Pat Divilly - Upgrade Your Life: Setting Goals for Business and Personal Development Success

This edition first published 2017
2017 Pat Divilly

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Names: Divilly, Pat, author.

Title: Upgrade your life : how to take back control and achieve your goals / Pat Divilly.

Description: Chichester, United Kingdom : John Wiley & Sons, 2017. | Includes index.

Identifiers: LCCN 2016027832| ISBN 9780857087263 (pbk.) | ISBN 9780857087256 (epub)

Subjects: LCSH: Goal (Psychology) | Change (Psychology) | Success.

Classification: LCC BF505.G6 D58 2017 | DDC 650.1dc23 LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2016027832

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ISBN 978-0-857-08726-3 (paperback) ISBN 978-0-857-08710-2 (ebk)ISBN 978-0-857-08725-6 (ebk)

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Dedicated to my parents who taught me the value of working hard, living simply and the importance of being kind to anyone who crosses my path. For this and so much more, I am thankful and grateful I get to be your son.

Set Your Intention

Success is reserved for the people who never give up.

Pat Divilly

You have picked up this book for a reason, and I have no doubt you'll get a lot from it and the exercises within it, but as you'll find out later in the book, you're much more likely to get what you want when you are specific on your goals. So, before you read any further, I would like you to set your intention on what exactly it is you want to achieve by reading Upgrade Your Life. Rather than looking at this book as just another big bulk of information or another form of entertainment, I want you to look at it as the spark that will fuel your new way of living. Before going even a page further, ask yourself the following questions: What kind of person do you want to become? What kind of life do you want to live? What career do you want? What adventures do you want to have and enjoy?

Whatever it is, decide on it now and write it below. Once you have employed the rituals outlined in this book for the timeframe I recommend, you will one day be able to look back on these goals and realize you have achieved them!

Your Name Here: __________________________________________

Set Your Intention for the Book:

Before you can change the marketplace or people's attitudes, you must first change what's going on between your ears. When I wrote Upgrade Your Life, I did so with some very strong intentions in mind. I want to provide you with a structured plan that will enable you to achieve your goals in life and business, but more importantly, I want to change your perspective.

This isn't a book filled with positive affirmations, nor is it a book that will dole out the same ol' information you've read in many a self-improvement book before. I regularly give motivational seminars, and each one has been a massive success with every seat selling out in no time. My seminars were so successful because the information I provided to those in attendance actually worked. It was an equal blend of theory with action. I have now taken my formula for success and put it into this book for you to use. The exercises and ideas in this book helped me go from working in a pizza restaurant to having my own fitness business with 10,000 clients all over the world. It helped my 50-year-old client Tommy Palmer go from being unhappy and overweight to qualifying as a personal trainer; it has helped 34-year-old Gill go from being unhappy with her life to taking charge and opening two now hugely successful restaurants. You will read more about Tommy's and Gill's stories later on in the book.

We upgrade our cars, our computers, and our phones, but what about our rituals, our mind-sets, and our ways of thinking? Trust me, when you start to dream creatively and take action, you discover a whole new perspective of how great things could be. There's any amount of self-help books out there it's an industry in itself but what I want to introduce in this book is a practical approach to this. It's a combination of my own experience and lessons learned from my own mentors.

Of all the lessons and rituals outlined in this book, improving the way in which you speak to yourself is ultimately the most important one of all in this process. Willpower with the success journal will only get you so far. To enjoy sustainable change over time, you will need to improve your internal dialogue as this will become the most pivotal factor. I'm sure this is something you have read before, especially if you're a reader of self-development books. Now is the time you need to apply this advice.

Pat, the European Director of Facebook phoned, and he wants you to call him back. That was the message waiting for me when I arrived in the gym one morning back in 2014. I thought it was a joke. Turns out it wasn't! Ciarn Quilty, the European Director for Facebook, really did want to speak with me, and the shock didn't end there either. Ciarn told me that the Facebook team had been sharing the Pat Divilly Fitness story at conferences around the world and now they wanted me to join a small group of fellow entrepreneurs at the Facebook HQ in Dublin for a special event. This wasn't a usual get together, something I realized when Ciarn told me that the company's Chief Operational Officer, Sheryl Sandberg, was going to be in attendance. The event was to be the first Facebook Small Business Council, so they wanted to bring together a small handful of business owners who were using the platform effectively. We were all from very different industries, but with Facebook as our primary means of publicity.