Tracy Cabot - How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You

THE LOVE PLAN
NOW YOU CAN MAKE IT HAPPEN
AND MAKE IT LAST!

Have you ever wondered what she had that you didnt? Now the secrets out. The answers are all here. Whether youre sixteen or sixty, single or married, Tracy Cabot shows you how to

BREAK OUT OF THE BASTARD TRAP

RECOGNIZE THE MAN WHOS RIGHT FOR YOU

ASSURE RETURN ENGAGEMENTS

SETTLE ACCOUNTS WITHOUT CONFLICT

LEARN WHAT MAKES A MAN FALL TOTALLY IN LOVEwith you

KNOW HOW MUCH TO GIVEand how soon

IGNITE A LIFETIME LOVE AFFAIR

Tracy Cabot has been using these techniques to help other women develop successful love relationships. Shes used them herself, as well, to find that at age forty-two, she was a bride herself for the very first time! Scientifically proven, The Love Plan is guaranteed to workfor you!

Also by Tracy Cabot

Letting Go (with Dr. Zev Wanderer)
How to Keep a Man in Love with You Forever

Published by
Dell Publishing
a division of
Random House, Inc.

Copyright 1984 by Tracy Cabot

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eISBN: 978-0-307-78556-5

February 1987

v3.1

To my husband, Marshall

Without the faith of my trusting friends who first put their love lives in my hands, this book would never have been written. Also, grateful thanks to those others whose ideas and energy helped in so many ways: Robert Leighton, Bernadette Mc-Nulty, Allen Harris, my editor, Toni Lopopolo, my agent, Tom Goff, Betsy Berkhemer, Ben Blank, Ruth Blank, Ruth Halcomb, Terri Mayo, Judy Rosen and Nancy Shiffrin.

I was over thirty-five and still answering those embarrassing questions like, How come youve never been married? and Do you live all alone in this big house? or, Dont you have a boyfriend that youre serious about?

In an otherwise successful life, I had failed in Meaningful Relationship I and probably would have continued to do so if I hadnt discovered the scientific secrets for loving that make up The Love Plan.

Until then, my life was one relationship after another. I fell in love over and over again, but each time the affair ended in a disastrous breakup.

Although I had lots of opportunities with all kinds of men (some terrific, some not too great), I was never able to make love work out right before I began using The Love Plan. My relationships were so terrible, I became an expert at breaking up and even wrote a book on the subject (Letting Go, Warner, 1979), using all my failures as examples.

Letting Go helped a lot of people get over their broken hearts and I was always gratified to meet someone who had read the book and felt better. But the more I talked to people about getting over the loss of a love, the more it became clear that what they really wanted was not to lose that love in the first place. Down deep, what they really wanted was a good love relationship, to love and be loved back.

Why not? they wanted to know. Love is so right, so basic! Why is it so damn hard to find?

Right then, I decided to spend as much time as it might take to discover what really makes love work. I spent nearly two full years researching the subject of loveand found no answers. Then, unexpectedly, while reading an obscure article about the psychology of human communications, everything clicked into place.

These new psychological findings, I realized with a rush of excitement, were the long-missing link in the mystery of love. There, before my eyes, was the explanation for why a few women seemed to find true love effortlesslywhile the rest of us dont.

These new discoveries about human behavior meshed totally with my other research and my own experiences. They filled in every gap in the Love Problem.

Putting it all together, I realized that I had even more than the explanations I wanted about why true love is so elusive. What it all added up to was a coherent, precise blueprint for finding love. At that moment, I knew I had discovered The Love Plan.

At first, it seemed too good to be true. So quietly, tentatively, I began to experiment with myself and a few trusted friends. Our sudden success in finding love was so apparent that others became curious. Soon my phone was ringing day and night with calls from people wanting to know the mysterious secret.

In the beginning, I just made suggestions. Then I started handing out xeroxed notes.

Somewhat awestruck, I watched The Love Plan create the chemistry of love, again and again. I grew more adept at explaining The Love Planand finally became determined to write this book.

The techniques in How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You work. I know because they have worked for me and everyone else who has tried themeven women who thought love had passed them by. Because I had these insights and had learned these techniques, I was ready for a real relationship when I met the right man. I knew what to do.

In the past, I would have ruined my chances with this relationship in the same way I had with the disasters that preceded it. Instead, I used The Love Plan approach.

Now, for the first time (in my forties), I am married and building a life together with someone I love.

I hope that by faithfully following The Love Plan, everyone who reads How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You will be as happy as I am.

T.C.

Hardly anyone can resist an offer of more love. Getting love is the inspiration for the greatest works of art, for the most brilliant performances, for the worlds memorable poems and great literature. Behind our striving for success and recognition, for good looks, knowledge, intimacy and communication is a simple desire to be loved.

In a world of searching and insecurity, of singles bars and midlife crises, dating services and therapy groups, there is a desperate shortage of mature, mutual love. Millions of women, ready for a loving, committed relationship, are unable to find it. These women can now be helped.