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1. How Do You Feel Right Now?
Does your life feel like a battle or an uphill struggle most of the time?
Do you feel that a lot of the time your life is frustrating and just hard work with little reward?
Do things always seem to go wrong?
Things have not turned out how you would have wanted them to?
You dont have the life you would have wished for by now?
You dont feel particularly happy?
This is not the life you planned for yourself when you were growing up?
You dont seem to have much luck?
You often feel angry and resentful or jealous?
You frequently seem to be having disagreements and arguments?
You dont get on with a number of people in your life?
Life is just not fair?
You sometimes feel that there must be more to this life than this?
In fact overall your life is pretty much a disappointment?
How many of those statements describe how you feel now?
Well youve got to trust me when I say it really does not have to be this way. There really is a better life waiting for you. It is already there and you can start living it. You just need the key to know how to unlock it. This book can give you that key.
You just need to approach your life differently. You need to change how you think, and what you think, and everything else will follow. You may have heard and read stuff before about how we attract our lives and maybe dismissed it as mumbo jumbo. You maybe think you would have to be from another planet to believe such notions. But, you know, we really do attract our lives and make our own lives and it is not for any supernatural or mystical reasons that are hard to believe. The reasons why this is so are much closer to home and in this book I will give you rational and perfectly simple explanations as to why and how all the time that we are attracting the life that unfolds for us.
And dont think you can just opt out. No thanks. None of that attracting your life stuff for me. You dont have any choice. Everyone is attracting their lives all the time and always have been; they just do not necessarily know how and why they are doing it. You are already attracting your life. You always have been so dont think this is something youre not interested in starting to do. You are already doing it. So maybe now is the time to learn how to control what you attract in your life?
Many people naively believe that their life is being dealt to them like playing cards and they have no control over it. But I tell you now this is absolutely not the case. I will show you how, with your particular thoughts and attitudes you are attracting your current life. Most importantly I will also show you how by changing your thoughts, you can attract the life you wish for. BOLD CLAIMS, I hear you say. But as you read this book you will start to understand how life works and see how and why there are so many reasons why we attract the lives we have.
Think about this: You can work towards a time when you will feel able to skip and dance through life feeling happy and content and that your life is wonderful, and that it is fun to be you, and that you are a lucky person. How does that sound? These are not just wild promises. This book can show you how.
2. How Would You Like Your Life To Change?
I really do understand how you may currently be feeling unhappy, discontented and disappointed and believe me you are not alone. The negative influences of modern Western culture is leading vast numbers of people into the unhappiness trap.
So what are you seeking?
What are you looking to change?
How would you like things to be different?
Here are some of the ways that people express what they would wish for. People say to me:
They would simply like to feel that their life was OK.
They would like to live a life where they feel they are good enough.
They would like to live a life that was fun and joyful.
They would like to feel their life was good.
They would like to feel content with their life.
They would just like their life to be better.
They would like better relationships with some of the important people in their life.
They would just like to be happier.
Many people enjoy their lives moment by moment and are happy. You can be one of them. You can join them. There is absolutely no reason why you too cannot feel this way. It is up to you. There is a better life that is yours to have. It has your name on it. You just need to unlock it.
Now I am not saying that it will be easy for you to change; I am not offering a quick fix and it will not be a quick job. You will have to truly and honestly want these changes for yourself, and you will have to accept and believe what this book tells you, and be prepared to work at it and expect some setbacks. Overnight change is not possible. You are going to need to change some of your ways of thinking and attitudes that you have held for a very long time, but if you really commit to it you can do it. And let me assure you the prize is huge; you really can have that better life you desire.
And what I can guarantee is right from the outset you will start to experience at least small improvements in your fortunes and feelings about your life. Your life will start to feel a little better right from the outset, and will continue to improve day- by- day. It is a great feeling when you know you have finally taken a step in the right direction. A step towards your better life.
3. So What Do We Mean By Being Happier Exactly?
We need to spend a little time on this because understanding this is essential for understanding what you will be aiming to achieve in changing your life. There is a lot of misunderstanding surrounding this and the terms are often misused.
Happy and happiness are extremely overworked words nowadays and occasionally the way they are used and abused makes me cringe. I read a book last year about finding happiness written by a Psychology Professor, who should have known better, who asserted that happiness should be reserved for a class of emotional experiences that are pleasurable and enjoyable. He went on to pose the question as to whether the happiness one gets from eating banana cream pie is different from the happiness one gets from eating coconut cream pie.