Tobias Atkins - How I Overcame Social Anxiety (And How You Can Too!): An Introverts Guide to Recovering From Social Anxiety, Self-Doubt and Low Self-Esteem

How I Overcame
SOCIAL

ANXIETY

(AND HOW YOU CAN TOO!)

AN INTROVERTS GUIDE TO RECOVERING FROM SOCIAL ANXIETY, SELF-DOUBT AND LOW SELF-ESTEEM.

by

Tobias J. Atkins

http://www.socialanxietyacademy.com/

2016 Tobias J. Atkins

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CONTENTS

I Stopped Looking for My Worth Outside of Myself (Self-Love,
Part 2)

Its Not the Event That Hurts: Its the Meaning We Give to
the Event

I Stopped Taking Things So Personally (Not Everything Is
about Me)

Watch Your Mouth! (I Worked on My Self-Talk until My Worst
Enemy Became My Best Friend)

What to Do When Youre Feeling Anxious or Self-Conscious (This
Is What I Did)

Rationalizations & Excuses: Are You Lying to Yourself to Justify
Your Avoidance Behaviors?

Social Confidence Building Exercises: Some of the Ways I Became
More Social

Keep Seeing the Big PictureIts a Gradual Process, Not an On
Off Switch

FOREWORD

G O APPROACH THAT GIRL and tell her she looks absolutely gorgeous said the smooth looking Italian guy next to me with a mohawk and dark shades.

Um, Iuh my mouth immediately went dry and I tried to think of any reason not to go embarrass myself in the middle of Leicester Square in broad daylight.

Come on, do it, before she walks away! he insisted.

This was the first exercise on the first day of a Summer long program I joined - at no small expense - to build my confidence and competence with the opposite sex and I was considering dropping out before we even got started.

Dude, last chance

So I walked over, heart pounding in my chest, and mustered up all the courage I could.

Hi, excuse me, I stammered as I got her attention, I just wanted to say that you look absolutely gorgeous today as my face flushed and my knees almost buckled.

Awwww, thats so sweet, thank you and she smiled a genuinely appreciative smile.

Youre welcome. Well, um, have a great day I said walking backwards a step or two before turning around and heading back to the coach who gave me a wink and a nod and said Nicenow go tell her.

This was going to be a long Summer.

Fast forward 8 weeks and not only had I initiated conversations with well over 1,000 girls, some of which (fortunately) lasted more than 5 seconds, but I had completely transformed everything I thought I knew about social dynamics and human interaction. And in the years since I became a dating and confidence coach myself, working with hundreds of guys all around the world to help them overcome social anxiety and express themselves more confidently and congruently in all aspects of life.

Ive worked with former U.S. Special Forces operatives who said they wouldnt think twice about running towards the sound of live ammunition, but couldnt muster the courage to give a girl a compliment. And Ive worked with successful entrepreneurs and executives who manage teams of hundreds of people, but couldnt figure out why they were still single and lonely. It is a surprising phenomenon that something as simple as talking to a stranger can strike fear into the heart of the battle hardened and business savvy. But it turns out that the fear of rejection can be more powerful than the threat of clear and present danger.

Looking beyond the realm of dating and relationships, the reality is that a great many people experience social anxiety in some shape or form. Rationally it may not make any sense, and its easy to resort to platitudes like If it doesnt work out, youll be in the same place you are now . But that doesnt speak to the emotional turmoil that accompanies the thought of being rejected, or worse derided, for speaking up and saying what is really on your mind.

Since youve picked up this book, there is a good chance that you have felt this way before and are looking for a solution to finally overcome the self-imposed pressures of being comfortable and at ease in social situations. If that is the case, then youre in the right place because in this book Tobias Atkins will share his story of struggling with, and ultimately overcoming a severe case of social anxiety, in addition to innumerable practical tips and strategies for how you can too.

If youre struggling with social anxiety, you may not think or believe that it is actually possible to overcome this condition. To manage or mitigate it perhaps, but not to truly move beyond the struggle and feel comfortably and at ease at work, at school, with friends and family, or even at a party. Well the good news is that you can , and by taking to heart the lessons Tobias shares, you will!

From doing a deep dive on your thoughts and beliefs, to analyzing your actions and exposure, Tobias provides a roadmap derived from his own personal journey from social paralysis to happiness and ease. Along the way he supplements his own experience with facts, science and actionable steps that you can take starting today .

That is not to say the journey will be easy or you can change deeply ingrained thought patterns and behaviors overnight. But it is to say that by taking incremental steps in a new direction, embracing new thought patterns and behaviors, and taking responsibility for creating the life you want and deserve, you can create a new reality for yourself. A reality where you look forward to going out, meeting new people and genuinely enjoying the company of others. That is the value of How I Overcame Social Anxiety (And How You Can Too!) and I hope this book serves you well today, tomorrow and all the days of your life.

To your social success,

Jesse Krieger
Founder of Lifestyle Entrepreneurs Press
Pisac, Peru

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

I VE HAD MANY TEACHERS along my journey, coming in many shapes and forms (anxiety being one of them). I would like to thank every one of them for providing me the lessons that have shaped me into the person I am today.

To all the people who have helped me in my life, theres no way I could ever fully repay you. However, I promise to do everything in my power to pay it forward.