131 Dirty Talk Examples
Learn How To Talk Dirty with These Simple Phrases That Drive Your Lover Wild & Beg You For Sex Tonight
Elizabeth Cramer
Copyright 2013 by Elizabeth Cramer
131 Dirty Talk Examples
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Introduction
The concept of dirty talk can elicit a variety of different reactions in a person, sometimes all at once. Some people think of the concept of dirty talk and giggle internally (or externally), others get embarrassed and start acting nervously like the person sitting across the way can tell exactly what they are thinking about, while still others get the anticipatory tightening of things low in the body, knowing that the juicy bits are about to come (pun intended).
Many people think about talking dirty, but few people ever talk about it. Its a deliciously taboo topic, even in todays free information society; while you can read about a friends every second of every day on Facebook, sex is a topic that few are comfortable discussing openly and in public; sure a person may tell their close friend about their latest escapades, but few will bring it up as part of a normal out in public conversation, unless euphemisms are used. Sex happens. Every minute of every day, someone somewhere is having sex, and many of those people are talking dirty to each other while theyre doing it.
There are others, though, who may want to spice up their love life with the addition of dirty talk, longing to hear certain words or phrases whispered, moaned, growled, or simply uttered but they just plain dont know how to get started. They may even be a little embarrassed to bring it up, because they fear how their partner will take it, thinking that oh, so and so doesnt think our sex life is good enough or worried about whether or not their partner will take them seriously or some other such nonsense.
But what we call dirty talk is just plain erotic, and theres no shame in wanting to hear softly moaned words, begging, pleading, or demanding. Theres the thrill that comes from the taboo, saying the words out loud, and theres the difference that comes from hearing your partner tell you want they want to do to you, and what you want them to do which can also work to ensure a more satisfying sex life, as it provides your partner with a look into your head, so that you can both get exactly what you want, when you want it.
How many times have you had a partner that did something that really detracted from your experience, like wearing nothing but their socks? Instead of telling them, loose them or this isnt happening, this too can be turned around, with something as simple as lose all the clothes; I want to see you completely naked. By saying exactly what you want, when you want it, you are able to enhance the experience for not only you, but your partner as well.
Men and women want to know that they are desired, and they both have their insecurities, whether they are worried that something is jiggling that shouldnt be, or something isnt jiggling that should. Every single person in the world has their own hang-ups, and with the proper wording, anyone can be assured that not only are they wonderful, and sexy, but that they are desirable for who they are as well.
The other thing to consider is that you are doing one of the most intimate things you can with another human being, and if you cant talk to them about what you want, you arent as close as you would like to be, or as you could be.
Why Dirty Talk Is Erotic
There are a few different reasons why dirty talk is erotic, and its not just because of the taboo surrounding it. Men like descriptions to go along with their visuals, and women like to imagine and fantasize; its just the way that the sexes are wired. Theres nothing strange, abnormal, or weird about it. Everyone has dirty thoughts, and like Mel Gibsons character found out in What Women Want theres a lot more going through our brains during sex that isnt verbalized.
The first thing to understand is that dirty talk isnt dirty. Theres nothing shameful or wrong about it, and once thats understood, it doesnt take away the feeling of taboo, due to the society that we live in today, but rather serves to enhance it; theres a feeling of Im saying these things out loud, and its okay, but theres also the feeling of Im so glad that (insert name of person here) cant hear me now; they wouldnt believe that these words are coming out of my mouth. If you dont like the phrasing dirty talk there are many different ways of phrasing it, like naughty talk for example.
Men and women are hard-wired differently. Men like to hear, while women like to visualize, and thats completely natural too. A man wants to hear what their partner wants done to them, or wants to do for them before its done. Hearing the words, screamed, moaned, whimpered, or whispered just flat out does it for most men. Women like to hear the words and imagine what those words or phrases will mean to them, how their partner will react, or how something will feel, even seconds or milliseconds beforehand, giving their brains time to process the possibilities, thus heightening the sensations.
In addition, it provides an additional feeling of closeness between the two parties, because you are not only sharing your bodies with each other at that point, but you are also sharing your thoughts, providing an even further melding than would otherwise occur.
Talking dirty isnt just about saying what one person wants to do to, or for, the other, but its also about encouragement, and about polite, yet sexy, redirection. One example of redirection was provided earlier, taking what could be an awkward and slightly emasculating statement and turning it into something that really serves to stroke theego of the other person. It works to make the other person feel more secure, and as a result, more confident, and more sexy, which in turn assures that the person is less stuck inside their own head and more right there experiencing what is going on, instead of worrying, fretting, or simply not being as into it as they could be.
Sex is wonderful, amazing, incredible, and mind blowing, and there is no reason that two people should not be able to talk openly and freely, if only between themselves, if nowhere else, about exactly what they want, how they want it, when they want it, while still feeling sexy, confident, and above all, desired by their partner.
How To Get Started
The first step in changing your ways, regardless of whether it is rearranging the furniture, talking to your boss about that promotion, or talking dirty to your partner is always the hardest. In order to make a change, a person must have several things, the desire to affect change, the drive to make it happen, and the follow through to do so, regardless of the change that is being made.
If youre not comfortable simply diving right in and trying a phrase or two, thats okay. Its natural to be a little shy, when although our society uses sex as a selling tool, its implied, rather than overtly stated. In some topics, it is far easier to imply than to have to state something, and this is one of those topics. Diving right in is not for everyone, but there are definitely ways to ease in slowly, going a little deeper, and pushing a little further each time.
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