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In Celebration of This Time I Dance!
If youre ready to make the journey into the life of living your dreams, Tama J. Kieves is the tour guide youve been looking for. This book is brilliant. It will have a long-lasting impact on all those brave enough to embrace their own magnificence. I simply loved every word.
BARBARA J. WINTER, AUTHOR OF Making a Living Without a Job
This Time I Dance! is a powerful song for the soul from one who has mastered the steps.Tama Kieves reminds us of the power in dancing to your own music.
IYANLA VANZANT, AUTHOR OF In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want
There is an authenticity to Tama Kievess storya speaking from the heart with feet firmly planted in the soil of daily life. Her story will encourage and give you concrete, helpful suggestions on how you can do the same.
ORIAH MOUNTAIN DREAMER, AUTHOR OF The Invitation, The Dance, AND The Call
An inspiring demonstration of creating the work you love. Tama Kieves has done it, and she shares it with vibrant authenticity.
RICK JAROW, AUTHOR OF Creating the Work You Love: Courage, Commitment, and Career
Tama gives voice to the fearless spirit within each of us. If you want to wake up to your own purpose and passion, read this book. It will open your heart and guide you home.
RHONDA BRITTEN, AUTHOR OF Fearless Living AND Fearless Loving
This Time I Dance! beckons one to waltz with the Divine. It will move you to follow your own dream starting right now.
SONIA CHOQUETTE, PH.D., AUTHOR OF Your Hearts Desire
Tama J. Kieves writes with real honesty and compassion, and makes a compelling case for the passionate life. Her beautiful book is a great big voice of Yes!
GREGG LEVOY, AUTHOR OF Callings: Finding and Following an Authentic Life
This Time I Dance! is a creative persons bible! With heart and humor, it illuminates and validates everything you feel when you dare to leave the conventional world to live a more self-expressed life. It really hits home.
ANGELIQUE MATNEY, PRINCIPAL, THE JURISDOCTOR, CAREER EMPOWERMENT AND TRANSITION SUPPORT SERVICES FOR ATTORNEYS
A compelling and elegantly crafted choreography of one brave womans pas de deux with her real, true life. Tama J. Kieves tells the story of her creative homecoming in a voice of vibrant passion. Whether you read this book as visionary memoir or pragmatic how-to manual, youll be inspired and energized to take steps, large or small, in the direction of your dream.
KATHLEEN ADAMS, M.A., AUTHOR OF Journal to the Self
This Time I Dance! is a powerful soul message, and an energizing, comforting, substantial book for everyone who longs for work and a life that resonates, contributes, and shines a bright light.
SARK, AUTHOR OF Make Your Creative Dreams REAL AND SARKs New Creative Companion
Tama J. Kieves sticks with you like glue. She presents over and over ways to conquer your resistance to doing what you really want. I heartily recommend This Time I Dance! to career counselors and their clients.
JUDY OKEEFE, M.A., CAREER COUNSELOR
Tama J. Kieves understood that name and fame could not buy her happiness. So she took a big risk. She left a life dedicated to pleasing others in order to discover her own life and live it. That choice gave her freedom. It can give you freedom, too.
PAUL FERRINI, AUTHOR OF The Wisdom of the Self and Love Without Conditions
I dedicate this book to that part of myself that inched forward
when a thousand winds blew and she had but one small pink
birthday candle to hold up her wish. I now dedicate this book
and my life to that gleaming one and the one in all of us who
listens to the music more than the reproach of the mind
and who dances as if the music were boisterous enough
for all to hearuntil of course it is.
Follow Your Love Instead of Your Fear
I started my career transition by trusting in something I couldnt prove. And now you hold that amazing proof in your hands.
For everyone who has ever told you that you want too much in life, or that its dangerous to choose with your heart, please consider this: If I had listened to others or my doubting mind, this book would have been a buried dream and an aching weight upon my soul. Because I listened to my heart, this book is in your hands and I am free.
This Time I Dance! shares the story of how I discovered my dream and found enough bare courage to choose it, over and over again, and create the passionate life that called to me. But I wanted to tell you this one story that came after I wrote this book. To date, its the coolest story of my life.
I wrote this book over a period of twelve years. I did not have a literary agent or a publisher. Of course, I did have a fifteen-pound gray cat who seemed to believe in me profoundly. But I had no contract or cachet in the real world. And every day, as if to taunt my resolve, brand-new published books on creating the work you love proliferated like dandelions after rain. So you could say I didnt have a publishing prayer.
Yet I did. I had a persistent desire to write this book and craft a life that somehow made sense to me. It wouldnt leave me alone. The truth never leaves us alone. And I sometimes found this secret reservoir of mysterious strength inside myself, a sense that I was supposed to do thisand that things would turn out all right.
Still, I couldnt exactly put my Harvard-trained lawyers mind, logical and probing, on pause for long and sprawl out in the lawn chair of trust.There were many days when analyzing turned into terrorizing and paralyzing myself. If I was confident on Wednesday, I could be chewing my hair by Thursday, dreading my now obvious future of living on cold, wet streets without enough money for retirement or a skim-milk latte. Then on Saturday, Id be lusciously inspired again, convinced I was born to write this book, born to write a hundred books, and closer to dancing in the streets than living on them. This was, and continues to be, a breath-by-breath journey of choosing to trust the safety and genius inherent in my heart.
Like many writers, I fantasized about a big New York publisher scooping me up in its muscular business arms and lifting my creative work up into the spotlight as though I were a delicate, though accomplished, ballerina. But there was no scooping going on. Instead, I harvested my share of form-letter rejection slips from agents, wishing me the best in my endeavors and slamming doors shut with elegant letterhead.
One day, weighing my situation, I scrawled in my journal: Just put it in the river. I knew this meant to just go ahead and self-publish my manuscript and get it out to readersinto the streamin any way I could. The loving side of myself saw this choice as a staunch commitment to my passion and mission. But a less positive part of me, a little freaked-out, repetitive, and grating, saw starting a publishing company as a madwomans gesture of vanity and delusionand a hideous waste of money. So I had to ask myself, again, as I did so many times on this path: Was I believing in my dreams or was I just dreaming? In the end, I decided that Id written a book about trusting the journey.That prompted me to take one last step in trusting my own.