Michael DiMarco - Brave, The: Conquering the Fears That Hold You Back

What youve just read were our true feelings when we were unable to be brave in our lives. For both of us, life was out of control, and brave would not have been a description of us. We were letting the world win, seeing no hope and finding no strength for the job of life. It wasnt until we learned some things about this life and the next that we finally were able to see things as they really are and to gain the bravery we needed to not only deal with our crazy fears but to continually conquer them.

The natural tendency of all of us humans is to fear. Its about self-preservation. Self-preservation is the most important thing in life, because without it, well, there is no life. So when things get rough, dangerous, or uncertain, humans fear the worst.

Can you relate? Do you ever doubt the best and fear the worst? Are you stressed? Do you worry? When you want to just give up, stop the fight, and hide in your room, you have lost your bravery. When pain and suffering are knocking on your door and threatening to whup you upside the head and you are going crazy with just the thought of it all, you need to be brave.

Everyone has times in their lives when God just doesnt come through the way we expected, when heaven even sounds empty, if not angry. Thats really whats at the root of all your fear, doubt, worry, and stress: this sense that your world is a mess and no one caresor at the very least, no one who can do anything about it.

Fear tells you that God has checked out, that his anger is stronger than his love, and that you are doing this thing called life all alone. Fear isnt just about the inability to charge into battle, but its about your inability to cope with everyday life and your desire to just give up. And thats where being brave comes in.

The Brave arent genetically different from the rest of us; they just have learned to see things differently. They know the answer to the question Why? and because of that they have the courage to face their fears and their doubts. The Brave have faithnot in themselves but in their God. When everything around them says hes checked out and not to be trusted, their faith kicks in and takes over. Thats because they fear God more than they fear anything else in this world. That doesnt mean they are scared of him, but they know his power, his ability, and his love, and they know that they're bigger than even the biggest pain or trouble they could ever face.

With just a simple acceptance of what God wants to give you, you too can have the bravery youve been missing. When you learn the truth about your life from the perspective of the divine, things change in a major way. For us they sure did.

Thats the way things are for us today, at least most days. We still have our cowardly moments, but weve come a long way in the past few years. Weve seen some amazing acts of God and learned some incredible things about him. He can be trusted, we know that for sure. And when you know that for sure, brave will be a description of you. Your fear and doubt is about your inability to manage your world. We can totally relate to that. Life gets out of control a lot. Lots of dangerous things, stupid things, and downright ugly things can happen to you. But the one thing we are sure of is the one thing that never changes, and that is Gods goodness and power.

In The Brave we want to convince you of that and reveal to you Gods hand in your life. We want you to know that you arent alone and that what you cant control, he can. In the chapters that follow, you are going to get the truth about who God is and why hard things happen in your life. We are going to talk about your pain and your suffering and about his. We are going to talk about what you fear that makes sense and what you fear that is pointless. What we hope to do is to give you all the bravery you need to deal with all the stuff in your life with calm, peace, and hope.

Odd Numbers True: Scared We are defining being scared as letting being afraid control you. Being scared is being full of fear. It is seeing the things that are fearful as important in your life and even as defining your life. Im afraid of flying, so I wont get on an airplane is a statement a scared person makes. Hayley knows all about this. Most of her life she was scared of flying. She was sure that any plane she got on would crash and she would die a torturous and horrible death. She would do anything she could not to have to fly. Each time she did have to fly, she would panic and freak out the entire flight. So she knows about being consumed with fear, and its no fun. The lack of brave in a life is horrific. It gives fear the main stage in life. But that doesnt have to be the final story; it wasnt for Hayley, and it doesnt have to be for you. You can take charge by giving God control and changing the way you live. Turn scared into brave!

Even Numbers True: Self-Confident Self-confidence is an amazing thing. It makes life more manageable. It gives you self-control, certainty, and the ability to be brave. Self-confident people look at scared people and think, That makes no sense. Their confidence comes naturally; they are sure of their abilities, their skills, and their strengths. They can take care of situations and handle whatever comes. Their lives exhibit much bravery and success, but it isnt a constant. They can have moments of fear, doubt, and insecurity. Of course, their strong sense of self can override most of that and get them back on top. The trouble with self-confidence, however, is in the word self . Confidence in that which is human is weak at best, because humans are broken, sinful, and imperfect. We all are. And while self-confidence has its amazing traits, it can also quickly plummet in the face of failure or rejection, or just as bad, it can become deceptive, self-important, a cover-up for insecurities, or just plain prideful. Self-confidence sounds better than it really is.

Total True: The Brave People who are a part of the Brave are neither scared nor self-confident but put their confidence in God. They know they can do anything if God is willing. They trust that no matter what might come, God is in control. They trust his goodness so much that even if the mountains should fall into the sea, they will not fear (see Ps. 46:12). Thats because they put their confidence in the perfection of God rather than in the imperfection of humans. Theres something supernatural about the Brave. Thats because being brave is next to impossible without God. And thats the secret to all the brave that you need: brave doesnt come from within; it comes from a faith in the one who can save you, who has only the best planned for you and the grace to give it to you.