James Beckett - The Woman Whisperer: How to Naturally Strike Up Conversations, Flirt Like a Boss, and Charm any Woman off Her Feet

Hi, my name is... uhh... Steve. I... um... saw you standing here and thought... well... um... hi, you stammer. She looks at you, stony faced and expectant. Shes not impressed with you by the looks of it, so youre going to need to step up your game. What can you say to get her talking? You rack your brains for a sparkling piece of wit, but your mind has gone completely blank.

So... uhhh... whats your name? you try. She tells you in a single word, then falls silent and just keeps right on looking at you with that same unimpressed gaze. With your vague hope that she might choose to make your life a bit easier by helping you start a conversation fading fast, you begin to panic as you try to work out how to get this ice broken.

As you stand there, flustered with your mind utterly empty of good ideas, you wonder if it was such a good idea to walk over here and talk to her after all. If only the ground would swallow you up right this moment, youre sure things would be decidedly less embarrassing.

Does that sound familiar? Weve all been there. You spot a woman youd love to get to know a little better across the room, take a deep breath and steel yourself, then head on over. But once you get there, you realize pretty quickly that you arent prepared for the task.

A cold conversation opener is never an easy thing, no matter the situation. When you add sexual attraction into the mix and the fact that both parties in this scenario are perfectly aware that youve approached her for one reason, and one reason only, it becomes even more daunting still.

I know guys who flat out refuse to approach women, purely to avoid the humiliation of this moment. I know others who avoid it at all costs because they cant bear the idea of being turned down.

But I also know plenty of guys who have mastered the art of the ice breaker and are old hands at walking up to a hot girl in a bar, saying just the right thing to snag her attention and going home that night with a phone number in their pocket.

Im here to help you become one of those guys in the second category. It doesnt matter if youre shy or outgoing, an extravert or an introvert, good with women or just getting started. No matter who you are and what your experiences in the past have taught you, preparation here is the key to success.

Its a lot like skydiving with or without a parachute. As you stand there looking into the great, terrifying abyss, making the jump is a whole lot easier if youve prepared yourself ahead of time and made sure you have the tools to succeed right there at your fingertips.

I can understand not wanting to fling yourself into open air towards inevitable disaster because you dont have that parachute, but youre reading this book because its the metaphorical parachute youve needed all along.

Skydiving still going to be daunting the first couple of times you try it, even with a parachute. Itll still send your insides into a spin and youll still hesitate before you give yourself over to fate. The same goes for breaking the ice with a hot woman.

But once you have your ice breakers figured out and you know how to get the conversation started, those flutters in your stomach wont be about fear and dread of failure any more. They will be about the excitement of potential as you wonder where this conversation is going to take you.