Im Not Playing
Thoughts from a Raw Brotha
Im Not Playing
Thoughts from a Raw Brotha
Rom Wills
Wills Publishing
Im Not Playing
Thoughts from a Raw Brotha
Copyright 2017
By
Romuald P. Wills
ALL RIGHTS RESERVED
No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means electronic or mechanical or whatsoever, including voice recordings, without the express, prior, written permission from
Romuald P. Wills
romwills@aol.com
ISBN-13 978-0692956281
ISBN-10 069295628X
To my sons.
Also by Rom Wills
Nice Guys and Players
Sexual Chemistry
Meeting Attractive Women
Finding the Right Man
Starting From Zero
The Sankofans
Those Eyes
A Players Eyes
Ask me how I know.
- Rom Wills
Table of Contents
Introduction
For me, it always comes back to writing. I remember a conversation I had years ago when I worked in a more corporate environment. I had a co-worker who was very gifted at reading people. I remember he looked at me and said, Rom, you shouldnt be here. You should be in a room somewhere working on a novel. He knew that I had already written three books and that my passion was writing. I would eventually leave that job to focus on my craft. If I do say so myself I have an impressive body of work.
Over the years I have had two blogs. The first had a few followers and eventually I let that one die out. The second is the blog was with my current website, romwills.com. The blog was active between October 2013 and February 2016. Every Sunday I would post what a dear friend called, very long essays. I had another friend who wouldnt drink her morning coffee until I posted my blog. She admonished me one morning for posting later than I usually did. She needed her coffee. I had many readers from all over the world who posted insightful comments both public and private. It was a great period.
Eventually I got tired of posting every Sunday and I needed a break. I posted a brief statement in early February 2016 saying that I was taking a hiatus until March 2016. When I came back in March instead of posting a blog I decided to post a YouTube video. I still didnt feel like writing but I had promised I would be back and as they say the show must go on. I used YouTube because I was too cheap to upgrade my website to post videos directly. It turned out being cheap would actually bring me much notoriety.
When I posted on YouTube I wasnt thinking in terms of people actually watching the videos on YouTube. I seriously thought people would only watch the videos on my website. What happened was that random people started commenting on the videos on the YouTube site. With the comments came subscribers. As the subscribers increased the demand for more videos came. It got to the point I stopped posting videos on my website and focused on the YouTube side of things. Even when I did that I still didnt get back to doing blogs. I simply replaced them with my now famous Sunday Morning Podcasts.
Now Im making a name for myself with my videos and podcasts. People from all over the world are watching and listening to me. This has increased the sales of the books I have currently in circulation. Life has been very good to me. Despite everything at my core Im still a writer. Im still happiest sitting at a computer writing about whatever is on my mind at that moment.
The book you are holding in your hand is a collection of my most popular blogs from April 2014 through September 2015. Starting with my most popular blog ever, Blowing it with Mr. Right, I address issues such as good men withdrawing from relationships, men who get multiple women, sexual subcultures, and my views on that thing called love.
One final note about the title and subtitle of this book. Ive used two titles for the blog. One title was Im Not Playing. The meaning was that I was giving it to people raw and unfiltered which led to me using a second title which was Raw Brotha. I felt it was appropriate to use both terms for this book.
Sit back, drink your favorite beverage, smoke a joint, which may be legal depending on which you live in, and enjoy reading my thoughts.
Blowing It with Mr. Right
April 12, 2014
Where are the good men? This is a universal question asked by millions of women. Whether in the news media, social media, living rooms, beauty salons, or bars, women want to find the good men. Men usually answer by saying, Im right here. Of course many women dont agree with the men. When you think about it there is a whole industry devoted to the concept that women have trouble finding good men. There is another angle to this that is rarely discussed publicly. The angle is that many women will have a good man and leave the relationship.
Now understand where Im coming from when I say women will leave a good man. Im not talking about a woman leaving some boring nice guy or an abusive asshole both of whom consider themselves good men. Im talking about women leaving men they consider to be Mr. Right. The women will have a great relationship and think highly of their men. The women will be happy. There will be minor problems that come up because both parties are human but nothing that cant be worked out. Thing is though the couple can be happy, there are outside forces that can destroy a good relationship. Let me give yall a scenario based on real-life conversations Ive had with hundreds of women and scores of men.
Freddie and Linda Doright have been married for five years with a young daughter. Everything is good in their marriage for the most part. They dont have the same excitement they had while dating but they still have a good time together. There are some things that could be improved. Freddie could be a little more romantic in Lindas eyes. Instead of communicating this with him she talks with her girlfriends, Betty, April, and Doreen. Her girlfriends are all single and have a tendency to bash men.
So they start getting in Lindas ear. They magnify everything Freddie isnt doing right. After a few months, they collectively tell Linda, girl you deserve better. Now Freddie is a hard worker, handsome, nice body, and committed to being a one-woman man. The sex life is even good. Yeah they could go out more but Linda never expresses her desire to do so. Freddie thinks everything is cool.
After listening to her girlfriends, Linda starts holding back on sex and minor things become major arguments. After one major argument she tells Freddie he needs to leave. So Freddie moves out and now they are separated. Her girlfriends come over to console her. After a few weeks they come over to take her on a girls night out. So theyre at the club having a good time and thats when HE walks up and introduces himself. Dexter. Dexter Goodbar. Six foot, drop dead handsome, muscular, a stylish dresser, with a sexy walk. Linda and her girlfriends had been checking out Dexter as he erotically danced with a woman on the dance floor. Dexter sees that he has been chosen and thus makes his move.
Dexter starts spitting that smooth game with that sexy voice. Getting Linda wet as he hits her with a verbal aphrodisiac and a piercing gaze. Next thing you know Linda is going home with Dexter. They get to his place and Linda says, You know I usually dont do this. Dexter looks at Linda, grabs her hand, pulls her to him and kisses her fiercely. Next thing you know the clothes are off and Dexter is doing her. Not just doing her but doing herWELL. Linda has several orgasms.
After a month of sex with Dexter, Linda decides to file for divorce. Shes convinced shes found her soulmate. She files the papers and tells Dexter.
