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ATTRACT WOMEN:

GET YOUR EX BACK

Learn the real reasons why your partner left you. Follow my proven and effective methods to repair a broken marriage or relationship. Most importantly, learn how to become a stronger version of yourself and ultimately decide if YOU want THEM back.

Introduction: Why People Disappear From Your Life

For a relationship to be successful and work long term, a man has to be a man and a woman has to be a woman. Its absolutely essential that the sexual polarity between the two of you, remains balanced. In simple terms this means that as a man you must be masculine and she must be feminine. Women want men to be the leader, they want to feel your strength and your masculinity. They want a guy thats confident and successful, they want to see you breaking through barriers and most of all, they want you to be happy in your own skin. At the beginning of a relationship a woman will do the majority of the pursuing, texting and calling, because this is how its supposed to be shell be the one chasing you essentially, which is feminine energy. If you just hang back, concentrate on your goals and career etc. and you give her time to wonder about you and you only contact her to organize the next date, shell become more and more attracted to you. A woman needs to feel that youre worthy of her, this is how shes able to feel comfortable opening up to receive you. They want the guy to lead the relationship, this helps them to develop desire and strong emotions for you.

Confidence breeds success and if you dont have confidence, its likely that youll talk women right out of liking you by demonstrating weak, needy and insecure behavior. Men that arent sure of themselves, they dont value themselves, they have a low self-esteem and lack of confidence, they arent going to be able to demonstrate their worthiness to a woman through their actions. Even if you do everything right at the beginning of the relationship, if you lose your way and she senses that you arent worthy of her anymore through your actions, shell lose all romantic interest and her attraction level to you will plummet. Men that behave this way will naturally become possessive, controlling and generally make her the leader by acting like the woman of the relationship which makes her feel unsure of herself. Whats happening here is that the sexual polarity between the two of them has become so unbalanced that shes acting like the man and hes acting like the women. If you always ask her what she wants to do shes going to become frustrated, because decision making is something that the leader does and the only reason a guy wants the woman to make the decisions is because he would rather please her than himself, which is total beta-male behavior. Women cannot respect a guy that doesnt respect himself, she needs to feel his strength, his masculinity and his leadership. This isnt to say that she cant have a say in anything, its setting up dates and trips etc. to have fun, she wants you to organize those things and be romanced. At the end of the day, a woman wants you to make the decisions and all she wants to do is look beautiful and have fun doing whatever youve planned. If youve displayed weak behavior in the past, then youve probably heard your partner say something like Im unsure of how I feel. This can be very frustrating as you really cant pinpoint what youve done wrong.

At the beginning of a relationship, we always tend to make the effort and put our best foot forward to impress one-another. We appear more confident and outgoing; our self-esteem appears higher and we dont take any bullshit. But what tends to happen to the guys that put all this on as a front, is that a couple of months down the line they slowly begin to reveal who they really are. They get comfortable, become complacent and they begin to show what theyre really all about. The short story here is, before you even get into a relationship you need to do the necessary work on yourself so that youre happy in your own skin, you love yourself and your life. You must get to the point where youre complete as a man and you want not need a woman in your life to share your completeness with. You need to be able to give to another without wanting or needing anything in return, you must become the strongest version of yourself. To be happy, feel complete and valid in your own world, you need to be breaking through barriers, you need to be achieving goals and succeeding this is what truly makes us feel alive! You need to be happy in every area of your life.

If you had a bad start in your childhood, had bad experiences or bad parenting, its your job to do the work on yourself necessary to change your story, to build your confidence and to get on the path that you really want to be on to get whatever you want in life. Because if you dont, youre going to be miserable, depressed, resentful and angry and if youve ever been around anybody like that, you know they arent a joy to be around. When guys are miserable, depressed and have nothing going on in their life theyre going to look to find happiness in other people. This is dangerous because until you get your shit together, no matter who you attract or how you act in the early stages of a relationship, at some point youre going to unravel the real you and youll get rejected. So, basically what happens is, a guy finds a woman to fill the pot holes in his life with her presence so she becomes his happiness, which in turn gives him validation in his own world. And when the relationship ends because of his weak behavior and the woman leaves him, shes basically taking his happiness with her also.

When youre successful and you build a career, or youre advancing at your work place or whatever it may be, its going to make you feel alive thats what progress is. Success will give you validation, itll make you feel confident because success breeds success. So, imagine a guy that has his life in order, he has a girlfriend and something happens and he loses her. Hes not going to be completely down in the dumps because he had success and happiness in other areas of his life before he even met her and thats what made him feel valid in the past. Compare him to the first guy that has nothing going on in his life and his girlfriend walks away. Shes taking his validation and his perceived success away with her, so hes left feeling how he always felt before he met her. This is such a bad way to go, its why its so important to focus on yourself and get your shit together so that you feel validated on your own and happy in your own skin so that you dont need anybody else to complete you. No woman can fill that gap of unhappiness because its only temporary. Put yourself in her position, she may feel like if she left you, youd do something dreadful and its not fair on her to be carrying around that kind of guilt. Its a scary position for a woman to be in because depending on the type of woman and her morals, she can feel trapped and stay in the relationship a lot longer than shed like.

If your successful it shows in every aspect of your life. If your unhappy in your job and in every other area of your life the opposite effect happens, itll show in your body language and your attitude. Typically, youll be slumped over and have a lot of pent up aggression and frustration which youll look to take out on somebody else. Like mentioned above, you can only mask who you are for a certain period, but at some point, youll lose your way, the act will wear thin and youll reveal who you really are. Its all about finding happiness in your own life first. Before you can have a fun, loving and successful relationship, you need to be at the point where youre happy to have somebody in your life but you would be just as happy on your own. You must go into a relationship to give, without expecting anything in return which is what love is all about. Too many men look to be mothered, they tell their partner all their problems, their lack of desire, lack of motivation, lack of self-worth, whatever it may be, but all this does is it turns her off. A woman needs to feel your strength and masculinity, you should be her rock, not the other way around. Its okay to lean on her if youre in a serious crisis, but in general you must display masculinity and leadership, if she sees that your weak and you make her the man, shell lose respect for you and when a woman loses respect for you itll only go down-hill from there. As a man, you must have desire, drive and a passion for life because if you dont youre going to be a drag to be around. If youre feeling a little low and lack motivation for whatever reason and you need a kick up the arse to kick-start your engine, then discuss your problems with your friends, let them feel your weakness and give you a pep talk to motivate you, dont communicate weakness to your woman.