Kim Anderson - Unstuck: Letting Go of the Myths Keeping You from Who You Were Created to Be

For years, Kim Anderson has been one of my most trusted advisors for my books and research. Her wisdom and insight has made a great difference in my life and the lives of so many and now it can make a difference in yours. If you feel stuck in your personal development, marriage, relationships with friends, or any other area, this book will give you just the tools and encouragement you need to emerge from that rut and fly.

S HAUNTI F ELDHAHN , social researcher and best-selling author of For Women Only and Find Rest

Kims is a refreshing voice that names what we all know to be true: adults dont always act like adults and, sometimes, we get stuck. Unstuck shows women (and this man as well!) how to trade lives of frustration and complacency for purpose and passion, regardless of what the peer pressure might be. Highly recommend!

- S COTT S AULS , pastor of Christ Presbyterian Church in Nashville, Tennessee and author of four books, including Befriend and Irresistible Faith

For years, Kim has been an exceptional and out of the box coach and counselor, blending brain science and self-development into her own unique approach that has helped shift the lives of many. Unstuck shares the very best of her unique perspective and practices. Reading her words feels like theres a hand on your shoulder, comforting you and pushing you forward at the same time. No question in mind, if youre feeling lost, uninspired, overwhelmed or stuck, youre holding hope and help in your hands. Read. This. Book.

- C HANCE S COGGINS , Life & Business Coach, Founder of Life Relaunch

Every time I speak on the subject of girls, I talk about how profoundly hard girls are on themselves. And then, I turn to the moms in the room and say, And you are grown up little girls. This book speaks to the grown-up girl inside of youwho is still profoundly hard on herself, but has found those myths youve believed since somewhere around the age of 13 even more twisted around your heart. I am thrilled to introduce you to Kim Anderson. Her voice is one I trust deeply. Its a voice of compassion, wisdom, warmth, and refreshing truth. This book will help free you from those myths and discover more of who she is cheering you on to be through every page of this bookyou!

- S ISSY G OFF , Author of Are My Kids on Track and Director of Child & Adolescent Counseling at Daystar Counseling Ministries, Nashville, TN

Much of our work in caring for kids is supporting moms-reminding them were on their team and theyre doing great, in a world that is heaping expectation, criticism and comparison on them. Kim Anderson is cheering them and helping women dissect the messages they are getting from way too many places. Im so grateful for Kim and for Unstuck .

- D AVID T HOMAS , Author of Intentional Parenting and Director of Family Counseling, Daystar Counseling Ministries, Nashville, TN

Anchored in scripture, Unstuck is an encouragement for women to speak truth to one another. Kim not only talks the talk, but walks the walk as well, as she exemplifies the same vulnerability she tells women to embrace and drops the faade of perfection to share her own stories and struggles.

- S ARAH N USE , founder of Tippi Toes Inc, host of Destined for Greatness podcast and Shark Tank alum

For any woman who feels stuck, Unstuck covers it all- personal development, relationships with friends, marriage, the whole lot of it. Kim speaks to the hearts of women who have been working at this life thing for a while and lets them know they are not alone. Emerging from the rut is possible.

- L ORI Z ABKA , Certified Nutrition Coach, Fitness Trainer, and co-host of the Coming Un.glued Podcast

A refusal to watch women punish themselves any longer, Unstuck lovingly dispels the myths that keep women stuck.

- C ARLA P ONCIROLI B ABB , LPC-MHSP, Owner, Cypress Counseling Group, PLLC

You dont have to be a mom or even a Christian to benefit from the timely and practical insight in Unstuck. This guide is for any woman who feels stuck and doesnt know how to get past the obstacles in her life.

- N OAH Z APF , PhD, LPC

LETTING GO OF THE MYTHS
KEEPING YOU FROM WHO
YOU ARE CREATED TO BE

KIM ANDERSON

NEW YORK

LONDONNASHVILLEMELBOURNEVANCOUVER

unstuck

Letting Go of the Myths Keeping You from Who You Are Created to Be

2020 Kim Anderson

All rights reserved. No portion of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any meanselectronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, scanning, or otherexcept for brief quotations in critical reviews or articles, without the prior written permission of the publisher.

Published in New York, New York, by Morgan James Publishing. Morgan James is a trademark of Morgan James, LLC. www.MorganJamesPublishing.com

Scripture is from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version. ESV Text Edition: 2016. Copyright 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.

The information in this book is based on the research and experience of the author. It is not intended to be medical advice, or to be used as a substitute for consulting with your practioner or physician. The information in this book is to be used for informational and educational purposes only. You must consult your doctor before using any information in this book, changing your lifestyle, or taking up any therapies used or discussed by the author. Kim Anderson, or any persons mentioned in this book, are not responsible for any adverse effects or consequences resulting from the suggestions in the book.

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A special thank you to my family, Dave, Keilah, and Luke. Your patience, support, and encouragement mean everything to me. You picked up the slack where I dropped balls in this process, never complaining. You inspire me toward continuous growth and I am grateful for you.

And to the women who have sat with me and shared their stories, thank you for trusting me. I believe your courage will empower others to face their own journeys.

T his is the part of the book where I tell you why I am writing. Let me start by saying that Im not writing because the process of writingsitting for uninterrupted periods of time with only my laptop for companyintrigues me. In fact, sitting alone goes against my extroverted nature. I would rather be doing almost anything than sitting by myself, trying to explain my thoughts through carefully constructed sentences.

Instead, I would much rather be sitting with you at your local coffee shop, getting to know you over a latte. Through conversation, I would learn your story, your struggles, and your hopes and dreams. You might tell me about thoughts and patterns that are keeping you stuck, coming between you and the life you desire. I would want to join with you on your journey, pulling out your inner brilliance and calling attention to all the strengths and resources you already have.

Me and you and a latte thats how I wish this could go down. I would never choose to sit down by myself and write it all out to you. But, over time, I felt the Lord nudging me to share these messages with a wider audiencemaking the whole coffee shop idea seem a little less feasible.