Keith - Drive Your Women Wild in Bed

Copyright 1994 by Staci Keith

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First eBook Edition: November 2009

ISBN: 978-0-446-57110-4

If your partner fails to climax, do you feel:

• Willing to help if you can?
• Guilty or partially responsible?
• That its her problem and you cant be bothered with it?

Do you mentally compare your partner with other women?

• Not that Im aware of.
• Sure, sometimes. Doesnt everyone?
• Yes, and I wish shed lose weight/work out/curl her hair.

Which adjectives describe you as a lover?

• Giving, passionate, curious, and imaginative.
• Strong, long-lasting, a man of few words.
• Better than average, hornier than your normal guy.

While making love to a woman, do you ever tell her how wonderful she smells, how excited you are being with her, how good she feels, or how beautiful she is?

• Yes, frequently.
• I have in the past.
• No, I dont feel comfortable giving compliments.

The answers inside will tell you whether youre every womans fantasy, challenge your beliefs about sex and women, and make you a more lovable lover in and out of bed.

To Scott Cole,

whose loving support

made this book possible

I would like to thank the countless hundreds whose interviews, both formal and informal, made this book possible. The candor and, yes, wit displayed by each and every one of you made my effort less a labor and more a love.

Sex. Its not a simple issue, is it? Something that should be effortless, natural, and spontaneous has become mired down in anxiety and confusion. Or maybe it was always like that? Men say women are bitches and women say men are pigs. Both misogyny and male-bashing are rampant throughout the culture. The hostility toward women is reflected in the patter of comedians, the voyeurism of music videos and bikini contests. Men are roundly abused in the self-help journals or portrayed as sadistic, lascivious jerks on tabloid TV. The message, however, is clear: sex is no less confusing than the way we feel about each other.

For women, the confusion is sometimes worse. Women havent got the economic equality or the civil rights. They are often despised, ridiculed, and objectified. They are frequently the victims not only of violent crime butmore insidiouslydouble standards. Our culture breeds women with self-esteem problems, especially about their looks, instills impossible expectations of love and romance, then fails to tell them how to deal with their inevitable disappointment. Relationships, much to our surprise, are work! It isnt always happily ever after when we ride off into the sunset. All these factors conspire to make women difficult to understandeven to themselves.

Im expounding on all this not just for your edification but to help you become an even better lover than you are already. Great lovers have three things in common: passion, sensitivity, and understanding. While I can improve your understanding, I can do little for your sensitivity or your passion. These are things I can only help you bring out in yourself. Understanding starts with putting yourself in somebody elses shoesin this case, being more aware of how women feel about themselves.

By the end of this book you will have many tools at your disposal. If you use even half of them, youll be a better lover than 98 percent of the men out there. Great lovers are in short supply! Even with new generations of sexual sophisticates, their numbers are dwindling.

Knowledge is power. It would be unconscionable for you to use the resources in this book to go out and ravage entire cheerleading squads or for the purpose of breaking hearts. You are in training to become an incredible, unforgettable, fantastic lovernot to set a new world record. Im not here to govern the whims of your penis, but there are many sound reasons why you should EXERCISE CAUTION to avoid contracting some virulent illness that will put you permanently out of commission. Right? There are lots of nasty little diseases out therethe AIDS virus is only one.

In addition to viruses and such, you had better beware EMOTIONAL ILLNESSES. If a woman has an emotional illness centered around her sexuality, I dont care how great a lover you are, theres nothing you can do to make her better. If you happen to love a woman who is sexually dysfunctional, you need to evaluate how important sex is to you in the relationship. Can you do without terrific sex and not feel deprived? Underprivileged? Many otherwise wonderful relationships are not so wonderful in bed. As a society, we tend to place far too great an emphasis on sex. Sex is only one small part of living! Theres also:

musicfoodcarssportstravelingworkclothesscience
familybeachesskydivingflirtingastrologybooks
ecologytelevisioneducationbeingalivepartiesbabiestoolscultur
ecollegebuddieshistoryswimming cookingSharperIma
gecataloguesfiscalplanningtalkingShakespeare
Sundaysbeercomputersbeinghappy!

The following quotes are from some fine minds on the subject of sex:

The position is ridiculous, the pleasure momentary, the expense damnable.

Lord Chesterfield English statesman (1694-1773)

Love is two minutes, fifty-two seconds of squishing noises. It shows your mind isnt clicking right.

-Johnny Rotten

When sex is good, its 10 percent of a relationship; when sex is bad, its 90 percent of a relationship.

Michael Brooks author, Instant Rapport

When we cant have love, we settle for power.

Ethel Person author, Dreams of Love and Fateful Encounters

You think intercourse is a private act; its not, its a social act. Men are sexually predatory in life; and women are sexually manipulative. When two individuals come together and leave their gender outside the bedroom door, then they make love. If they take it inside with them, they do something else, because society is in the room with them.

Andrea Dworkin author, Fire and Ice, etc.

Wise words, indeed.

During sex, if your partner gives you a suggestion, do you feel:

A. Receptive.

B. Anxious.

C. Angry/Impatient.

Do you have trouble being spontaneous? If your partner wanted to pull over in the car and make love, would you do it?

A. Very possibly.

B. Its doubtful.

C. Never.

If your partner fails to climax, do you feel:

A. Willing to help her if you can.

B. Guilty or partially responsible.

C. Its her problem and you cant be bothered with it.

Have you been accused by three or more women of not being affectionate? Of not hugging and kissing as much as theyd like?

A. Never.

B. Once or twice.

C. All the time.

Do you have trouble being mentally, physically, and emotionally in the moment? Do you worry or allow your mind to wander on irrelevant things while making love?

A.