Table of Contents
This his and hers guide to oral sex is full of fresh ideas and innovative techniques that are guaranteed to heat things up in the bedroom (or the kitchen, or the car, or ... wherever the mood feels right!). Here are tips on:
Verbal seduction (aka dirty talk)
The art of the full-body kiss
The sexiest body-massage techniques known to man and woman
And, of course, mind-blowing oral sex
Don and Debra Macleod are the husband-and-wife authors of Lube Jobs: A Womans Guide to Great Maintenance Sex and The French Maid: And 21 More Naughty Sex Fantasies to Surprise and Arouse Your Man.
Acknowledgments
Thank you to Joel Fotinos and Sara Carder for continuing to support our work. Thanks also to everyone at Tarcher, including Katherine Obertance for her first-rate editing, and Laura Ingman and Jennifer Levy for their publicity work.
As always, we extend our gratitude and friendship to Susan Raihofer, the literary agent of any writers dreams. Your general brilliance and your ability to critique adult-rated proposals with such cool clarity, especially while riding the train, amaze us.
Introduction: The Mouth as a Sexual Organ
Gentlemen, ask yourselves a question: What is your biggest sex organ?
Wrong.
Believe it or notand eventually you will believe ita mans most powerful, female-friendly sex organ isnt front and center between his legs; its his mouth. Yes, yes, your penis is wonderful. The fullness of penetration and the friction of thrusting are feelings that most women find highly enjoyable. Yet theres a certain... um...attention to detail that only the mouth can deliver. The action of a mans tongue sliding over her clitoris or softly licking her labia can create intensely pleasurable sensations for a woman. If these actions are performed with skill, her pleasure is amplified.
Cunnilingus is an art, and as such it requires a certain amount of study and practice to be mastered. Lip Service makes it easy. Inside, youll find all the information you need to master the art of oral sex, including female genital anatomy and issues and questions surrounding the practice of cunnilingus (such as Why wont she relax? and How can I get her to trim herself?), as well as step-by-step practical techniques. Youll even learn how to modernize this ancient art by incorporating sex toys into your five-star performance.
Although cunnilingus is exquisitely pleasurable for a woman, the old bulls-eye approach to oral sexblindly targeting the clitoris while ignoring other high-score zonesdoesnt always get a womans rivers flowing. After all, even the most delicious meal tastes better when preceded by an appetizer: It awakens the taste buds and builds anticipation for the mouthwatering main course. In the same way, foreplay is needed to seduce and adequately arouse a woman before your tongue can dish out its pleasure.
Foreplay comes in two forms in Lip Service. The first is verbal seduction. From sweet nothings to sinful somethings, youll learn what, when, and how to say the things that will turn your woman on and make her eager for intimacy. Full-body kissing is the second form of foreplay. It is the ultimate erotic activity with which to seduce and arouse a woman, and its guaranteed to hit the mark every time. As your mouth moves all over her body, lavishing kisses, licks, and sucks all over her bare skin, shell melt into a highly sensual state where her mind and body can fully receive all the pleasures of cunnilingus. Lip Service teaches you how to perfect the art of full-body kissing by focusing on a womans erogenous zones and concentrating on the kissing styles, techniques, and patterns that will best stimulate each erotic hot spot.
So, gentlemen, kudos to you for spending some time between the pages of this book. Take our word for it; its time well spent. Not only will you become the lover of your womans dreams, but youll most likely reap some giant rewards yourself. For once your woman discovers what your mouth is capable of, shell be eager to return the favor.
The Art of Verbal Seduction
In case you havent noticed, women are verbal creatures. They easily talk two or three times as much as menand thats on a quiet day. Add some kind of noteworthy eventanything from juicy girlfriend gossip to your chronic fashion failingsand shell set out on a speaking spree thatll blow your mind if it doesnt blow your ears first. But it isnt all bad. Dont you appreciate the solitude when shes behind closed doors on hour two of a four-hour girl-talk call? Theres an upside to everything.
Perhaps the biggest upside of a womans love of language is the potential to exploit her passion for sexy purposes. Lusty language can be libido-enhancing for women and, if well spoken, a wonderful way to use your mouth as a sexual organ. That being said, dirty talk is a dialect that the fairer sex may require some time to get comfortable hearing. If you want to use it, youll have to work up to it.
Temperature and Timing
When it comes to women, dirty talk is a question of degreesprecisely how hot does she like it?and a man must carefully raise the temperature of his words until his partner feels drawn to the heat but doesnt get burned. Timing is another important factor that, like the temperature, must be just so before a woman will respond to dirty talk. Even the warmest words will cool off if theyre served too soon. For the man who wants to incorporate dirty talk into his and his partners sex life, the challenge is selecting the words and phrases that will best appeal to his woman and then speaking them at those moments she will be most receptive. This takes a little thought and a little more practice.
The Devils in the Details
If your woman is like most, her day is full of a thousand details. Theres the stress of her job, the piles of laundry on the floor, the kids homework, the stack of bills on the counter, the phone calls she has yet to return, and so on and so forth. Its true what they say: A womans work is never done. Chances are good that even when her head hits the pillow, her mind will still be racing: Did she program the coffee maker? What will she make for the kids lunch tomorrow? Was Wednesdays important meeting scheduled for eleven a.m. or one p.m. ?
Many women find these types of distractions very difficult to let go of. Worse, theyre passion slayers when they follow her to bed. Any sparks of sexual interest or arousal she may have had earlier in the day or evening are most likely long gone by the time she actually crawls between the sheets, effectively snuffed out by her own preoccupied thoughts. And what if her man tries to talk dirty or initiate sex while she is in this unsexy frame of mind? Well, lets just say his chances of success arent exactly stellar.
Sometimes, a man will interpret his womans apparent lack of sexual response as a personal rejection and simply roll over and go to sleep. This interpretation isnt just unflattering, its often inaccurate. Your timing may just be off, and your lady may just need a gentle push to make the transition from a demanding workday to a naughty nightlife. Instead of resigning yourself and her to a sexless state, why not put in some extra effort and try to reignite her libido? A tuned-in lover who is dedicated to his partners pleasure can help a woman move from distraction to desire in a surprisingly short time.
