Foreword
C arol Christie has unfolded before us a true horror story of being caught in the clutches of a polygamous, offshoot Mormon cult. Her book takes its place with Debbie Palmer and Dave Perrins Keep Sweet: Children of Polygamy (2004: Daves Press Inc.); Daphne Bramhams The Secret Lives of Saints: Child Brides and Lost Boys in Canadas Polygamous Mormon Sect (2008: Random House); and Craig Jones A Cruel Arithmetic: Inside the Case Against Polygamy (2012: Irwin Law) in Canadian literature on this sordid subject.
Breaking through the iron grip of fear that permeates the cult in which she was entangled, Carol rises above its crushing humiliation to show you, the reader, how minds and bodies can be controlled to do the will of a religious fanatic. Fear is the common denominator of all cults. Add God, polygamy, the threat of eternal damnation plus the threat of losing your children, and a cesspool of misery is created. Literally, a Hell on Earth.
Carol has already done more than the average Mormon polygamous cult escapee: she has sued the despotic leader of this cult and won; she has shared her story with CTVs W5 ; she has moved forward even more with work, writing, and a happy, monogamous, normal second marriage. She continues to have a strong relationship with her oldest son who also left the cult and lives in hope that her second son will also leave the egregious environment in which he still lives. And she has found laughter, the greatest medicine of all.
Property! is for everyone. All who read this book will be imprinted forever with the images portrayed on its pages. My hope is that once the book is read, it is not placed on a bookshelf to gather dust. Rather, that its readers will realize how terrible the practice of polygamy is, that we do not want it in Canada, where in spite of s. 293 being found constitutional by B.C. Supreme Court Chief Justice Robert Bauman on November 23, 2011 at the Polygamy Reference Trial, in spite of a Charter of Rights and Freedoms that guarantees women equality rights with men, in spite of international conventions signed and ratified by Canada that protect women and children from the harms of polygamy, polygamy is still practiced with impunity in this country !
My hope is that each reader of this book will put pen to paper or rattle their keyboards with letters that crackle across the Internet or swim through the mail to every official imaginable letting them know polygamy is a crime, so prosecute it! Bring legally promised freedom to women like Carol and her children. Dont let their rights and freedoms be just pretty words on paper.
My most sincere congratulations, admiration, and respect go out to Carol Christie. Keep moving forward, Carol, Canada needs you.
Nancy Mereska, President
Stop Polygamy in Canada Society
www.stoppolygamy.com
Acknowledgements
T he evening I finally left the life I had lived for so long, I felt very alone in my struggle to begin anew.
In the weeks, then months, and now years that followed, I have crossed paths with some truly wonderful people.
Some, like my longtime girlfriend Ann, were an important part of my life many years before. Despite the attempts of my controlling mother, then church, to keep us apart, the bonds of affection we feel prevail, and I am thrilled that she and her sisters, Janice and Irene, are back in my life and very supportive of my journey.
Others have come to mean so much to me more recently. John Tamming, my lawyer and confidant, took my story not only as a case requiring representation, but embraced the cause as if it were his own, and has gone the extra mile for me and others seeking true justice and resolution.
Another wonderful man who believed in me from the first hearing of my past was Ron Wray, my husbands longtime friend and colleague, and now a true friend of mine. Ron was a source of encouragement to me on some mighty dark and discouraging days and his strength, loyalty, and his choice of exactly the right words for me at the right time will never be forgotten.
At the times that seemed the loneliest, there was the companionship of friend Karen. She is a mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother to folks still involved with the church, and we have leaned on each other a lot, getting through our days, and doing what we could to make them better.
Gratitude as well to Patti-Ann Finlay, Mary Dartis, Jennifer Campbell, Victor Malarek and the entire team at CTVs W5 , who grabbed hold of my story within hours of contact with them, and believed in it. Their work has been professional and personal at every turn, and their diligence and concern is already changing lives.
I could not ask for more supportive in-laws than Johns brother, Rob, and his wife Laurie. I will always remember their enthusiasm and encouragement.
If one is very lucky, your bosses also become your friends. I first met Robyn and Brian when they gave me a job. Soon, they also gave me their friendship, and, when I needed it most, a place to live. There truly are unsung heroes among us, and these two are in those ranks.
There are wonderful people I want to thank, whose names I dont know. They are the ones who showed me the kindness of strangers. Youll read about them in these pages. In so many ways, big and small, they helped me see that the world is a much gentler place than I had been led to believe.