Natasha Adamo - Win Your Breakup

This book is for YOU. It is written as though I am speaking directly to you because I am. I see myself in you; I see my own experiences and pain in yours. There is not a word I have written in this book where you were not on my mind.

How am I so sure that this book is for you?

You would never have picked up a book called Win Your Breakup if your breakup had not been reduced to what feels like a game that you now have to win to emotionally survive and move on. And that reduction can only take place if you are going through a breakup with a toxic person. Anyone who gets validation by exploiting your hunger for theirs is, in my opinion, toxic to your peace, your life, and your mental health.

Winning your breakup is not about acting on vengeful feelings, becoming a carrot-dangling tactician, or playing games. Its about a willingness to do what you have never done before and having the courage to look in the mirror. Its about using spiteful feelings to your dignified advantage after realizing youve invested in a dead end.

Unlike a game, breakups are won through resignation. Theyre won by giving up on trying to make sense out of nonsense. Theyre won by realizing that the real win was losing a partner who does not have the ability to meet you anywhere close to halfway. This mentality is what dismantles toxic people. They dont know what to do when everything they relied on to feel powerful and significant is no longer there. Starting with your low self-esteem, lack of boundaries, and desperation for a crumb of their attention.

A new identity and existence are waiting for you at the end of this journey. A life with relationships that you dont have to tolerate, apologize, and eggshell walk your way through. A life where you can call your own relational shots. A life where your ex regrets the day they ever decided to breach your trust and break your heart. A life where those who took you for granted wish you could find a way back into theirs. A life where you can choose to walk away from toxicityinstead of trying to be whatever someone may want, may commit to, may be honest with, and may treat with respect.

That life is about to be your own.

And although I can lead you to everything that you know you want and deserve, the one thing I cannot do is control how hungry you are for bettera better relationship with yourself, first and foremost, and a better life. The problem is, better is not familiar, and the unfamiliar is scary. But I am here with you, each and every step of the way.

You will learn more about me throughout this journey, but I want to make it very clear that my education has not come from a classroom, a certification program, or a license of any kind. It has come from my own life experiences. I do not speak from any kind of psychological high horse, nor do I claim to know all the answers.

But I have been in your shoes. I have gone through breakups that have left me suicidal and made me feel like I had no choice but to abandon my dignity, moral code, and intuitionjust so I could get more time with an ex who had no problem wasting mine. I know what its like to feel completely defeated, emotionally knocked down, and left for dead.

I also know what its like to experience the kind of freedom and satisfaction of getting up off the ground in a way no one ever thought I could.

Now its your turn.