Carlyle Jansen - Anal Sex Basics

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THE BEGINNERS GUIDE TO MAXIMIZING ANAL PLEASURE FOR EVERY BODY

Carlyle Jansen

TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE THAT THERE IS ALWAYS MORE POTENTIAL FOR PLEASURE, I HOPE THAT THIS BOOK EDUCATES, ILLUMINATES, AND INSPIRES YOU TO HONOR AND LOVE YOUR BUTT IN WHICHEVER WAYS YOU CHOOSE.

CARLYLE JANSEN

Welcome to your anal adventure. Whether you have experienced amazing anal pleasure already, you have had unpleasant previous encounters but are looking to try again with better success, or youre not so sure whether you actually want to take the anal plunge, this book will help you navigate your options and make the best decisions for how and how far you wish to proceed.

My sexual adventure started many years ago. At the time, I was not very comfortable with sex at all. My family did not discuss it, and when my class had a sex discussion at school in tenth grade, I was horrified to think that others might already be doing it. I wasnt ready to take the plunge into sex until I was twenty-one. Masturbation had not even been on my radar at that point. My first partner quickly learned that I was not able to orgasm. Once, my partner stopped what he was doing and asked me what I liked. Arent you supposed to know that? I replied. Gently, he suggested that it might be helpful if I knew a little more about my own body and about what brought me pleasure.

After two years of little success in finding orgasm on my own or with a partner, I gave up, resigning myself to the idea that some people are tall, others are short; and some can do math, others are better at art; and some can orgasm, others cant. I was fine with my nonorgasmic status until, several years and relationships later, I was dumped. My inability to orgasm was getting in the way of my relationships. A good friend suggested I try a vibrator, the Hitachi Magic Wand. It did the trick, and I was now part of the orgasmic club. Finally, I knew what the fuss was all about, and I decided it was high time I really learned about sex.

Living in Seattle at the time, I started my sexual awakening. I discovered the Body Electric School. Though the schools workshops were originally for men only, I attended the first of its sessions for women. There, I found boundless opportunities for and types of pleasure that I could explore. I was hungry for sexual knowledge and experience. Anal play was not a specific interest of mine, but it was on the menu so I decided to sample it.

Chester Maynard was the guru of anal play, and I was one of the many who had the privilege of attending a few of his workshops. During his lifetime, he passed along many amazing tips and techniques to those open to expanding their erotic repertoires and pleasure potential. He taught thousands of men and many women about enhancing anal pleasure. From him I learned how to give and receive anal pleasure in ways that I had never imagined were possible. He certainly expanded the definition of anal play beyond penis in butt.

Anal play is the fastest way to uncover someones emotional mind-set. This area of the body stores tension (hence the term anal-retentive as well as other sentiments). For some, anal play can arouse immense pleasure and other powerful (sometimes negative) feelings. Whether it is emotionally potent or just wildly fun, anal stimulation can lead to intimate, intense, and incredible erotic play.

Anal sex evokes a variety of connotations, assumptions, and reactionsnegative and positive. One might assume it merely means penis-in-butt sex. But according to Jack Morin, author of Anal Pleasure and Health (2010), anal intercourse is the least common form of anal pleasure most people engage in. More folks enjoy external play and the insertion of toys or fingers than insertion of a penis.

Weve been led to associate anal sex with pain; after all, its an activity in an area of the body weve been taught to stay away from since childhood. Often people fear infections, HIV, and AIDS as a result of anal play. My goal in this book is to help you move past these assumptions and associations with anal sex. Ill address these fears and misconceptions and offer a broader snapshot of the pleasures and possibilities of anal play. I hope that you will gain a more complete understanding of why folks enjoy it, how to play safely, and tips to make it a fantastic experience for everyone involved.

This book is for everybody and for everybody. Its written to include all bodies, sexes, genders, orientations, desires, and preferences. My goal is that you, no matter who you are, will feel that this book speaks to you. After all, the anus is the equal-opportunity orifice. Just about everyone has one. The principles and pleasures of anal play are very similar, no matter who you are. Anyone can find joy in his or her own or a partners anus.

Our Survey

In order to add a diversity of voices to this book, beginners and seasoned anal players were recruited to share their experiences with anal pleasure. Some were given an instructional DVD on anal massage by Erospirit and tested new toys, as well as reviewing any already in their collection. They were asked to comment on their experiences and preferences with toys, cleaning, preparation, cleanup and aftercare, positions, communication, prostate play, kink, and any advice that they wanted to pass on to you!

This is your opportunity to try new and exciting forms of pleasure. My hope is that you will be clear with yourself and your partner(s) about your intentions for engaging in anal play. Im here to help you with that! Communication is always an important skill for all aspects of relationships, but many of us dont feel confident in expressing our desires, fears, and reservations without creating disharmony in the relationship. Ill offer skills to help you communicate what you want, from initiating a conversation to the finer details of pleasure in the midst of anal passion! will offer you plenty of practical tools to help you craft conversations that lead to enjoying the anal sex you desire.