Schaumburg - Undefiled: redemption from sexual sin, restoration for broken relationships

The often quoted saying When the student is ready, the teacher will appear holds true in this recent work of Dr. Harry Schaumburg. The church of Jesus Christ is thoroughly enmeshed in one moral crisis after the other, and we have been in desperate need for a truly biblical answer to this crisis. Several thousand years ago, Job observed that Increased years should teach wisdom. It is evident that Dr. Schaumburgs years of experience and his commitment to a thoroughly biblical approach to dealing with this issue has produced a work that shines with penetrating light into the one of the darkest areas of 21st century Christian life. I commend this work as a handbook for study in every church, as a resource to every pastor who has or will face this matter in their ministry and as a diagnostic tool for personal evaluation of ones own life and walk. No pastors library should be without this wonderful tool. If Undefiled is taken seriously, it could produce a sea change in Christian behavior.

Bishop Joseph L. Garlington, Sr.
Reconciliation Ministries International

As the church awakens to the mushrooming challenges of sexual sin and temptation, this book is important. Not only does Dr. Schaumburg capture hearts through compelling narrative, he addresses the real issues head on. The author integrates a much needed biblical view of sex into the fabric of everyday faith. But most importantly, Dr. Schaumburg emphasizes the concept of sin, rather than the more typical categorization of sexual sin as disease. Because sin is thoroughly addressed here with the gospel of Jesus Christ, hope and power are present. Undefiled is substantial, but written in a way that people can comprehend. It is my prayer that this work will be widely readleading to understanding, repentance, and faith, and Gods blessing for people and families.

Joseph Wheat
Pastor, PCA

From a former client:

Before going to see Dr. Schaumburg, I was terrified. Not only had my world as I thought I knew it crumbled, but I was desperate for some answers to why my spouse had done these things: didnt he care about our marriage? Our family? What was so wrong with me that he had to go elsewhere? While reeling from the revelations, I faced the thought of what to do next: should we spend more money we didnt have on counseling that although was Christian hadnt helped in the past?

Now, as an alumni of Dr. Schaumbergs method, I can tell you that this book offers a real answer for the above questions facing so many broken marriages today. The real solution is not about the counseling, the recovery programs, and finding who to blame for ones behaviorwe tried those and they didnt bring true change. Dr. Schaumbergs method gets to the heart of the matter, literally. He guides each person to examine their own heart and see how it lines up with Gods will for their life, step by step, just as if you were going through his program. You will not be the same person you were if you read and follow the instructions in this book; in it you will find the keys to sexual redemption.

From a former client:

The resources Harry is making available to use in the local church will transform peoples hearts and minds. I am confident that the truth contained in these new resources will begin to shatter the strongholds that have held many captive for years. If more people are exposed to this truth, hopefully the tide of self-help can be stemmed and the tide of clean heart, clean mind can begin to grow.

2009 by
HARRY SCHAUMBURG

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Schaumburg, Harry W.
Undefiled: redemption from sexual sin, restoration for broken relationships/
Harry W. Schaumburg.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 978-0-8024-6069-1
1. SexReligious aspectsChristianity I. Title.
BT708.S29 2009
241.66dc22

2009014692

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To Rosemary,
with all my love

When I see you, when Im with you, when I touch you, my life and my soul find the greatest earthly joy.

Let marriage be held in honor among all,
and let the marriage bed be undefiled.
HEBREWS 13:4

Here are only a few of the many situations that need sexual redemption:

• You feel very alone in a marriage that has little satisfying intimacy
• Your husband treats you like a sexual toy or object
• Your wife has little interest in sexual intimacy
• You suspect that your mate is involved emotionally and/or physically with another person
• You cannot stop indulging in shameful sexual habits, such as Internet pornography, sex chats, frequent masturbation, or other disturbing activities

This book has two purposes. First, I want to present information based on Scripture and my counseling experience that will help you distinguish what is true and what is false in contemporary thinking about sexuality. Second, I want to guide you through a process of redemption that will help you face your sexual problems with courage, power, and spiritual insight. This process will take time as you progress through each chapter. The first eight chapters are important as they provide you with a foundation necessary for lasting change, a vital apprehension of the real problem, and practical resources for understanding and helping others. If you feel impatient, remember that this investment will pay off in the long run when you reach the later chapters.