Kim Marcille Romaner - The Science of Making Things Happen: Turn Any Possiblity Into Reality

THE SCIENCE
OF MAKING
THINGS HAPPEN

THE SCIENCE
OF MAKING
THINGS HAPPEN

Turn Any Possibility into Reality

KIM MARCILLE ROMANER

New World Library
Novato, California

Copyright 2010 by Kim Marcille Romaner

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Romaner, Kim Marcille.
The science of making things happen : turn any possibility into reality / Kim Marcille Romaner.

p. cm.

Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 978-1-57731-853-8 (pbk. : alk. paper)

1. Change (Psychology) 2. Success. 3. Self-actualization (Psychology)
I. Title.
BF637.C4R66 2010

158dc22

2010001710

First printing, May 2010
ISBN 978-1-57731-853-8
Printed in the United States on 30% postconsumer-waste recycled paper

New World Library is a proud member of the Green Press Initiative.

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For Zack

INTRODUCTION
Discovering the Science of Making Your Dreams Come True

PART I. THE FIVE SECRETS FROM SCIENCE
FOR CREATING THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMS

CHAPTER 1
Choosing with the Universe
Possibility Served Up on a Platinum Platter

CHAPTER 2
Your Brain on Chaos Theory
A Real, Live Dream Machine

CHAPTER 3
Epigenetics
Changing Yourself Is an Outside Job

CHAPTER 4
Decoherence
Living on the Edge between Possibility and Reality

CHAPTER 5
The Inverse Zeno Effect
Accelerating the Realization of Your Dreams

PART II. APPLYING THE FIVE SECRETS
FROM SCIENCE IN YOUR LIFE

CHAPTER 6
Amp Up Your Wealth
Bringing the Buried Treasure to the Surface

CHAPTER 7
Amp Up Your Career
Maximizing Your Chosen Pursuit

CHAPTER 8
Amp Up Your Love Life and Relationships
Intensifying Your Connections

CHAPTER 9
Amp Up Your Health and Appearance
Creating Your Ultimate Self

CHAPTER 10
Amp Up Your Giving and Community Connection
Enhancing the Two-Way Flow of Gifts

I GRATEFULLY ACKNOWLEDGE THE GUIDANCE , laughter, and support of my editor, Stephanie Gunning, without whom this book would be something else entirely. Also the persistent nature of my agent, Stephany Evans, who was unwilling to let me write it down and then not share it with the world. Finally, thank you to Michael for loving me and reminding me to trust the universe as my partner.

Discovering the Science of Making
Your Dreams Come True

DOES SCIENCE HOLD THE ANSWERS to creating change in our lives? Thats the main question I set out to answer when I started writing this book. Scientists are making discoveries on the quantum level of the universe every day. It seems unlikely that what can affect the world on the microscopic level doesnt also have an impact on larger things like human beings. But through what mechanisms?

Coming from the business world, as a technologist, strategist, and innovator, Ive always been fascinated with cutting-edge discovery, and Im constantly studying it. My job often has been to research and explain the latest advances in science and technology to my colleagues and clients, so that we can figure out ways to practically apply them. In my reading I came across the concept of amplification: starting with something small and turning it into something huge. The more I studied its many applications, the more exciting I found the idea. Amplification can turn a whisper into a shout, a dim light into a laser beam, a snowball into an avalanche, and a pale dream into a bold vision. Even more intriguing, physicists use the term amplify to describe the process by which quantum possibility becomes reality. Amplification seemed to be the answer to the question How can we tap the enormous potential available at the quantum level of the universe to make big changes in our lives?

I dove into the latest research in a variety of sciences and discovered four other building blocks to support what I call the Possibility Amplification Process. As I have shared these ideas with the people I counsel, theyve been able to make great use of them in creating success for themselves in all areas of their lives.

Long before I introduced these ideas to my clients, though, I experimented with them myself. Ive read hundreds of popular books about creating the life of your dreams, and concepts in these books intrigued me. Because Im a practical person, however, I wanted to know: is there a science to turning your desired possibilities into reality? So I began my quest to find out. But even before that, three events in my life shaped the nature of this book.

First, I was hit by a truck. Literally. Two weeks after separating from my husband of eight years, I had a head-on collision with an eighteen-wheeler. That these two incidents happened so close together resulted in the biggest transition of my life. Among the broken things were my neck, my sternum, my marriage, my social life, and my ability to work. I was self-employed and a freshly single parent of a three-year-old boy. My decision to keep the house we had lived in as a family seemed idiotic, as I would have to struggle to pay with one salary what used to be covered by two. It was due only to the loving support and generosity of my family that I was able to physically and financially survive this time.

In the months I spent recuperating, I thought a lot about what had to come next if I was to avoid sinking into the mire. I had always imagined I would have a reasonably linear life one in which I would be married forever, for example and that it would proceed pretty much as it had up until that point. I really hadnt expected my life to take a hard left turn. I was unprepared.

During my recovery, as I sat at sunset on the patio of the home that I wasnt sure I would be able to keep, it all of a sudden occurred to me that the next phase of my life or my next life as I called it could be completely of my own design. I was excited by the possibility. What if I didnt follow the rules? What if I went with my hunches, with my dreams, with my gut? What if I designed my next life and then set out to achieve it, letting nothing stop me? And what if, after a number of years, I decided to have yet another kind of life? Was there anything to stop me from building life after life, each of them different from the others, and all of them encapsulated in this one life Id been given to live on this planet? I imagined how content and satisfied I would feel on my deathbed after living such an intentionally designed life. It seemed like an excellent way to live. Staring into the orange glow cast by the setting sun, I could see them there, all of my potential future lives laid out before me, shining like gems.