Christopher Trow - Erectile Dysfunction: natural cure for impotence, premature ejaculation and sexual performance: Learn how to exercise your penis to overcome performance anxiety, naturally

Erectile dysfunction (ED) is quite a delicate subject and many men shy away from opening up to discuss their problem. ED is very common, in fact over 18 million men in the US are affected by ED, but yet other estimates say the number is almost double the amount.

Its common to experience ED as you age and many men will experience it at some point or another, although chronic or long term ED isnt considered normal.

Erectile dysfunction also known as impotence, happens when a man cannot maintain or obtain an erection which stops him from having full sex, being able to perform or last in bed.

There are many factors that go into a healthy erection, such as the bodily systems hormones, blood vessels, nervous system, the brain, emotions and muscles. If a problem interrupts any of these areas, it can cause impotence.

Lets look at what can contribute to ED:

• Heart disease
• High blood pressure
• High cholesterol
• Prostate cancer
• Enlarged prostate
• Damaged pelvic floor muscles
• Anxiety
• Insufficient sleep
• Sedentary lifestyle
• Depression
• Diabetes
• Obesity
• Damaged nerves
• Blocked blood vessels
• Low testosterone
• Medications
• Hard drugs
• Smoking
• High alcohol consumption

There are a lot of factors that result in ED but the two most common are stress and anxiety and its important to note that these two contribute to high blood pressure and cholesterol.

Although a small amount of stress and anxiety is good for motivation, if it builds up and becomes prolonged over time it can cause unwanted responses in your body, impotence being one of them. When a man experiences impotence it increases his stress response, this can lead to anxiety and even depression which makes the effects of ED even worse.

If you experience ED then its likely that youll experience performance anxiety which of course can produce even more stress. Men often focus too much on satisfying their ego by making sure their partner is satisfied rather than themselves. In most cases men are too proud to talk to their partner or seek professional help to discuss their problem and may even try to avoid sex altogether which can put a major strain on your relationship, or your confidence if youre single.

Stress management is key here and its likely that youve identified stress and anxiety to be the main cause of your ED. Although this could be the case, its still wise to go and visit your GP in case any of the above are contributing also. As well as a visit to the doctors, counselling and psychotherapists can be of great help to your concerns.

Dont suffer in silence about ED, as soon as you talk to your GP the sooner they can identify the problem or contributing factors and the sooner you can return to full sexual function.

Lets look at the common treatments for ED

• Penis exercises
• Blood vessel surgery
• Testosterone therapy
• Prescription medicine
• Injections
• Penis pump
• Quit smoking
• Reduce alcohol consumption
• Weight loss
• Sexual anxiety/psychological counselling

Performance anxiety is one of the biggest contributors to ED. This can cause constant worry, or dreading of sexual encounters, some men may even try to avoid sex all together.

Lets look at what men fear the most during sex:

• Getting an erection
• Keeping an erection
• Worried that they cant satisfy their partner
• Fear that their penis is too small
• Fear that partners exs penis is bigger than theirs
• Premature ejaculation
• Self-conscious about their image

Statistics show that most men worry about the above but many men can experience anxiety just through watching excessive porn. They put way too much pressure on themselves and think women have all these ridiculous expectations. They worry about things such as comparing their penis to a porn stars penis, they think they need to give their partner 5 orgasms each time they have sex and that they need to go at it for over an hour. Its easy to lose touch of reality when you get invested in porn, seeing a woman screaming at the top of her lungs pretending to roll around in ecstasy, but this isnt the real world, its pure fantasy.

In some cases it can come down to wanting to feel validated, you may have insecurities by perfecting the sexual act on your partner and you put way too much pressure on yourself to perform because you think this factors into the relationship and thats what you have to do to keep her.

It could even be due to past sexual experiences youve had. Sex is supposed to be exciting, passionate and joyful, not a time for worry, stress and anxiety. Men often see sex as some kind of goal they have to achieve to please their partner but this is essentially exercising your ego, its not really enjoyment. Sex should come from a place of intimacy and sharing of sexual pleasure, how better would sex be if you felt you were never being judged? Men have these expectations that can create all types of anxieties that dont necessarily matter. You should never look at sex as a task, its all about pleasure for you and your partner.

Lets look at methods to overcome performance anxiety

• Learn stress managemen t stress from work, relationships or family can severely affect your performance so learn to manage your anxieties.
• Learn how to release stress find ways to release stress such as, working out, yoga, meditation, a hot bath, long walks, whatever works.
• Block negative thoughts bring your attention to the way you think during sex as this can be your biggest turn off. Dont judge yourself, relax and enjoy the pleasure. You can also practice this outside the bedroom to maximise confidence.
• Deep breathing deep breathing or controlling your breathing slows down your heartrate that increases due to anxiety. Slowing your heart rate down allows you to relax and focus.
• Talk about it talking to a GP, a close friend, member of family or even your partner can help manage your anxiety and help you feel more comfortable.
• Enjoysex sex is supposed to be about pleasure, focus on the sensations you like, what you want from sex and what your partner wants or likes. Share each others fantasies.
• Dont focus on getting an erection too often men that have anxiety towards sex, as soon as they get an erection they put pressure on their partner to rush into it and get it in there so to speak. There is no need for this pressure, if you get an erection, fine thats okay, this means youre turned on, you dont need to rush into anything. One of the biggest things men stress out about, is when they are fooling around with their partner, they have taken their clothes off but they arent erect. Dont worry if youre not completely erect when youre taking your clothes off, dont let new or past fears stop you from enjoying sex. You cant let anxiety over power you, focus and tell yourself you want to use your erection, you can control your anxiety, dont let it control you.
• Dont rush try to relax and enjoy what youre doing, get into a flow there is no reason to rush to the finish line.
• Healthier lifestyle sleep is one of the most important tools to a healthy sex life. Exercise is great to get the blood flowing, this along with a healthy diet can greatly improve the blood flow to your penis. Plus seeing your body imagine change will improve your confidence overall.