Monica Spannbauer - Now Im That Bitch?: For Women Who Give Their All To Everyone But Themselves

Now Im That Bitch!?

Now Im That Bitch!?

For Women Who Give Their All to
Everyone but Themselves

Monica Spannbauer

Now Im That Bitch!?
Copyright 2014 by Monica Spannbauer

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Trade Paperback ISBN: 978-1-939447-77-7
Ebook ISBN: 978-1-939447-78-4

Printed in the United States of America

This book is dedicated to all the women
in the world who never put themselves first.
Youre worth it.

Contents

Chapter 15: And Now Im That Bitch!
(Songs Dedicated to the Bitch).

THERE COMES A POINT in a girls life when she figures it all out. For some, this awakening occurs at a young age. For others, learning lifes little lessons is literally like beating a dead horse, and upon her deathbed, the light bulb clicks. Regardless of when that ah ha moment happens, it is the most invigorating moment of realization. The Bitch book was right.

Ever heard of the Bitch series of books: Why Men Marry Bitches, etcetera? I read this book from cover to cover. Then I waited, impatiently, for that magical moment when lightning would strike, my frog prince would kiss me, and, love, finally, would turn me into such a woman. Time passed and nothing happened for me. I dated, and when the relationship failed, I chalked it up to wasted time on yet another douche bag. What is the saying You dont learn from your successes? Well, heres to learning from your mistakes! My failed relationships, if nothing else, inspired me to fill in some gaps. Wait I mean giant potholes, which, if left unpatched, couldve greatly derailed me a few years ago.

Before I read the Bitch books, I felt as if I was constantly playing games in my relationships or desperately missing something. But once I discovered the series and started applying the teachings to my life and relationships, something clicked. There was that pivotal moment where all the pieces actually fit together. It was the moment when all the tears over all the boys seemed like dust in the proverbial rearview mirror. This is the moment when a woman realizes she too can be and is the bitch. Such a power lives within all of us females, and, like a determined athlete, once it fixes itself on the goal, there is no stopping the beast inside. Its the time when our feeling of confidence doesnt just last a day, or a week, or till we find the next empty relationship that we find ourselves in (yet again!). Nope! This is the moment when we know we are worth it. When that age-old saying of You cant love another until you love yourself becomes an indisputable truth and not just grandma blowing smoke. This moment is like becoming one of the X-Men, when the super power of making life about you hits. This is the moment when you literally feel like Jean Gray; and for those who are not X-Men fans, look it up. (If you dont do anything at all but Google Jean Grays power, you are set.)

I mean, how would you feel about yourself if you had the power to control someones thoughts or actions? Or simply cause them to implode from your thought.

Okay, maybe that is a bit extreme and might sound a bit psycho, but doesnt everyone deserve some measure of control? And when I say control, I mean control of yourself. And, of course, not all women are capable of being this so called bitch. It is very difficult for someobviously, myself included. But, read on, and be assured that it is within your reach. And you are worth it!

I grew up in a typical dysfunctional family. You know the onedivorced mom, adopted dad, step siblings, constant bickering between mom and dad about how much dad is not meeting her needs, and how much mom does or does not do to make the relationship work. If you dont know this scenario, let me lay it out for you.

My mother walked around with a front bigger than John Holmes. Yeah, you read it right. You would have thought she had a fully fanned-out Pea-Cock. She exuded confidence, but in all the wrong ways. To put it plainly, she was a bitch in all the wrong ways. Overly confident women are like men with huge off-roading trucks. They all walk around like a chicken hawk, cause, well lets face it they lack confidence. Ever watch UFC or boxing, or just a school fight? Who is the toughest nine times out of ten? Its the one who says the least. The one who doesnt have to talk the talk, because they can certainly walk the walk. Someone doesnt have to repeatedly tell everyone they are loyal, or beautiful, or tough, or anything unless they are, in fact, attempting to convince themselves.

Think about it this way. What girl gets all the attention when out and about? Well, the right kind of attention that is. Its the girl who silently smiles while waiting for her drink, who also never buys her own drink. She is the girl who doesnt have to give her number out, just cause she feels bad for the guy who mustered up enough courage to ask for it. Shes the girl who doesnt revolve her life around meeting a guy, and the girl who isnt single for long. This is only because she chooses so. She is the confident bitch.

Why am I hammering this into you? Its because I know every one of you reading this book wishes desperately to be that girl. The thought of not having dessert to a person who has a major sweet tooth can seem like the end of the world. A gluten-free diet seems like mission impossible to an Italian. Tapping into your athletic abilities seems hopeless to the geek. I know we live in a society where the underdog always wins in movies, but Hollywood is not reality, girls. Being the bitch isand I am writing this to prove to all the ladies that she does, indeed, exist.

So sit back take it all in and remember to live a little, laugh a lot, and know that love is right around the corner. Because it is all about finding you not him!

Ok, so we made it past the introduction. Some of you probably didnt even read it. If you are one of those, I highly recommend you go back. This book is like a dummys guide to finding love, except you are not the dummy. Dummy is such a derogatory term, dont ya think? Calling someone a bitch can also be viewed as derogatory, so lets establish something before going on.

Becoming the bitch does not mean you are a black-hearted, soulless womanand yes, I have been called this before. Nor does it mean you are a female dog in heat.

Being the bitch simply means you are a confident, self-sufficient woman, who is not trying to find herself in a man. And lets face it most women do just this. We may not want to admit we do, but we do. God made us different than men.

We are nurturers, enablers, and compassionate individuals who are willing to put our own needs second, third, and sometimes last. Being like this is not necessarily a bad trait, so please dont misunderstand my message. Nurturing individuals are caring, loving, selfless people, who are far from being narcissistic. And this is a good thing because it takes all walks of life to make the world go round.

Lets switch gears.

If you Google the word narcissism, men fit the demographic more than women. I am not trying to come down on men, cause trust me,