Brenda Hill - How to Talk to Anyone in Any Situation: Unlock the Secrets of Effective Communication

Before we can bring ourselves to the techniques and facts, we have to first learn what communication is. What is it? How does it work? Without being able to answer the basic questions of communication, you will not be able to successfully communicate.

Its like trying to predict the future. How would you be able to predict what will happen if you dont first look at the repetition of the past? Core knowledge is the stepping-stone of advance knowledge.

So, what is communication? Communication is the act of talking, or a conversation between two individuals or a group of people.

For ironically, despite the fact that communication is a natural ability that we were born with, it is also the hardest ability for us to improve on.

Some people, on the other hand, cannot communicate at all. These are the people that tend to stay within their closed shell and try their best to stay silent.

Then there are those that are unable to voice their thoughts properly. The point is, there is a wrong way to communicate and your goal is to communicate the right way.

If youve never thought about it until now, many conflicts - like war - often stem from the act of miscommunication.

Words are powerful and, if conveyed improperly, it can be viewed as offensive to the other party whether you mean it or not.

The number one reason why miscommunication tends to occur is because the speaker does not take the listener into considering. The speaker might say something that seems as a joke to him, but proven offensive to the listener.

The main reason why because the speaker may have disregarded the listeners circumstances, past, state of mind, or even culture. Think about it. If you were a speaker and you made a light joke about someones race in an attempt to be funny, you will either receive a laugh in return or a slap to the face.

Its good to add humor to the conversation sometimes, but be careful as to what joke you tell to the person thats listening.

Also, with the raging technological advancements that are presented to us in the present day, personal communication has dimmed itself down thanks to the use of social networking and the Internet.

Before, almost all conversations were done face to face. Nowadays, almost all conversations are done throughout the Internet. Rather than sending mails with written letters, people are now emailing them all over.

Granted, its convenient, quick, and easy, but too much use of it will cause you to deny human interaction.

They say that every person has two faces, a personal face and a public face. When you communicate with someone face to face, you try to act your best.

However, when that same person interacts with other people online, would you believe that they are the same?

The reason why communication is so difficult in the present day is because many people do not bother to publicly interact with each other. The more technologically advance our society becomes, the more emotionally detached we are.

In addition, the quality of a conversation decreases over time. One-worded replies are too often used because the other party does not know what to say and the speaker does not know how to continue the conversation.

Even so, having the right people skill is one of the foremost requirements that are needed for you to survive and succeed in this world. You cannot get by without the help of the people around you.

Therefore, its about time you start to learn how you can properly communicate with them if you want to get anywhere in life.

So, for the next two sections in this chapter, we will be going over what a great communicator does and what the benefits of a good conversationalist is.

Everybody communicates. Therefore, everybody is a communicator. However, a good communicator is able to express his message across to his audience just enough for them to understand.

However, a great communicator is able to express his message clearly to his audience while paying attention to their reaction and making sure that his listeners understand what he is saying.

He pays attention to every detail that his audience sends out and puts his audience in the center of his attention until the conversation has ended. He knows his way around with words and he is sure to confidently portray what he wants his audience to hear.

Despite the audience, a great communicator will make the conversation work no matter how many times he has to change his words around or change the subject.