Rom Wills - Sexual Chemistry: Nice Guys And Players Level II

The evening began promising enough. David, an executive with a Fortune 500 company, went out on a date with Yvonne, a young attorney. David spared no expense for the evening. They went to dinner at a four star restaurant and then attended the hottest play in town. David planned the evening for weeks. He was very enamored with Yvonne who not only had brains but was also built like a dancer from a music video. His plan was to make love to her to cap off the evening. Yvonne had a great time at dinner and thoroughly enjoyed the play. At the end of the evening David suggested going back to his townhouse. Yvonne simply wanted to go home. David thought she wanted to have sex at her place. When they got there Yvonne thanked him for a nice evening and gave him a kiss on the cheek. She said shed call him in a couple of weeks. David is left standing at the door confused.

On the drive home David asked himself over and over again what went wrong. According to what he had heard and read, a man like him was what all women wanted. He had two degrees, made a six-figure salary, he drove a late model import automobile, and he had an expensive townhouse. On top of that he was considered handsome, he had a decent build, and he dressed well. He could not figure out what went wrong.

Yvonne on the other hand wondered why she didnt want to take things further with David. He had all the bells and whistles but there was something missing.

In this scenario everything was right except for one thing: David did not turn on Yvonne sexually.

A key component in a relationship between two individuals is sexual chemistry. In other words two people in a relationship can turn on each other sexually. For all the relationship books and videos on the market very few address the issue of sexual chemistry. The books that do address this issue usually do so either in a superficial way which turns out not to be very helpful or in a clinical way which takes the passion out of it. This book will address the issue of sexual chemistry differently from other books on the market.

So what is sexual chemistry?

Simply put, sexual chemistry is the process of arousing a member of the opposite sex. A persons body reacts to stimulus from another person. Their hormones and other body functions change to prepare their bodies for sexual intercourse. There will be changes in breathing and body temperature. In the man, blood will rush into the penis causing an erection and the womans nipples will become harder and her vagina will become wet.

Sexual chemistry, however, is more than body functions. Its how men and women react and respond to each other in everyday life. This book will explore this concept.

Many people will remember me for my first book: Nice Guys And Players: Becoming The Man Women Want. The premise for my first book was that women dont quite want a Nice Guy but they also dont want a Player. The best type of man for a woman is a man who combines the best qualities of the Nice Guy and the Player. Like a Nice Guy, a man needs to fulfill a womans emotional needs and also like a Player fulfill her physical needs. The purpose of my first book was twofold. The first purpose was to provide an idea about how men are perceived by women and also help women to see how they may categorize men. The second purpose was to help men develop into the type of man women find attractive. The reaction to the book was interesting in terms of who bought the first book.

A great number of women bought the book and except for a passage here and there agreed with what I had to say. Many women would buy additional copies for the men in their lives. A woman buying the book, however, was not that big a shock to me. The shock came in terms of the types of the men who bought the book. In the first book I stated that women break men into two general categories for dating: Select and non-select. Men in the select group are the ones most sought after for relationships by women. These men are generally handsome, well-built, charming, and have money. Men in the non-select group are the opposite. Further, I stated that in the select and non-select groups there are subcategories. In the select group there are the Mr. Goodbars and the Masked Men. Mr. Goodbars are those men who have raw sex appeal. They are generally handsome and well built. They also have a certain charisma which women find sexy. As I will discuss later, charisma is the most important factor. The Masked Man lacks the raw sex appeal of Mr. Goodbar but will make up for it in other ways. The Masked Man will be the one who has the status and the money. If a man doesnt have raw sex appeal, women will tend to pay attention to him if he has money and status.

The men in the non-select group are the Nice Guys and the Gamesmen. The Nice Guys are those men with good hearts but lacking in sex appeal and status. They usually have no problem becoming a womans friend but its extremely rare the relationship goes beyond being platonic. The Gamesman is the man who isnt even friendship material. He doesnt have the looks, the money, or the status. Most Gamesmen dont even try to relate to women. When they do, they have corny lines or some other type of trickery. A woman can usually see through the games but may deal with a particular Gamesman if she is bored or if she is desperate enough to believe she can change him into the man she wants.

When I wrote the book I honestly thought my biggest customers would be the Nice Guys. Man was I shocked. Through direct sales such as book signings and trade shows, as well as feedback from bookstore owners, comments on the Internet, and fan mail, I made some interesting observations as far as how the four categories of men responded to the first book. Men who fit into the Nice Guy category rarely purchased the book directly from me. Even in the situations when one did buy the book it was always an extremely hard sell. Most of the time they would complain about women. Also the main criticism about the first book came from Nice Guys. Men who were Gamesmen would tell me about how they get women. They would tell me that they already knew what was in the book. They also tended to be critical as well if they did buy it. The Masked Men would buy the book after a little salesmanship. If they had issues with women they kept it hidden behind their masks. Now the biggest surprise came with the men in the Mr. Goodbar category. These men didnt need the book. A few of the Mr. Goodbars gave the impression that they could have written a better book. The Mr. Goodbars were the men who bought the book the fastest! Most of the time they would look at the book and hand over money. Booksellers have told me the same thing. I honestly thought that the Mr. Goodbars would be the most critical and they turned out to be the most supportive.

I pondered this particular phenomenon and I believe that the reason the Mr. Goodbar types responded so favorably to the book was that it is their nature to confront their issues. This willingness to confront ones own issues is a powerful factor in sexual chemistry.