Michael Karp - The Guide to Great Sex: How to Get Better in Bed and Take Your Sex Life to the Next Level

DISCLAIMER (DO NOT SKIP THIS)

I am not a doctor, sex therapist, or trained professional in sexual health. I am a former sex columnist who took it upon himself to read and learn as much as he could about sex and sexuality and who seeks fulfillment in his sex life by practicing this knowledge.

The advice given in this book is a mixture of research I have done, my personal experience, and my unique view on this aspect of life. It is a guide , meaning that it is up to you to decide whether some or all of this information should be applied to your own sex life. I truly believe that this book can help anyone achieve better sex, no matter how much experience they have. But I am not a professional, and will not be held accountable for any adverse outcomes of practicing what I have written here.

In the end, you are the final decision maker, and you hold total responsibility in your sex life.

Legal Notice

This guide assumes that all readers are, or will be, participating in legal and consensual sexual activity, and the examples are presented under the same assumption. The Purchaser or Reader of this publication assumes responsibility for the use of these materials and information. Adherence to all applicable laws and regulations, federal, state, and local, or any other jurisdiction is the sole responsibility of the Purchaser or Reader. The Author and Publisher assume no responsibility or liability whatsoever on the behalf of any Purchaser or Reader of these materials.

CopyrightMichael Karp, 2015. All Rights Reserved.

No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, mechanical or electronic, including photocopying and recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the publisher.

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

G LO SSARY

*Refer to these definitions whenever certain terms become confusing or unclear*

Partner For the purposes of this book: Sexual or romantic partners relating to casual sexual relationships, one-night stands, committed relationships, or any sexual partnership between two human beings.

Stimulation Any deliberate action done with the purpose of providing pleasure.

Fellatio Oral stimulation of the penis (Merriam-Webster).

Cunnilingus Oral stimulation of the vulva or clitoris (Merriam-Webster).

Vagina The passage leading from the uterus to the vulva (Dictionary.com).

Vulva The external genitals of those with a vagina, including the outer/inner lips, vaginal entrance, and clitoris.

Clitoris A small erectile organ at the anterior or ventral part of the vulva homologous to the penis (Merriam-Webster). A ball of tissue located at the north end of the vulva where the lips come together. Typically said to be the epicenter of all pleasure for people who have vaginas.

Clitoral Shaft Attached to the head, and running just beneath the surface of the skin, the clitoral shaft can be easily felt, especially when aroused and filled with blood. A soft little pipe, the shaft is composed of spongy erectile tissue that is extremely receptive to sensation (She Comes First, Ian Kerner, Ph. D.) Area above the head of the clitoris.

Inner/Outer Lips The labia minora and labia majora of the vulva. Become engorged with blood during arousal and are sensitive to stimulation.

Vaginal Entrance Entrance to the vagina from the vulva, filled with pleasurable nerve endings.

G-Spot A cluster of nerve endings located on the roof about 2 inches into the vagina. Often said to be a part of the clitoral network (related to the clitoris in providing pleasure.)

Clitoral Crura Two legs of the clitoral network which extend down both sides of the inner part of the vagina. Said to be related to clitoral, vaginal, and anal stimulation.

Perineum Area of skin between the genitals and anus. Responds pleasurably to massage as it contains nerves that correlate directly to both the penis and the vagina/vulva.

Penis Reproductive organ consisting of a shaft, head, and testicles.

Head of the penis Sensitive mass of tissue that forms the tip of the penis.

Shaft The main body of the penis.

Testicles Two organs located in a sack below the penis.

Prostate A gland responsible for the production of fluid which adds to semen. Contains nerve endings which make it pleasurable when stimulated. It is analogous to the nerve ending cluster of the G-Spot.

The Art of the Transition Deliberate transition from one move to another in relation to one s sexual flow.

Sexual Intuition When you instinctively know what you want to do next in the bedroom and how to do it. An understanding of what is happening between the sheets as it happens in real time.

Multitasking Adding in subtle pleasurable acts that lead to huge differences in the bedroom. Combining these acts with another sexual activity, usually involving the stimulation of the genitals.

The Balance of Dominance/Submission Balance between the dominant and submissive characteristics of both partners. Relates to each other s sexual tendencies.

Sexual Values What one values in the bedroom in relation to the standards they hold themselves to and what they value in sexual partners. Examples are communication, safety, trust, comfort, etc.

Sexual Compatibility How well two people match together on a sexual level. How well your sexual desires, biology, and values fit together with your partner. Can be something you intuitively feel, but it can also be raised and nurtured.

PREFACE

If you re like me, you grew up hearing things like, Wait until you are married to have sex or Sex only happens between two people who love each other or Here are all the terrible consequences of having sex: STI s, unwanted pregnancy, rape, etc.

I don t know about you, but growing up learning about sex this way gave me a pretty jaded view of the entire act. It made me ashamed to express my sexual desire and to see myself as a sexual person. In a society that markets sex everywhere, and with peers talking about it constantly, it became a frustrating area of my life.

Luckily, I went to a university with an open sexual environment. I made supportive friends who helped me see the bright side of sex I had never been introduced to before. Eventually, in my final semester, I became the the University newspaper s sex columnist.

I studied sex as much as, if not more than, my major for the entire semester. I began understanding how to make it a more positive aspect of my life, instead of an area that caused me stress and anxiety.

I created this guide to help other people achieve the same thing. I believe that sex is a fundamental need of human beings, and that this need lies on a physical, emotional, and spiritual level.

It s important stuff.

I m assuming that if you are reading this guide, it s important to you too.

This guide is a combination of what I have read, what I have learned, and what I have experienced as I navigated and continue to navigate the sexual unknown.

What will we be discussing here? I am going to explain everything I know about living a healthy sex life and how to achieve it yourself: