Praise for
Starting Over
Starting Over is a remarkable, grace-filled invitation to move past regrets. Dave and Jon Ferguson take us on a journey filled with story and Scripture that guides the reader from a pain-filled past into a positive and redemptive future. This is a life-changing book you need to read and will want to give to others!
A NDY S TANLEY , senior pastor, North Point Ministries
Dave and Jon give us the tools we need to find a fresh start! Im thankful for their wisdom and easy-to-follow steps to freedom.
M ARK B ATTERSON , New York Times best-selling author of The Circle Maker; lead pastor of National Community Church
Dave and Jon Fergusons book Starting Over will guide you through a healthy, God-inspired process of recognizing, releasing, and redeeming your regrets. Rather than staying in the trenches of the past, its time to start over and allow God to do a new work in you.
C RAIG G ROESCHEL , pastor of Life.Church; author of #StrugglesFollowing Jesus in a Selfie-Centered World
The greatest need in human life is a Do-Overhere it is. I cannot imagine anybody who would not benefit from this book.
J OHN O RTBERG, senior pastor of Menlo Church; author of All the Places to Go
Dave and Jon Ferguson have built one of the most dynamic and influential churches in America through their passion for telling others about the love of Jesus. Their Spirit-filled energy and vision flows through their book Starting Over, with the life-changing message of redemption and grace.
N ICKY G UMBEL , Holy Trinity Brompton
We all have regrets. Thankfully, we are reminded by Dave and Jon Ferguson that everything is going to be okay. This book is filled with stories and practical steps to learn how to be okay and overcome regret. It is an inspiring and compelling message of hope and freedom. Let Starting Over be the launching pad for a new season of regret-free living and leading!
B RAD L OMENICK, former president of Catalyst; author of The Catalyst Leader and H3 Leadership
One of the greatest stories in the Gospels is when John summoned as many who had the courage to the Jordan River. There they could confess their sins and start life all over again. John wanted the whole nation to start over because the one to whom he pointed, Jesus, was ushering in a brand new world. Starting Over contains the pastoral accounts of one person after another who, like those who entered the Jordan River with John, have learned that Gods grace forgives, restores, and ushers one person after another into a life without regrets. What a marvelous book about Gods abundant, forgiving, new-life-making love.
S COT M C K NIGHT , Julius R. Mantey Professor of New Testament, Northern Seminary
Regrets are part of the human condition, but how we process them is key to how we will live beyond them. In Starting Over, the Ferguson brothers provide insight and tools to help us live beyond regret and into the new opportunities for life and flourishing that God has for each of us.
D EBRA H IRSCH , author of Redeeming Sex and Untamed
Im not perfect. Ive experienced regrets. Starting Over provides practical next steps to neither suppress nor forget but rather redeem and release the regrets Ive experienced in my life. Unless youre perfect, and none of us are, I think youll appreciate this opportunity for a new start as well.
T ONY M ORGAN , founder and chief strategic officer, The Unstuck Group
Starting Over drives home the message that God has an unending promise of redemption for us. We live in a fallen world and all deal with regrets in this life.Our staff plans to take hold of this tool, and our congregation will experience its impact. I know you will too.
J OBY M ARTIN , lead pastor, The Church of Eleven22
S TARTING O VER
This book is not intended to replace the medical advice of a trained medical professional. Readers are advised to consult a physician or other qualified health-care professional regarding treatment of their medical problems. The author and publisher specifically disclaim liability, loss, or risk, personal or otherwise, which is incurred as a consequence, directly or indirectly, of the use or application of any of the contents of this book.
All Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version, NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide. Scripture quotations marked ( NASB ) are taken from the New American Standard Bible. Copyright 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995 by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission. (www.Lockman.org).
Details and names in some anecdotes and stories have been changed to protect the identities of the persons involved.
Trade PaperbackISBN 9781601426123
Hardcover ISBN9781601426116
eBook ISBN9781601426130
Copyright 2016, 2018 by Dave Ferguson
Cover design by Kelly L. Howard
Interior Sorry Cycle graphics by Alex Deeter
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Originally published in hardcover and in different form in the United States by Multnomah, an imprint of the Crown Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Random House LLC, New York, in 2016.
Published in the United States by Multnomah, an imprint of the Crown Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Random House LLC, New York.
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Ferguson, Dave, 1962- author.
Title: Starting over : your life beyond regrets / Dave Ferguson And Jon Ferguson.
Description: First Edition. | Colorado Springs, Colorado : Multnomah, 2016.
Identifiers: LCCN 2016021243 (print) | LCCN 2016025656 (ebook) | ISBN 9781601426116 (hard cover) | ISBN 9781601426130 (electronic)
Subjects: LCSH: RegretReligious aspectsChristianity.
Classification: LCC BV4509.5 .F4435 2016 (print) | LCC BV4509.5 (ebook) | DDC 248.4dc23
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2016021243
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Contents
Unless a man starts afresh about things, he will certainly do nothing effective.
G . K . C HESTERTON
PREFACE
I ts going to be okay.
Soon enough, well have some bold things to say to you. But we want to start this book with a gentle, reassuring whisper. And what we want to whisper is this: Its going to be okay.
If youve gone to the trouble to pick up (or download) this book called Starting Over: Your Life Beyond Regrets, then were pretty sure its because an incident, or a series of incidents, is weighing on you and youre unhappy. Something went on in your past that hurts every time you think of it. The idea of starting over sounds incredibly desirable to you, but youre not sure its possible in your case. And do you want to risk the possibility of more disappointment, more heartache?
If youre feeling this way, were sorry. And we want you to know its going to be okay.