Will Limón MSW - The Rebuilding Workbook: Step-by-Step Guidance for Healing When Your Relationship Ends

Moving through divorceand not getting stuckrequires conscious reflection and action. The Rebuilding Workbook provides seasoned guidance, laced with practical tools for self-reflection and next steps, as you do transformational work to gain new life and energy.

Sherod Miller, PhD , codeveloper of Couple Communication

As a child and family psychologist, I am pleased to endorse The Rebuilding Workbook by Will Limn and Nina Hart-Fisher as an invaluable tool for people that have experienced divorce. More than a simple fill-in-the-blank workbook, the author offers exercises, visualizations, and meditations to guide the reader on a path to healing. In addition, case vignettes and examples act as stimuli for thought and discussion. This workbook builds on Bruce Fishers original book, and should be a required companion for any divorce adjustment seminar.

Daniel A. Doyle, EdD , child and family psychologist

The Rebuilding Workbook is an excellent resource for people who are suffering following a divorce or any other breakup. Through a series of thoughtfully constructed, compassionate, and engaging exercises, the authors provide expert guidance on how to manage painful feelings, and move toward a greater sense of hope and healing.

Mark S. Rye, PhD , professor of psychology at Skidmore College, and coauthor of The Divorce Recovery Workbook

I highly recommend The Rebuilding Workbook . Will Limn and Nina Hart-Fisher are introducing a new classic for anyone going through a breakup. Divorce alters your life, and here is the path to guide your direction. An interactive learning style provides you with specific tools and exercises that can be used to address your past losses and future growth. It combines psychological insight with experiential learning, a practical approach that is deep and comprehensive. Indispensable for divorce recovery today.

Norm Gibson, LCSW , former leader of Rebuilding Seminars in Boulder, CO, for more than twenty years; therapist with forty years experience

If you want to know how to accelerate your process of healing and moving forward after a relationship ends, this book is the definitive guide. Will and Nina combine clear explanations of the recovery process with meaningful action steps for moving onward. This book will help you navigate all aspects of the loss process, and lead you to new possibilities within the freedom to be yourself.

Bob Manthy, MA , owner of Rebuilding Seminars in Boulder, CO

Will Limn has a long career in helping individuals through one of lifes most challenging timesa relationship ending. Wills insight as a therapist and facilitator of the Rebuilding process are reflected in his sensitive approach in the writing, as well as in framing questions and reflections. This book will help the reader progress even further in the process of disentanglement, healing, and transformation. This workbook will be a very helpful companion to Rebuilding , a book that has been the textbook for the Rebuilding programs.

Nick Meima , CEO of After Divorce Support, teacher of the Rebuilding program to hundreds of students worldwide, and pioneer of the online Rebuilding program

Publishers Note

This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

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Copyright 2020 by Will Limn and Nina Hart-Fisher

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Names: Limon, Will, author. | Hart, Nina, 1947- author.

Title: The rebuilding workbook : step-by-step guidance for healing when your relationship ends / by Will Limon, MSW ; with Nina Hart-Fisher.

Description: Oakland, CA : Impact Publishers, an imprint of New Harbinger Publications, Inc., 2020. | Includes bibliographical references.

Identifiers: LCCN 2020019877 (print) | LCCN 2020019878 (ebook) | ISBN 9781684035397 (trade paperback) | ISBN 9781684035403 (pdf) | ISBN 9781684035410 (epub)

Subjects: LCSH: Divorce--Psychological aspects. | Divorced people--Life skills guides. | Separation (Psychology) | Man-woman relationships.

Classification: LCC HQ814 .L72 2020 (print) | LCC HQ814 (ebook) | DDC 306.89--dc23

LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2020019877

LC ebook record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2020019878

WILL

To all the participants in my many Rebuilding Seminars. May these pages reflect your abundant courage, strength, and willingness to grow and share your humanity. I have learned so much from all of you.

To Dr. Bruce Fisher, my friend, who dreamed of making the world a better place and succeeded by helping so many people rebuild their lives, mine being one of them.

To my family, thank you so much for your loving support:

My parents, Charles and Frances, passed on but never gone.

My siblings, Charlene and John, companions in life.

My son, Anthony, a bright light of enthusiasm and joy.

To my wife, Catherine, who continues to support my work, and shows me every day that the effort to have a truly loving relationship is the best work in the world.

NINA

To my family. Your love, caring, and support continue to sustain me.

Im forever grateful for those who have passed on:

My beloved husband, Dr. Bruce Fisher.

My remarkable parents, grandparents, and awesome brother, Dean.

My loving first-born daughter, Kelle.

My thanks for those with me now:

My dearest daughter, Kim, and her husband, Barry.

My cherished son, Dr. Robert Hart Fisher, and his wife, Katherine.

My precious grandchildrenMaddeson, Whitman, Keegan, Baden, Abby, and Deacon.

All of you remain in my heart.

Foreword:
by Robert Alberti, PhD

How does he know exactly what Im feeling?

In more than four decades as a psychologist, marriage and family therapist, author, and editor of popular and professional psychology books, I have known many, many therapists and authors who were influential and powerful in the lives of their clients and readers. None, however, were more influential, more powerful, or more downright practical than was Bruce Fisher.

And it was Bruce alone whose work brought readers to ask again and again, How does he know exactly what Im feeling? Bruce knew because hed been there. He listened. He paid attention. He studied the patterns that emerged from research with his Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale . And he created a programthe program youll discover in this workbookbased on what he learned.

This excellent update of Bruces nineteen-step model for divorce recovery has been prepared by his two closest teammates. Will Limn was Bruces first staff member in the Family Relations Learning Center, and taught the Fisher Divorce Seminar (now known as the Rebuilding Seminar) for over twenty years. Nina Hart-Fisher, Bruces widow, co-led many of the divorce seminars Bruce gave internationally, and co-authored his Loving Choices book and workbook. There could have been no better choice of authors for this work. Im delighted to offer this brief foreword as an invitation to you to read and benefit from it.