After getting divorced in 2012, I was afraid that I would become the male equivalent of a cat lady in ten years. Neither particularly tall nor conventionally handsome, I epitomized the average 30-year old man. I ate healthy and exercised regularly, but looked nothing like a Mens Health cover model. I had a decent job, but was not rich by any means. I could crack a joke or two, but was never funny or charismatic enough to command an audience. Still unsure about what made one of the most beautiful women I had ever seen stay with me for ten years, I did not have a clue as to how I was going to attract equally good-looking women in the future.
The last time I asked a woman out on a date, I sent her an instant message via AOL Instant Messenger. Ten years later, I felt overwhelmed. Now, I had to master online dating, meeting women at bars and clubs, and flirting with them via text messages. Aware that I had to play catch-up in a major way, I hit on 148 women in 11 months. Although I had fun with 40 of these women, I was rejected 104 times!
Determined to get rejected less often, I spent five months tinkering with variables including but not limited to style, grooming, social proof, preselection, and social status. Following this period of strategic experimentation, I began presenting myself to women and interacting with them according to a set of specific guidelines. As a result, I seduced 59 of the 71 women I approached in three months. All but one of these women were thin, pretty, and in their twenties. My experiences with three of these women, a former Miss India, a Thai actress, and a Vietnamese lingerie model, squashed my doubts about finding someone as attractive as my ex-wife.
Dating attractive women is an endeavor fraught with rejection for the average Joe. No wonder, some men do almost anything to keep women from rejecting them. Often, men tell lies, allow themselves to be taken advantage of, and even commit to long-term monogamy because they dont want to have to deal with rejection over and over again. Thankfully, there are ways to put major dents in the likelihood of facing rejection.
I wrote this book to help men make those dents. Following the advice dispensed in this book will help you improve your interactions with women both offline and online so much that you will encounter rejection a lot less frequently. As long as you are willing to put in the required effort, you will see impressive results. I guarantee it.
Ch . 1 - Introduction
Like me, youre probably not particularly tall, handsome, rich, or charming. Still, most women dont consider you unattractive. In fact, you've probably never struggled to meet women. But, whether you hit on them at bars and clubs or on internet dating sites, you encounter rejection far more often than you would like. In addition, women tend to flake on you after giving you their digits way too often for your liking. Despite facing these problems, you boldly pursue the women that you desire. After all, shouldn't the average man expect to get rejected fairly often if he only approaches beautiful women?
Not too long ago, I also accepted rejection as part of the package. Afraid that I would become the male equivalent of a cat lady, I hit on 148 women in 11 months. Encountering rejection 104 times forced me to understand what women want in a man. Five months of experimentation made me realize that even the most attractive women would not reject me if they considered me to be a man who was masculine, a high-ranking member of society, and most importantly, sexually attractive to other attractive women. It also became clear to me that a woman was far less likely to reject me if I maintained a fun, confident, and open vibe during my interactions with her.
Following the five months of strategic experimentation, I hit on 71 women in three months while adhering to a set of guidelines. The guidelines helped me avoid rejection and seduce 59 of the 71 women I approached, including an Indian beauty queen, a Thai actress, and a Vietnamese lingerie model. What if you tried to pick up women in bars and clubs, and on online dating sites, while following my guidelines? What would you do if you became unrejectable?
Knowing that you are unlikely to get rejected will make you much more likely to approach someone who catches your eye on the street, at the gym, online, or on the dance floor. If you talk to a lot more women, you are bound to have a lot more fun. At the same time, the more women you talk to, the better the chances of your finding one to spend the rest of your life with. So, would you seduce a plethora of beauties or would you search for your soul mate?
Regardless of your intent, this book will transform your love life. Following the aforementioned guidelines, which are discussed in the subsequent chapters, will help you understand how to attract women in bars and clubs, how to pick up women on OkCupid.com and Match.com, and how to text girls after getting their digits. Consequently, your interactions with women both offline and online will improve so much that you will encounter rejection a lot less frequently.
Following my recommendations will not always be easy for you. You will need to be bold, resourceful, determined, and opportunistic. You might need to invest a substantial amount of time and effort to reinvent yourself into a man who is very desirable to women. Since Im being honest about the work you have to put in, let me also be honest about the rewards you can expect to receive.
Ch . 2 - What being unrejectable feels like
It was 9:50 on a Saturday night, but I kept typing at a furious pace. The barista asked me if I wanted to order anything else. I told her I was all set. Before I could resume typing, she gently tapped me on my shoulder. Sawasdee kha! Sorry sir, but we close in ten minutes, she said, while flashing a mischievous smile. Smiling back at her, I said Kho tot! Ill pack up in a minute. But, tell me something - how is your English so good? She blushed. You teach me English and I will teach you Thai. Deal?, I asked her jokingly. While she giggled, I handed her my iPhone. After she programmed her phone number into it, I talked to her for a few more minutes before heading back home.
I reached my studio at about 10:45 pm. The dressy jeans, button-down shirt, and skinny tie I wore during my lunch date with the English teacher from France still looked decent on me. Considering how quickly that lunch became a makeout session, perhaps it was best for me to not change clothes. I grabbed a bottle of water and walked out the door towards the elevator.
Levels was only a 30-minute taxi ride away from my apartment. Shortly after I arrived at the club, Servane called me, telling me in her french-accented English that she was only a few minutes away. I walked over to the bar by the elevator and ordered a gin and tonic. With a drink in one hand and my iPhone in the other, I leaned back against the bar, watching people get on and off the elevator.
Its because hes American! They do everything too fast. I quizzically stared at the woman who made this ridiculous statement. The moment I looked at her, I recognized her as the actress from the absurd Thai soap opera that the concierge at my apartment building loved to watch. She looked even more beautiful in person.
Are you American?, she asked me. Yeah, but I dont do everything fast. Some things are just more enjoyable when done nice and slow, I responded, with a smirk on my face. She looked me up and down, locked eyes with the scrawny man holding her purse, and asked me if I wanted to accompany them to Silom. Ten minutes had passed since her phone call, but Servane had still not arrived.