Sahvanna Arienta - Lightworker Relationships: Creating Lasting and Healthy Bonds as an Empath

LIGHTWORKER RELATIONSHIPS

LIGHTWORKER RELATIONSHIPS

Creating Lasting and Healthy Bonds as an Empath

Sahvanna Arienta
Author of Lightworker

Copyright 2016 by Sahvanna Arienta

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Names: Arienta, Sahvanna, 1966

Title: Lightworker relationships : creating lasting and healthy bonds as an empath / by Sahvanna Arienta.

Description: Wayne : Career Press, Inc., 2016. | Includes bibliographical references and index.

Identifiers: LCCN 2015038564| ISBN 9781632650252 (alk. paper) | ISBN

9781632659736 (ebook : alk. paper)

Subjects: LCSH: Psychics. | Interpersonal relations--Miscellanea.

Classification: LCC BF1040 .A74 2016 | DDC 131--dc23 LC record available at http://lccn.loc.gov/2015038564

When a student is ready a teacher will appear.

Tao saying

For my greatest teacher, my mother:

I was born ready.

The weak fall, but the strong shall remain and never go under!

Anne Frank

For my sister, my inspiration and a powerful warrior of the light.

I will start this book with good news: Lightworkers have come to earth to help heal the planet. Empathic, sensitive, unique souls, Lightworkers make great sacrifices to fulfill their divine mission and be of service to humanity. But there is some bad news, too: Lightworkers often forget that they have needs to be nurtured, too. Consequently they overlook their own need to be loved by others. When they forget this, they lose sight of their authentic self. As Lightworkers use their light energy to be of service, they give of themselves without limitations. Although they naturally harbor a great deal of light energy, it is not an endless resource but one that must be replenished constantly by accepting love and light energy in return. Often this light energy comes via loving and functional relationships. So it is essential that Lightworkers be able to take in light energy, in order to stay in balance and in alignment with their divine purpose. Without being able to receive, they quickly become depleted, and their energy moves into a very dark place, indeed.

In my practice most Lightworkers come to me about relationship issues, because it is so easy for them to become depleted in their interactions with others. They are constantly on a quest to top off the unconditional love energy that is within the heart chakra space, because this is the channel through which their healing gifts flow. (You will read all about chakras in the first chapter.) Love is what fuels their divine mission. Many experience difficulty in relationships because of their inherently generous nature. They are in a sense perfect targets for those who do not want to heal or be healed, but who only want to drain the vital energy of a Lightworker. Sadly, Lightworkers need for love often causes them to stay in painful or dysfunctional relationships. They usually have no idea why they feel so used, so depleted, and, ultimately, so utterly abandoned by the very people to whom they have shown such unconditional love. This often sets off a vicious cycle, wherein the Lightworkers heart becomes wounded and, eventually, closes itself off, shutting down the Lightworkers healing gifts and leading him or her down a painful road of wounded emotions, toxic energy, and all the attendant complications therein. This puts the Lightworker into a dark cavern from which it is nearly impossible to extricate him- or herself.

Because you picked up this book, this probably sounds all too familiar to you. My goal in writing this book is to give you clarity and insight into the dynamics of how Lightworkers tend to function within relationships, and why their personal relationships seem to continuously put them in a dark place. The information in these pages is going to help you see yourself in a new light, so to speaknot just as a Lightworker who is here to heal the planet, but as someone who can receive as well as give. The energy dynamics of your relationships are likely affecting you in ways that you may not understand or even consciously be able to process. You will learn how to be aware of these dynamicsthese exchanges of energy between yourself and othersand how they affect your emotional well-being, your physical health, and, most importantly, your spirituality.

A Lightworkers unique sensitivities combined with his or her overall need to be of service can tend to interfere with personal relationships if these gifts are not harnessed or channeled in the proper way. We tend to attract wounded partners because we always want to follow that instinct to fix or heal others. Then we get caught up in a vicious cycle of repetitive negative behaviors in a constant quest to heal our own selves in the aftermath. Many Lightworkers find themselves alone and feeling unwanted because they continuously attract the type of partner whose energy is lacking or in distress. These types of partners simply cannot give the type of love the Lightworker needs or is worthy of. Both healer and wounded are like moths to a flame for each other, energetic magnets, if you will, with the Lightworker wanting nothing more than to heal, and the wounded person obsessively seeking that powerful light energy to be healed. What you will soon discover is that there is the time and place for the Lightworker to heal. Learning to compartmentalize these urges and make the proper space in your life for your gifts will help you develop equitable and balanced personal relationships. Lightworker, you were put here on this earth not only to heal but to live a joyful life. You deserve nothing less!

So how can we attract healthy relationships, rather than these unhealthy interactions with others that leave us wounded and shut down? We will discuss the different ways Lightworkers attract wounded partners, the traps we fall into, the roles we play, and how the cycles of dysfunction become a part of our makeup. Once we find ourselves in these painful cycles and allow them to continue, they can dominate our lives. With our great power to heal also comes great vulnerability. I will show you how to avoid the pitfalls that come along with your Lightworker gifts. As well, learning about ourselves and what we truly want will help us attract what we authentically desire. The universe in its simplicity brings you exactly what you ask for, which at times can be quite a shock! Just because you are a Lightworker doesnt mean you are always aware of what you are asking of the universe. Learning to discern the difference between what you truly desire out of a relationship and what youre actually asking forwhat youre attractingis so important.