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KAMA SUTRA
FOR BEGINNERS
A COUPLE'S GUIDE TO SEXUAL FULFILLMENT
MICHELLE PAULI
WITH SYDNEY PRICE
Illustrations by
Emily Portnoi
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THE KAMA SUTRA
The kama sutra is the all-time classic guide to the art and skills of sex and love. Written between the fourth century BCE and the first century CE by a Hindu philosopher, Mallanaga Vatsyayana, the work was not translated into English until the 1880s, and then it was only distributed to a limited circle of enthusiasts, for fear of prosecution.
The kama sutra has now become a byword for extraordinary sexual positions, but Vatsyayanas treatise is far more than a simple sex manual. He offers us a thorough exploration of the science of pleasure as it was understood in the culture and society of his time for, as he tells us, pleasures are as necessary for the existence and well-being of the body as food.
The art of love
The kama sutra offers a holistic approach to the pleasurable life, from courtship and wooing to education and marriage. A disciplined life of enjoyment requires a cultivated body and mind, and Vatsyayana recommends the intellectual and artistic intereststhe 64 artsthat the well-rounded person of his day was expected to know.
He also teaches that lovemaking encompasses the spirit as well as the body and mind, that it touches something deeper than earthly pleasure, and should be treated as a sacramental and spiritual act.
Of course, not everything Vatsyayana wrote translates appropriately to our society today. Some of it seems sexist and even brutal to our modern-day sensibilities. It addresses only heterosexual, cisgender couples and does not acknowledge the possibility of other sexualities or genders. But the heart of the kama sutra, the art of living a life of pleasure and sensuality, and the essential human attributes it exploreslove, desire, vulnerability, intimacyspeaks as forcefully to us now as it did in fourth-century India. The power and beauty of heartfelt lovemaking can transcend all limitations of time and culture.
BODY, MIND, AND SOUL
"KAMA IS ENJOYMENT BY THE FIVE SENSES OF HEARING, FEELING, SEEING, TASTING, SMELLING, ASSISTED BY THE MIND TOGETHER WITH THE SOUL."
IN YOUR LIGHT I LEARN HOW TO LOVE. IN YOUR BEAUTY, HOW TO MAKE POEMS. YOU DANCE INSIDE MY CHEST, WHERE NO ONE SEES YOU, BUT SOMETIMES I DO, AND THAT LIGHT BECOMES THIS ART.
Rumi
CHAPTER 1
THE SENSUAL BODY AND MIND
Getting in the mood for love is a journey of the mind, body, and spirit, as you awaken every part of your being to the pleasures of sensual love. From wooing your lover to embracing, kissing, and tantalizing touch, prolonging the tension of the sexual buildup is an art in itself.
THE SENSUAL BODY
Awakening your body ready for the pleasures of lovemaking is a celebration of the joy of being a sexual being. Treating your body with reverence, loving it, and preparing it for lovemaking, is part of that celebration.
Feeling at home and comfortable in your body is a cornerstone of relaxed, uninhibited, andmost importantlyjoyful lovemaking. Many people find it difficult to love their bodies. There is always a part that is too big, too small, too wobbly, or, somehow, just not good enough.
Accept yourself
In order to befriend your body, you need to acknowledge its naturalness. Try to see it as part of the natural landscape. As a rule, you dont judge nature with a critical eye, deciding that mountain really should be smaller, or that meadow should be flatter. You accept nature as being just right as it is.
Do the same with your body. Look at it with a true lovers non-critical eye and recognize it as being perfect just as it ispart of the great natural order.
The kama sutra teaches that the body should be treated as a sacred object and that preparing the body for sexa sacred actrecognizes that reverence. A householder in Vatsyayanas time would take great care of their body, ensuring that it was ready for the sensual pleasures in store.
THE FEMININE DUTY
"WHEN ONE WANTS TO APPROACH THEIR PARTNER IN PRIVATE THEIR DRESS SHOULD CONSIST OF MANY ORNAMENTS, VARIOUS KINDS OF FLOWERS, AND A CLOTH DECORATED WITH DIFFERENT COLORS, AND SOME SWEET-SMELLING OINTMENTS OR UNGUENTS."
THE MASCULINE DUTY
"ONE SHOULD BATHE DAILY, ANOINT THEIR BODY WITH OIL EVERY OTHER DAY, APPLY A LATHERING SUBSTANCE TO THEIR BODY EVERY THREE DAYS, GET THEIR HEAD (INCLUDING FACE) SHAVED EVERY FOUR DAYS AND THE OTHER PARTS OF THEIR BODY EVERY FIVE OR TEN DAYS. ALL THESE THINGS SHOULD BE DONE WITHOUT FAIL, AND THE SWEAT OF THE ARMPITS SHOULD ALSO BE REMOVED."
Bathe in the elements
Cleansing before lovemaking is not just a matter of sexual hygiene, it also marks a change of mental state, washing away the cares of the day. As an alternative to showering with your lover, youll find bathing in nature, using natural elements, both refreshing and fun. Use whatever is around youstream, lake, or seato splash in with your lover. If you are in an arid landscape, use a bottle of drinking water to bathe your hands and feet. If you live in an urban area without ready access to nature, consider taking a walk with your partner in a nearby park, or even just through your neighborhood, taking time to notice any trees or flowers, before returning home for a bath.
Bathing can involve all the elements, not just water. If the weather is mild, have an exhilarating air bathtake off your clothes and feel the fresh air on your naked skin.
Try a fiery sun bath. Enjoy the nourishing energy of sunlight all over your naked body for a few moments before covering up or seeking the shade.
AWAKENING THE SENSES
The kama sutra revels in sensory pleasures: food, drink, scents, and music. Enlivening all your senses before lovemaking transforms it into a heightened experience of pure delight.