in childhood, and many of the thoughts you and I have today come from our early experiences as children. You may read these words with sadness if you are one of the thousands who involuntarily recoil at the mere sight of the words Father, Daddy, Papa, or Dad. They only represent pain and loss to you.

I SPOKE AS A CHILD

My mother used to listen closely to me when I talked. Now I understand that my mothers attention dignified my opinion. Her actions confirmed to me that I mattered. Her careful (and patient) listening enriched my thinking process with a self-esteem that caused me to believe that my thoughts were important. Regardless of whether she agreed or didnt agree with what I said, what excited me was that she listened to me.

Jesus spoke when He was a child. According to Luke 2:46-47, He entered the temple and spent five days listening to and speaking with the leading doctors of the Law while He was barely an adolescent! The Bible says these scholars were astonished at his understanding and answers (Luke 2:47 TLB ). If you want to know who someone is, listen to what he says! For of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh (Luke 6:45). Jesus started perfecting the art of expression early in His life, and even the leading teachers of the day listened to Him. What a boost that must have been to His self-esteem! There is something about expressing thoughts that airs out the mind and sorts out the closets of the intellect.

My mother stimulated my creativity by listening to my expressed thoughts. Her attention gave me respect for my own opinion, a respect that still exists today. I am concerned that in the busy world of our day, the children know we are not listening to them, and the pressure is rising.