Ariella Nyssa - Ariella Nyssas Self-love Bible: Understand, love and celebrate the most important person in your life: you

Are you ready to celebrate yourself every part of you?

Ariella Nyssa has inspired hundreds of thousands of people with her personal story and message of body confidence. In this interactive guide, she shares her experiences and advice as she invites you to embark on your own journey of self-acceptance and positive change.

Through insightful journalling prompts and self-care exercises, youll discover:

e how to break free from comparison, shame and negative self-talk

e the secret to accepting and celebrating your body

e which relationships to nurture and which to let go of

e why forgiving yourself is more important than forgiving others

e how to support yourself with positive affirmations, healing rituals and more.

Its time to embrace your uniqueness because loving yourself is the only way to unlock the potential of who you are truly meant to be.

Ariella Nyssa is on a mission to challenge mainstream perceptions of beauty. After growing up in a strict church community and being married and divorced by the time she was 18, she found herself traumatised and suffering from body dysmorphia. It wasnt until she connected with a supportive community on Instagram that a whole new world opened up. She now inspires more than half a million followers with her message of body confidence and self-love.

Learn how to
love who you are
from the inside out

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A beautiful and refreshingly helpful guide to what
is achievable when you replace self-criticism
and negative self-talk with a little TLC.

Lillian Ahenkan (aka Flexmami),
author of The Success Experiment

CONTENTS

Hello angels

W elcome to a safe place a place where you can be honest and open with who you are and who you want to be. Im Ariella, and I am passionate about bringing to light the importance of loving the person you are from the inside out.

Each of us is born unique. We are born innocently into a beautiful and wonderful world. But what happens? Where does our undying love for ourselves go?

As we grow up and find our feet in the world, experiences shape us. Our family, relationships and events trigger new elements of our personalities and can affect how we see ourselves. Maybe your parents divorce or a toxic parental dynamic shaped your ideas and values about relationships. It may have been your inner child being stomped on and bullied throughout your schooling experience. It may have been childhood trauma, or losing someone really special to you. Maybe an eating disorder or mental health struggles played a huge part in your life and how you view yourself. Maybe youve just never really found yourself or begun to love yourself. No matter what brought you, this book is here to help you, to guide you in realising just how incredible you are and how much you have to offer the world.

From a young age we are taught by society that we are not enough. That we need to do all of these things, to look or act in a certain way and adhere to societal rules. To look better, do better, be better. Its time to get back to the core of who we are. To rejoice in the things that make each of us unique, that make us STAND OUT. To wholeheartedly LOVE ourselves on every level of our beings and enjoy this life.

What is self-love?

Society tells us that self-love is easy. Its as easy as having a skincare routine, drawing a bubble bath or reading a book. These things are incredible, dont get me wrong, but self-love is HARD. Its tiring, its draining and sometimes it means delving into the hard times to learn and grow into a more accepting and loving human being. Self-love is being disciplined; its being honest.

Self-love is digging deep down into ourselves and creating a life that we really want to be living.

As a baby and young child, I was comfortable in my own skin, but as I grew older I learned how to be a girly girl and fit societys expectations.

Its chasing our hopes and dreams, working through the tough stuff and healing from whatever has torn us down.

I love using the chrysalis as a metaphor for self-love. A chrysalis is a transitional state for a caterpillar as it transforms into a butterfly. Butterflies go through a life cycle of four stages: egg, larva, pupa (chrysalis), imago (adult). To go through the final transformation, the caterpillar must stop eating and moving, hang upside down from a twig and mould itself into a shiny chrysalis made from its own body.

The chrysalis is iridescent in the sunlight and is a safeguard for the caterpillar, a protective casing that allows the insect to radically transform into its new self. The caterpillar doesnt need any outside help; it actually uses its own fluids to break itself down into cells called imaginal cells (because they become the imago). These cells are then used to create a new identity.

Most people think that the end goal of the chrysalis metaphor is that one day we will turn into a magical and beautiful butterfly. But when I first found out about the chrysalis, it stopped me dead in my tracks: self-love isnt a destination. It isnt an end goal. One day we wont wake up and magically be the butterflies we have always wanted to be. No.

Self-love is about the journey. Its about the growth and the changes we embark on. Its about using our own experiences, values and identity to find purpose and to be in this transitional state always . Its about constantly being a chrysalis. We will always be growing, healing and learning. And once we embrace this, we can unlock our inner beings and take on the world.

In my own self-love journey Ive realised that a holistic approach is essential. Its not just about accepting your curves, lumps, bumps, marks, flub or belly rolls. Its about loving EVERYTHING: your personality, your spiritual beliefs, your goals and desires, your health, your sociability, your emotions, your relationships, your upbringing, your family, your past EVERYTHING.

This section touches on depression, anxiety and suicide. If you feel you may be triggered, please skip ahead.

My story

I am about to tell you my story, a story that I didnt plan on and a story that nearly took my life. A story of my transition from a child full of love to a young adult lost and petrified of living, and finally to someone embracing who I am and not afraid to put myself out into a world that might reject me.

I want to state, before diving in, that I know I have lived a very privileged life. I am not marginalised or oppressed in my society for any reason, nor did I experience childhood trauma, as so many of you may have. If my story triggers you, Im so sorry for the things youve experienced and I urge you to speak to a professional about them. I can only share from my own lived experience and I want to be completely honest about my journey.