Lysa TerKeurst - Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

This is the book I wish someone had given me at the start of my journey as a Jesus follower. I was so emotionally wounded from traumatic experiences in my past that I didnt know how to set healthy boundaries, nor when to say necessary goodbyes. As a result, I experienced relational fractures that caused much pain and could have been avoided by applying the hard-earned wisdom shared within these pages. In Good Boundaries and Goodbyes, Lysa unpacks important principles and dispels destructive fallacies that will help you to honor God and flourish in life by setting healthy boundaries and embracing necessary goodbyes.

Christine Caine, founder of A21 and Propel Women

In a world that talks a lot about boundaries, Lysa gently guides us to understand why they are critical to the loving relationships we crave and shows us how to do them well. By reframing boundaries from something that can feel limiting to something that is truly loving, this book equips us to navigate relationships in a loving, healthy, and God-honoring way. If you ever feel as though youre stuck between being taken advantage of by those you love most or shutting others out to avoid being hurt, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes will provide both the practical and biblical guidance you need to operate in the most loving place, with healthy boundaries instead of either extreme.

Jordan Lee Dooley, Wall Street Journal bestselling author

Once again, Lysa does what she does best by gently guiding us through something hard that all of us will have to make decisions aboutboundaries in our relationships. If you are like me, these conversations about boundaries make me nervous and fearful. In Good Boundaries and Goodbyes, Lysa uses her own journey as an encouragement to us all. I finished the last page of this book and cried. Tears of encouragement and hope for those relationships that I know will be healthier after having some hard conversations about boundaries. Thank you, Lysa, for helping us! Everyone needs this book!

Jamie Ivey, bestselling author and host of The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey podcast

Good Boundaries and Goodbyes is full of scriptural and therapeutic truth for navigating your most complicated relationships. Boundaries are not just a good idea, theyre Gods idea. This may be Lysas most important message yet!

Sandra and Andy Stanley, North Point Ministries

For many people, boundaries is like a cuss word. Its something many of us find extremely uncomfortable talking about, but its what so many of us desperately need to actually win in our relationships. What I love about this book is, it may not be the easiest message to consume but if you will challenge yourself to push past the pressure and the pain, I promise you Good Boundaries and Goodbyes will be a tool of healing and restoration that will help bring about real transformation in your life.

Michael Todd, #1 New York Times bestselling author and lead pastor of Transformation Church

Lysa TerKeurst has crafted a book that will heal the deepest part of a wounded heart. She has delivered a manual on living in the tension of pain and promise that feels like the exhale we have been waiting to release.

Carlos Whittaker, author of How to Human and host of The Human Hope Podcast

The raw honesty that Lysa writes with is stunning and so satisfying... She gives great examples of harmful relationships and how to identify the signs. She also provides practical ways to establish boundaries... This book is transformational.

Kimberly W.

For so long, Id subscribed to the falsehood that boundary-setting was un-Christlike. Lysas wisdom around boundaries was, for me, a paradigmshifting revelation, an answered prayer, and a healing balm for the soul.

Lauren R.

Written in the tone of a wise, loving girlfriend who has your best interest at heart, this book had me highlighting something on just about every page!... I kept reading parts of it out loud to myself because I found it so profound.

Shanae G.

What a gift this book is! Lysas words have been soaked in countless hours of study in Gods Word and weighed with grace and mercy in real-life experiences. This book has changed every false belief I entertained about boundaries for the good!

Melanie P.

Lysa does an amazing job of sharing her raw, vulnerable, and heartfelt experiences, lessons, and hurts. Reading her words has made me feel seen and understood in a way not many authors can. I am so grateful that she has been willing to share her life, pains, and joys with the rest of us. I cant wait to give this book to my close friends, hoping it will help them as much as its helped me.

Amy H.

Lysas words and faith-based perspective in this book helped me cultivate boundaries in my own life that I didnt realize I needed. This encouragement has been a blessing and equipped me to strengthen some of my closest relationships.

Hope H.

This book is for the girl with a wide-open heart who needs some guidance about when to say no, how to set boundaries without guilt, and what words to speak in those hard moments. Lysa always reminds me to keep my heart safe and how to truly honor our God.

Sanaz W.

Ill Start Again Monday (abridged from Made to Crave)

Forgiving What You Cant Forget

Forgiving What You Cant Forget Video and Study Guide

Seeing Beautiful Again (devotional)

Its Not Supposed to Be This Way

Its Not Supposed to Be This Way Video and Study Guide

Embraced (devotional)

Uninvited

Uninvited Video and Study Guide

The Best Yes

The Best Yes Video and Study Guide

Unglued

Unglued Video and Participants Guide

Becoming More Than a Good Bible Study Girl

Becoming More Than a Good Bible Study

Girl Video and Participants Guide

Made to Crave

Made to Crave Video and Participants Guide

What Happens When Women Say Yes to God

40 Days Through the Bible (Lysa and the Proverbs 31 Ministries Team)

Childrens

It Will Be Okay

Win or Lose, I Love You!

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