Praise for Denise Hildreth Jones
[Reclaiming Your Heart] is an unabashed look at real life, including dashed dreams, punctured hope, and unvarnished truths that get brushed under the rug of religious clichs. This book is the real deal for those seeking hope in spite of lifes disappointments.
ALAN E. NELSON, EDD,
author of Embracing Brokenness and founder of KidLead, Inc.
In Flying Solo, Denise... covers real heart issues such as learning to let go, getting through grief and disappointment, and allowing God to fill that secret place in our hearts that only he can fill. Although this book was written to bring hope and healing to those who have been through a divorce, I recommend it to anyone who wants to experience an intimate relationship with a loving God through every season of life.
NANCY ALCORN,
founder and president of Mercy Ministries
By sharing her personal reflections and her conversations with God in Flying Solo, Denise offers incredible comfort for those recovering from divorce and a hope for a joyous future. This book offers validation for the feelings we all encounter and a path of self-discovery that is uplifting, encouraging, and inspiring.
JENNY SANFORD,
former First Lady of South Carolina and author of Staying True
In this beautiful book, Denise Hildreth Jones has given us a gift by allowing us to walk with her through the most intimate, painful, and faith-building moments of her life. In doing so, she reminds each one of us that God is most powerfully present even when he seems to be most apparently absent.
PETE WILSON,
pastor of Cross Point Church, Nashville, Tennessee, and author of Plan B: What Do You Do When God Doesnt Show Up the Way You Thought He Would?
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Reclaiming Your Heart: A Journey Back to Laughing, Loving, and Living
Copyright 2013 by Denise Hildreth Jones. All rights reserved.
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To Ken Edwards, who taught me what it means to reclaim my heart.
And to Philly Jones, who chose to fight for his own heart and, in the end, won mine.
Acknowledgments
Im pretty certain few people have verses from the book of Hosea read at their wedding. But my husband Philly and I did. Our friend and counselor Ken Edwards knew us well enough to know that this passage would be especially fitting for our hearts and our stories as we started our new journey.
Therefore, behold, I will allure her, will bring her into the wilderness, and speak comfort to her. I will give her her vineyards from there, and the Valley of Achor as a door of hope; she shall sing there, as in the days of her youth, as in the day when she came up from the land of Egypt.
HOSEA 2:14-15
This is our storyPhillys and mine. The story of how God allured us by allowing us to walk through the wilderness of our divorces. But what it gave us was an encounter with our Savior like nothing we had ever known. It changed us. It planted new dreams in us. It gave us hope in places where dead dreams used to live. It had us both singing in our cars at the top of our lungs like those dorks you sit next to at the stoplight. It had us acting the way we did as young kids, before we allowed our hearts to be shut down.
God used the heartbreak of our pain to pull us into the heart of his love. And he did it all while bringing our own hearts back to life. This book wasnt written because we have some special story to tell. We all know heartbreak. Some of you know it because you lost your job. Some through the loss of a marriage. Some through the loss of a dream. Some through the devastating loss of a child. Wildernesses can have all different kinds of faces. But in wildernesses God longingly desires to woo us back to that childlike heart he first deposited inside us. That is the revelation we have discovered. The beautiful rediscovery of our hearts. And that is the story we felt led to share.
So to you, the reader, thank you. Thank you for trusting me with your heart on this journey. Many of you I will never have the privilege of enjoying a Coca-Cola with, but you might have Coke-stained pages. So in a small way I feel like we have met. Thank you for keeping an open heart as you read this book. You have given me your greatest treasureand I do not take that lightly.
A special thank-you to my husband for continuing to fight the good fight for your heart and for inspiring me as I fight for mine. Very few days pass when I dont think about how grateful I am to have a life partner who loves God, loves me, and loves our family. Thank you for being willing to share your story alongside me, both in this book and in life. You are a gentle giant who makes me laugh harder than anyone else can and who loves me with a depth I didnt know was possible. What a privilege to do life with you.
A special thank-you to my friend and counselor Ken Edwards, who has been a faithful depositor to my heart. Of your wisdom and humor and belief in me. The gifts God has given you have not been lost on me. Without them this book would not exist. And I am privileged to share you with others.